2007-02-03 16:28:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why are you looking for love outside your marriage? Did you not make a vow to yourself, and your spouse, before your family, friends, and God to love and cherish each other, as long as you both shall live? Do your vows mean nothing? Were they only words? I guess I don't understand how people cannot be absolutely committed to their marriages.
2007-02-03 16:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucinda are you sure that what you have found is really love? If yes then it means that your marriage was loveless, or at least you do not love your spouse. In this case Honey, please take a really hard look at this from all angles...if you have kids, just forget everything and stick to your marriage. No kids! Than read further...can the new guy give you better than what you have? Is making a change really worth hurting innocent people like hubby, his people, friends etc.? If you can honestly answer yes to these questions using your mind and not your heart...then and only then end your marriage.
2007-02-04 07:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should end the relationship not the marriage. You made a covenant before God to love your spouse through thick and thin. Anything else is a sin. Unless your spouse has commited adultry, you are supposed to stay with that person. I know that is probably not what you wanted to hear, but this is what the Bible says. God never wants us to be miserable either though. If your spouse is abusive you shouldn't be with that person. It's crazy because I got married and my husband was mentally, physically, and emotionally abusive, I stayed and was a very loyal and submissive wife but I was miserable in every sense of the word. I prayed and asked God for strength. I asked him to please touch my husband and change him into a better person or if it was a mistake, to please give me an escape route. My husband and I are now divorced because he cheated and got the other woman pregnant.
2007-02-03 16:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please if you have found true love ,then you had no love for your wife ,be fair to her let a wonderful man have your wife's love ,I'm sure she will be much happier because there is no way you can be much to her right now ,let her go free .A lession I had to learn what goes around comes around so be sure this woman that had no respect that you was married what does that say about her morals .this is just my feelings I respect another persons marriage ,and leave it alone .Good luck I feel for your wife she most likely loves you more than this new woman does .
2007-02-03 16:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to take heed to this. i'm no longer an authority yet i've got study a e book approximately Love and appreciate. It stated: guy desires appreciate whilst lady desires love. quickly, if we don't appreciate our adult males, then they gained't respond with love. i'm no longer attempting to be a wellbeing care provider or counsellor, and that i think relatively sorry for you my costly sis. What i will in basic terms say is, may be he has a lot of grievances in the previous that he would not even prefer to teach his love in direction of you presently? he's detaching himself simply by fact he famous it extra gentle being on his very own, and/or he might desire to apply it as a thank you to teach his anger. is there any risk to bypass to be sure a church man or woman - there are too many stuff in a marriage that choose forgiveness. regardless of the previous, if we are able to leave those at the back of and forgive one yet another (do no longer placed one yet another on the dimensions, forgiveness would not artwork this manner), we are able to flow forward. i've got faith all of us became into born with God's character, i.e. love and kindness. If he's chickening out his love for you, there's a controversy right here (with you the two). i think of marriage counselling or scientific care will artwork on the outset, yet deep interior his/your heart, you choose forgiveness and healing. God bless and take care.
2016-10-01 09:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you find love outside of marriage? You should be commited to your spouse. A relationship outside of your marriage should never get past friendship.
2007-02-03 16:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
which ever person makes you happy in the long run. honestly love is not enough. so life is too short to be worried about hurting peoples feelings. if your marriage is sour then why not but remember that when u got married u vowed to accept that person for better or worse so technically u entered that contract saying that no matter what. u will stay with her. so there is two things to think about your happiness or your word...
2007-02-03 16:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Desire` 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont have an affair. my dad had an affair 10 years ago and my mom still cries over it. Don't hurt the one you first loved. Maybe seek some marriage counseling? talk to your wife? see what you want and what your wife wants. marriage is a commitment and it takes work. sometimes it takes a lot of HARD HARD HARD work. if you truely love your wife you'll be willing to work at it though.
2007-02-03 17:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship with the person your cheating on your spouse with. Because sex outside of marriage is WRONG!!!!
God created sex to be between a husband and wife AFTER marriage.
The problem is people think itimacy is sex and get it confused.
2007-02-03 16:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is not always greener on the other side. you need to really think about what your doing. dont make a mistake that will cost you and your spouse and kids if you have them alot of heartache. Is it Lust or Love???
2007-02-03 16:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋