2007-02-03 16:21:19 · 44 answers · asked by prettygirly323 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
If you're questioning this, and asking us, then the answer would be "NO". Play it safe.....do it when you're ready, not because it's romantic.
Think of it this way, if you do it and it was a bad experience, then you will forever remember Valentine's Day as the first time you had bad sex.
2007-02-03 16:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Aimee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see most tell you NO. I also see most ask how old you are.
Both good questions. One of my past loves lost her virginity to someone she would never have to see again. This was her choice or what she wanted. I have only been with one first timer myself, a very long long time ago when I was very young as well as her. It didnt keep us togather on the contrary it caused problems leading to legal actions. of which neither of us was old enough to be charged but it was a huge embarrassment to both of us. If it is the desiding factor of your relationships survival then it's a big mistake. Don't do it. NEVER let someone do the thinking for you. We follow rules in life in general and there's nothing we can do about it. One is the 18 law. some states it's less. My opinion is this is a steriotype. Some arent mentally resposible enough for this comitment years after the age of 18. Some are way sooner. This is one of those sweep it under the rug situations that most adults would rather give a quick answer and thats that. Knowbody wants to know about it. Why don't schools go more in depth with this one. When your situation comes up you should already know the answer. Unfortunitlly no one will spend that much time unless you want to pay a tyripist. Long story short everyone wants to keep you safe. Myself included. It will lead to serious complications that will lead to fear and resentment causing a break up. Or the fairy tale love that cause's you to to fall in love forever where he sweeps you off your feet to his castle in his fathers kingdom. THINK ABOUT IT. what if he leaves you ,do to complications then makes you a laughing stock in front of everyone you know. You become the bad girl that gets looked down at forever. Possibly
Seriouslly where do YOU think it'll take you. wait as long as possible. I know 18 may seem far away but emotions often rule our brain and body. God sake use protection. Dont be a fool.
If he loves you he can wait. And so can you. guy's tend to say the right things to get what THEY want. This makes them the smarter one in the relationship. Don't be outsmarted! Valintines day seems like a very romantic day to do this. Thats exactlly what he wants you to think. IF this becomes a bad thing you'll remember it the rest of your life On valentines day. Do you want to have bad feeling about valitines day forever? My grandmother I never met comited suicide on Christmas. This brought negitive feelings from my father every Christmas which made a pattern in my life. I do my best to not do this to my children. Losing your virginity should be happy, valintines day should be happy. Do things in the proper time or age. Talk to your parents. or pastor. This isn't a quick answer and you need closure before possibly making the mistake of a lifetime.
2007-02-03 16:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Grand Eminence 1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Valentines Day is a very special Day, but I will tell you a even more special day. That would be your wedding night. Don't ruin that special night by giving in. You are worth the wait. There are a lot of emotions that go along with sex and you are going to want to have sex with someone who is going to share their life with you. It will be the best gift to give your husband.
I hope you realize that you never know who you will marry. Anytime until the man says I do, he can change his mind and so can you.
So realize this. No matter how much you love him. Its okay to pray for the safety and protection of your future husband. I would start now. He will need it.
2007-02-03 16:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it is also your wedding day then I would say yes, absolutely. If not then I would say you should tell your boyfriend if he expects to still be hearing from you on February 15th then he needs to take a cold shower and get his mind on something else because you are not prepared to drop your trousers to satisfy his urges.
What is the matter with young men these days? Sex, sex, sex... good grief. How about loving and caring and supporting and cherishing and just plain knowing someone. Whatever happened to learning to love and enjoy a person and planning a life together before swapping DNA?
Just tell him you're not ready and if he persists then he is not of your caliber.
2007-02-03 16:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by AK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER have sex for the first time Just because of some stupid holiday. Wait until you're ready, whether it's Valentine's Day or not!
2007-02-03 17:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by Queen of Halloween 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get married? Are you willing to get a venereal or have a unwanted pregnancy, or worst be rejected by your family. I got married at 16 yrs old and my wife 15, now we celebrated our 53 years married, and keep on going. Do the right thing, even if you are ansious to try the adventure, it may be a blessing but it maybe your downfall. Ask God and in your dream he will guide you.
2007-02-03 16:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by antonioavilakiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He is not thinking of you and what would be best for you. He just wants to be able to say he had sex with someone on Valentine's Day.
2007-02-03 16:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by debisbooked 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you are over the age of 18 and you feel like it is the right thing to do as long as you feel comfortable about it and you love him go for it., Althougn it also depends on whether or not you are saving yourself for maraige then I would say tell him no and if he can respect that he is a keeper if not let him go.
2007-02-03 16:27:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a truely personal choice. Now im not sure of your age or success of your relationship or if you are ready.
But please think about this before doing anything:
1) I want to do this for myself? yes or no
2) This is not just because my boyfriend is pressuring me? yes or no
3) I am ready? yes or no
4) I am ready for any possible problem (condom breaking, pregnancy, etc,) yes or no
5) This is the one that i have been waiting for, and i honestly can not see why i would regret this later in life? yes or no
Do not answer these quickly, take you time and think about them alone.
If it is a yes, please go see you doctor or planned parenthood and get some birth control and start taking it asap, so that it will work.
2007-02-03 16:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it's called "Valentine's day" not "Let's convince my girlfriend to have sex with me and she might say Yes cuz after all she thinks I'm cute and we have been together and didn't have sex yet day".
2007-02-03 16:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋