Can any student/grad/teacher help me?

Question

Hi,
I joined engineering recently,completed my 1st sem. Im not much of a studious person, but i know if i sit down to study, i can do much,much better. Well, till now, studying at the last moment fetched me good marks, but im not sure if this is working anymore!!i know i have to study hard, but get easily distracted( about any random stuff).i tried yoga & meditation, but didnt help me that much. i plan but cant follow it..All my friends study really hard & i've got an inferiority complex bcoz of that.I've never studied regularly and dont know how to go about it. i really want to change all of this, but dont know how to??? then when the results are out, i really get frustrated and angry with myself and i start hating the subject.i even consulted a doc, but he said its upto me to change myself. i also lose interest in something after some time & im confused most of the time. im a bit of a hyperactive.Can anyone plz help me out with this??????Am i the only one facing this problem?

hey,
thanks for all your encouraging answers. i love engineering a lot and wouldnt trade any other career for it.im great at mathematics,no problems with that.the doc i visited was a psychologist.i just have interest but no hardwork & am very lazy.i am an emotional over-eater and dont like to exercise that much, maybe that's a reason. can anyone of you'll gimme a detailed plan on how to study or tell me any website where i can get some free counselling?

Answer 1

you do not lack concentration, otherwise u won't have wriiten such a long question. what u lack is inner motivation. as long as u don't believe in urself nobody on earth can help you. plan ue studies well. remember those who are not planning are planning to fail. divide ur syllabus in such a manner that u don't have to study for long hours. studing for long hrs will not help if ur not doing things with concentration. divide each subjects into topics and revise these small chunks on a day to day basis, then review ur weekly study on sunday.

the following article will help u control ur environment

1. Set aside a fixed place for study and nothing but study. Do you have a place for study you can call your own? As long as you are going to study, you may as well use the best possible environment. Of course, it should be reasonably quiet and relatively free of distractions like radio, TV, and people. But that is not absolutely necessary. Several surveys suggest that 80% of a student's study is done in his or her own room, not in a library or study hall. A place where you are use to studying and to doing nothing else is the best of all possible worlds. After a while, study becomes the appropriate behavior in that particular environment. Then, whenever you sit down in that particular niche in the world you'll feel like going right to work. Look at it this way; when you come into a classroom, you sit down and go to work by paying attention to the instructor. Your attitude and attention and behavior are automatic because in the past, the room has been associated with attentive listening and not much else. If you can arrange the same kind of situation for the place where; you study, you will find it easier to sit down and start studying.

2. Before you begin an assignment, write down on a sheet of paper the time you expect to finish. Keep a record of your goal setting. This one step will not take any time at all. It may put just the slightest bit of pressure on you, enough so that your study behavior will become instantly more efficient. Keep the goal sheets as a record of your study efficiency. Try setting slightly higher goals in successive evenings. Don't try to make fantastic increases in rate. Just increase the goal a bit at a time.

3. Strengthen your ability to concentrate by selecting a social symbol that is related to study. Select one particular article of clothing, like a scarf or hat, or a new little figurine or totem. Just before you start to study, put on the cap, or set your little idol on the desk. The ceremony will aid concentration in two ways. First of all, it will be a signal to other people that you are working, and they should kindly not disturb you. Second, going through a short, regular ritual will help you get down to work, but be sure you don't use the cap or your idol when your are writing letters or daydreaming or just horsing around. If your charm gets associated with anything besides books, get a new one. You must be very careful that it doesn't become a symbol for daydreaming.

4. If your mind wanders, stand up and face away from your books. Don't sit at your desk staring into a book and mumbling about your poor will power. If you do, your book soon becomes associated with daydreaming and guilt. If you must daydream, and we all do it occasionally, get up and turn around. Don't leave the room, Just stand by your desk, daydreaming while you face away from your assignment. The physical act of standing up helps bring your thinking back to the job. Try it! You'll find that soon just telling yourself, "I should stand up now," will be enough to get you back on the track.

5. Stop at the end of each page, and count 10 slowly when you are reading. This is an idea that may increase your study time, and it will be quite useful you if you find you can't concentrate and your mind is wandering. If someone were to ask you, "What have you read about?" and the only answer you could give is, "About thirty minutes," then you need to apply this technique. But remember, it is only useful if you can't concentrate -- as a sort of emergency procedure.

6. Set aside a certain time to begin studying. Certain behavior usually is habitual at certain times of the day. If you examine your day carefully, you'll find that you tend to do certain things at predictable times. There may be changes from day to day, but, generally parts of your behavior are habitual and time controlled. If you would be honest with yourself, you'd realize that time controlled behavior is fairly easy to start. The point is that if you can make studying - or at least some of your studying - habitual it will be a lot easier to start. And if the behavior is started at a habitual time, you will find that it is easier to start. And if the behavior is started at a habitual time, you will find that it is easier to get going without daydreaming or talking about other things.

7. Don't start any unfinished business just before the time to start studying. Most people tend to think about jobs they haven't finished or obligations they have to fulfill much more than things that they have done and gotten out of the way. Uncompleted activities tend to be remembered much longer than completed ones. If we apply that idea to the habit of daydreaming, you might suspect that uncompleted activities and obligations would be more likely to crop up as a source of daydreaming than completed ones. Therefore, when you know you're about to start studying because it's the time you select to begin, don't get involved in long discussions. Try to be habitual with the time you start, and be careful what you do before you start studying. This can be one way to improve your ability to concentrate.

8. Set small, short-range goals for yourself. Divide your assignment into subsections. Set a time when you will have finished the first page of the assignment, etc. If you are doing math, set a time goal for the solution of each problem. In other words, divide your assignments into small units. Set time goals for each one. You will find that this is a way to increase your ability to study without daydreaming.

9. Keep a reminder pad. Another trick that helps increase your ability to concentrate is to keep pencil and paper by your notebook. If while you're studying you happen to think about something that needs to be done, jot it down. Having written it down you can go back to studying. You'll know that if you look at the pad later, you will be reminded of the things you have to do. It's worrying about forgetting the things you have to do that might be interfering with your studying.

10. Relax completely before you start to study. One approach to concentration is to ask yourself, "Do study and bookwork scare me?" If you have to do something unpleasant, something that you know you may do badly, how do you react? Probably you put it off as long as possible, find yourself daydreaming, and would welcome reasons to stop studying. If you do react this way, you might be said to suffer from learned book-anxiety. The key to breaking this book-anxiety daydream series is learning how to relax. When you are physically, deeply, and completely relaxed, it is almost impossible to feel any anxiety.

everything will work for you only if u wish to make it happen. remember tough battles are won due to toughness of mind.
God bless you.

Answer 2

Hi friend,

dont get upset with all these things. You are not the only one having these type of problems. Me too went through the same stages when i joined college.Now i have completed my studies successfully and works as a college teacher. We cant run away from anything. Just go through it, think that you are the best in he world and you can over come all difficulties. Never get upset on small things and get angry at yourself. Think good,try to find good hobbies think positive and pleasent always. You will be the winner in the exams and life. Good Luck.

Answer 3

The problem lies not in your study habits but in your self perception. Why do you feel inferior? If they can do it, then believe , you can do it better. Believe in yourself and everything will change. The mind is very powerful, what the mind can conceive the body can achieve. To become an excellent student is first to believe in one's self and have the will and determination to achieve what you had set yourself to do. I personally believe there are no dumbs students. Diligence and persistence will always pave your way to succeed in your studies. If at first you don't succeed , then try and try again, until you do. Winners never quit and quitters never win, so Go for it!

Answer 4

Here is the simple solution for you.

1. Don't think about study.
2. Attend all the lectures, don't miss even one class even if you think that you are not getting any benefit from it.
3.Prepare for Internals just one day before it starts.
4. Fully enjoy your college life. Participate in as many things as possible.
5. Watch one Hindi & one English Movie enery Saturday or Sunday.
6. Start preparation for semester exam 10 days before it starts or 3 days if you are getting a gap of minimum 3 days for each paper.
7. Last but not least don't think about study

Answer 5

well u know only u can help urself others can only advice u.
first and foremost take of the inferiority complex in u.
u r doing good and thts the reason u r wat u r today and more over u realise wat u lack which i think is the first step towards ur victory.
all u need is bit of thinking and more of organising urself
first maintain a diary list down what u wanna acheive, also write down all the subjects and mark urself like how good u r in it and how much u need to work on each sub, then make a time table, make sure u read daily and learn somthing dont sit for hours, to start with say u read for 1 hour take a five mins break in between during break do something refreshing preferably physical activity and full rest to ur mind avoid thinking abt anything. and the best time to read wud b early morning

Answer 6

You are very good in English language. Maybe you need to improve your ability in mathematics. Try to remenber the major concepts in Engineering. Try to prove the major formulars in the sujects indepandently.
You should take the foods with good nutrition and low in sugar.
I hope this can help you.
May god bless you.

Answer 7

Hi, I read your prob, & I think, that; you should do the things which your Soul would like to do.There is no benefit in doing the things in which you cant devote your Heart & Soul togather!!!.

Answer 8

It depends as to how you approach your teacher or parents