Does that make me Bitter???

Question

I told a friend of mine that relationships are for people who are weak and cannot stand on thier own and she said i was bitter because of it...who agrees with me one this i know i cant be the only one?

Answer 1

I started out saying: "Not Enough Information."

Then I studied the way you made your remark. The words and the way you used them. "Relationships are for people who are weak and cannot stand on thier own," and that's when it hit me, you were bitter. Jealous, actually. You call people in relationships weak, when they are the ones taking risks, opening themselves up to new people and ideas, exposing their secrets and desires to the very people they are afraid of losing most. Weak? I don't think so, weak is staying all alone and feeling superior because you'll never take a chance.

Answer 2

It doesn't make you bitter because you're alone, or them weak. I'm single right now, I'm not bitter, nor when I was in a relationship was I weak. A relationship is a partnership, it takes 2 people to make it work-not one person leaning on the other. But when you say that ALL relationships include people who are weak, you do sound a little bitter, just IMO.

Answer 3

Some people are weak and need a relationship but not everybody in a relationship is like that. I can and have stood on my own but I'm in love, if she breaks up with me or I break up with her then I'll get over it and stand on my own again.

You do sound bitter but I don't know your past experiences so I can't say. You might just have a difference of opinion. You are however being judgmental, which honestly is a lot worse.

Answer 4

I don't know if you are bitter. However, you don't have to be weak to be in a relationship. You can find another strong individual and have a relationship with them.

There are some people that feel they need a relationship to be complete... I think those people are weak. But, if you look at having a relationship as an enhancement to your life, instead of something to make you "whole", then it's healthy.

Answer 5

i agree but not totally...most people look for a relationship because they dont want to be alone. But not all. Being alone is nowadays considered as a disease, something you have to suffer...I decided to be alone and when i was getting used to the idea and really enjoying it a found a person and i fell in love...It was not premeditated i was not looking for it at all. But in most of the cases people look for relationships and love...Our society is urging us to fall in love and try to avoid loneliness...Anyway just to say no to relationships based on the idea that otherwise you are weak it is a bit extremist.

Answer 6

It appears to me that you are rationalizing, and thus denying, your anxiety of relationships by labeling others as "weak." On the other hand, some people are just naturally loners. You might want to examine yourself to decide whether you are anxious or a loner.

Answer 7

I'm in a relationship...I am not afraid to stand on my own..I just find it nicer to stand beside someone else and share life.

Answer 8

hah well i've wanted to tell a lot of my friends that but i figured it might be a tad harsh to just straightforwardly say it.

i've come to realize there are just some people who seem to enjoy themselves better when tied with someone else, something i cant seem to understand. i personally am happiest when im free and not dependent on someone else.

i guess we cant just consider them weak, people just view life differently.

Answer 9

i agree with her. i think you crave a relationship, but youre scared and don't want to get hurt again. the only true strong person is to be vulnerable in front of those who they love.

Answer 10

Yes.