Is it wrong to be the part of this minority ? Why am I so ? Should I try to change myself ? Coz if I don't I will lose everything I have , Friends ,family , happiness , everything . Give me a good reason to be what I am ?
Is it disease or abnormality .
Like if someone is alchoholic , he is sent to rehab ............
2007-02-03 15:55:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Best thing you can do is find a good therapist.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-03 16:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by eschampion 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't be, your family and friends will still be your friends no matter what. If they are no longer your friends, they were never your friends in the first place. When I came out, all my friends were cool and my family loves me just the same. There are rehabilitation places for homosexuality, but they are a joke, you cannot change who you are. Watch the movie "But Im a Cheerleader", its about such a place. Its perfectly natural nothing abnormal or infectious about homosexuality. Just be who you are and you'll be happy, just like I am happy :D
2007-02-04 00:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Patches 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I want to be straight forward with you. Homosexuality is constructed. Often innoscently by many children. Children forget the experiances they had as small children. They still construct themselves from those experiances.
First understand homosexualality is constructed, just like hetrosexuality is constructed.
The Formula For Constructing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality Plus That First Homosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Homosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Homosexual Experiences Multiplied By More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Homosexual.
The Formula For constructing A Hetrosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward hetrosexuality Plus That First Hetrosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Hetrosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Hetrosexual Experiences Multiplied By
More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Hetrosexual
Once you see that this is how it happened and really understand it, it becomes your choice to work with it. I was 40 before i understood this. I was homosexual scince i could remember. Then I prayed and the memmory of when i first experianced homosexuality came to me, and I could understand how it was constructed.
It would be hard to understand this if you can not remember your first experiance, but you could still understand this.
A coulpe of good sights for you to read if you want help overcoming the homosexuality in you. First I want to say, it could take years or it could take less time, everyone is different. Check out the sights below, they may help.
http://www.ilovejesus.com/befree/pnarticle.html
http://www.ccel.org/contrib/exec_outlines/hom/hom_06.htm
I would like to say the christian prospective does not talk about gender nonconformitive. It can be a predisposition to homosexuality. Not all children that had a gender nonconformity will construct homosexuality. so it is not the leading or only predisposition to homosexuality. Expermenting, being drawn into expermenting all usually are the predisposition, even name calling can be part of the predispositioning to constructing homosexuality.
As i say it is often innoscently constructed, then as an adult we learn it was not the plan of God. God we know planned us to construct hetrosexuality, but our choices may lead us in another direction for God to use in our plan That he has for us. Everything is the power of god.
Let me leave you with this in mind:
"AND SUCH WERE SOME OF YOU. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." (1 Co 6:11)
Learning to seek God, and walking by the Spirit of God is what I am doing now, and there is no shame, just learning.
2007-02-04 02:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think how you're feeling maybe has something to do with your support system. If you have family and friends giving you homophobic messages combined with your not feeling your own comfort level with your sexual orientation, a natural end result for you is to feel shame.
I think some people just accept the fact that they are gay and don't give it a second thought, while other people may be quite surprised and confused when they reach the full realization that they are gay. Personally, it sounds to me like you are receiving some fairly regular anti-gay messages from people who mean a lot to you. And, none of us want to risk losing people who mean a lot to us. Still, if they really love you, they need to accept you for who you are. It's not your job to try to mold yourself into who they want you to be. You need to learn to be true to yourself.
I'm straight, but I don't believe homosexuality is a disease nor an abnormality. I also don't believe one can "make" themselves not be gay, so don't even waste your time trying to. You'll just drive yourself crazy. You deserve to be happy and to live a full, rewarding life. There are counselors who can help you come to grips with your homosexuality. As far as your family and friends, you may have to end up calling them out on the carpet regarding who you are. If they really love you, they will love you regardless of your sexuality. If their love is conditional on your being who they want you to be, then you may need to reconsider your relationship with them, as difficult as that may be.
I wish you well with dealing with this. Life is precious, but it can also be a real b*tch sometimes.
Oh, and one more thing - run like hell when you run across people like ishelp4 and the binger - who have posted replies here. It's not our place to judge homosexuality. God's only directive (and reason for creating us) was/is to love one another - period. So don't allow people to judge and/or condemn your homosexuality. Peace to you...
2007-02-04 00:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by loveblue 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its so easy to feel this way, because we're taught to feel that way. But, what IF you SHOULDN'T feel that way. WHAT IF its not right that you feel bad about it? After, you didn't choose it, you didn't want it, you didn't sign up for it, what do YOU have to feel bad about? Your not doing it on purpose. What the h*ll do you have to feel bad about? Its not your fault!
Just feel good about yourself, d*ng, is that really so hard? Aren't you a good person, an honest person? Don't you try to make others happy? If you didn't, you wouldn't worry ABOUT THEM while you were worrying about YOUR sexuality! So, your not a selfish person! Your a good person who cares about others, don't take the blame on yourself for something outside your control! You just happen to be gay, its not the be-all and end-all of the world.
Its just a facet of your life. There are hundreds of others.
2007-02-04 00:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Your obviously a people pleaser. If your gay then be gay and be good at it. I am not a gay man, but I know that being gay is not a choice....it is what you are. Your worried about what people think....they probably already know. Just get into life and be yourself. Gay is not a disease like alcohol or drugs. If you like members of the same sex then you like members of the same sex. Does that really matter in you day to day life? Does it?
2007-02-04 01:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by BudLt 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you loose somethings it will only be close-minded people that leave society blind them. People that truly love u will love you no matter what. Everyone reacts differently about this situation so its up to you who to tell and who not to, but that is that, its your decision. If you decide to stay the way you are you dont really have to scream it to the world, be how you feel comfortable. A good reason to be the way you are? because it's you. Unless you had a bad experience that influenced you to be homosexual than you shouldnt have to worry about anything. I dont know about the way you society handles this type of topic but if people reject you for how are, the ones that aren't right are them. I personally find that if someone rejects me for my sexuality than its like a test to see who truly is there for me. Live life without pittying you ways. You're beautiful in you own way:)
2007-02-04 00:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by darkest.rainbow 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hello! I'm 16 year old, gay male. Here is the thing I've learned from all my thinking and stress from family and friends.
It's not bad being gay, it's normal; having sex with a monkey isn't normal.
You are, who you are. God as speical intentions for you; like everyone for everyone this planet. You could be the one that find cure for AIDS who knows.
Don't change yourself, cause your gonna end up living in a lie. Your gonna be sad, lonely, and be with some you don't love? Psh, yeah I'd rather shoot myself.
If your friends truly your friends, then they wouldn't care what you are, but for being who you are.
Family; family is always gonna be there for you, its like having a scar never fades
Happiness; happines doesn't come to you, you have to look for it. Sucks right? If happines comes to you we'd be happy as hell.
Everything, there's no such thing as everything; people don't have everything; everyone is missing something in life, always.
WE don't choose who you are, you choose who you are.
Living in a lie? Or living in truth with someone you love.
Those chirtians don't listen to them; they say homos are going to hell, but they are also for hating, discrimining. The bible also says no one shall judge you, only god himself. They are here to spread the word of god with love, not with hate
-- hint hint if straight people hate gay people so much, why don't they stop making gay babies, right?
Also gay people didn't choose to be gay, we just are.
People nowadays don't think for themselves but let a book do the thinking for them.
So what i say F--- what people say! BE WHO YOU ARE!!!!
DON'T ADD END UP LIVING WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE!!
OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm Chritatian by the way
2007-02-04 01:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Danys M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek a therapist. One thing I can tell you, is your sexuality is as individual as you are and if you being truly happy in a spiritual and physical sense is going to drive your family and friends away then they are not worth having around as they don't really care about you.
2007-02-04 02:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong...you won't lose everything..but you will find out who really is there for you. You can't change who you are. You have to accept and appreciate life on your terms...There are millions (MILLIONS!!!) of gay people who have found happiness being gay..Just accept it and get on with your life...enjoy it..life is too short to not have fun.
2007-02-04 00:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you were led to believe that you are a homosexual. Homosexuality is a sin and is immorally wrong. You should be ashamed because God never inteded for a Man and Man to lie together. Enough with this serade about being gay. It doesn't exist stop fooling yourself....
2007-02-04 02:12:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋