im a young 16 year old whose very insecure about myself, from looks to personality and abilities. my family really doesnt make it any better, both my parents work all day. my brother is always busy with his own stuff, my sis is away at college. i hate myself. i hate my life. i hate the guy who broke my heart. well not hate anyof those thing. more like upset with. the only thing i hate is me! all i do is yelllll lately! i cant figure out what else to do! i yell and then cry till i fall asleep. help me! please! i think im clinically depressed. i use to be sucha bubbly and happy person and now all i do is get upset mad and cry! i have fallen into a dark shallow hole..help me climb out???
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2007-02-03 15:42:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Dear Ms,
all the best wishes,
Madam, please do not get disheartened, This world is like that, if you are laughing every body is ready to laugh with you, but if you are crying you have to cry alone. I think you are giving too much weightage to the material world around you and that is why you are so much upset. Please , try to see the other people around you and you will find that there are so many people who do not get even two times meal daily but they are happy and enjoing their life. God has created all the creatures and nature to be cooperative to each other and all should survive. But, unfortunately we human beings have divided the world into so many nations, boundaries and regions that sometimes we our self forget ti which part we belong. Therefore, please have patience, be brave and face the world as and when it comes. As a beginning, to get hold of your mind and heart, you may start practicing meditation or Yoga Or if possible, courses like the art of living etc. These, courses will help you in controlling your emotions and then you will be a true human being to face all the challenges. May god help you.
2007-02-03 16:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by sb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you are 16 yrs. old. Yelling, crying, upset with people and what is going on in your life. Part of it, may be due to hormones going crazy, (you are at that age) and you sound like with everyone in your family being busy, you may feel somewhat isolated from them. Understood. Will you please consider asking your parents if you could go talk with a counselor? Not necessarily the school counselor. Maybe even get a physical? Blood tests done? To see how you are doing physically is important health wise. If it has been a year or so-please consider getting it done again soon. Also, if you are feeling depressed, a counselor to tallk with is a good thing. Also, the reason I reccommend a physical, is so that if you are found to need an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety medication, it will help on the dose, etc. It is best if your doctor and the counselor could work together as a team.Please, with the counselor, work on the topics you mentioned, insecurity about yourself. I am personally sure that you really are an okay person, you have good looks (maybe not like a model--but then they get computerized airbrushing done for magazine covers, etc. to look so fab), you have a gret personality (may not show that much right now, but it is there), and you have abilities you just have not tapped into right now. Do you know how to cook? Clean? Do laundry? Read? Do math-at least good enough to do your budget? The guy who broke your heart-lost out on a good thing. The guy who wins your heart-will know he has a good thing in you. You have abilities-if you answered yes to any of those questions about can you do these things--you have abilities. They are needed to help you in your adult life. As for your bubbly personality, it still is there-just hiding for now. If you can, along with a counselor (or maybe without) find a support group, class for depression, that will help you-to see there are others in your predicament. I took a class like that abut a year ago-it helped a lot. Doing something physical daily helps-walking for 30 min. dancing (in your room if okay with mom and dad), Also, scientists have found that when a person is feeling stressed, depressed, etc., tears contain certain chemicals that help to alleviate that stress, depression, etc. I wish you the best. Please continue to take good care of yourself. Take care.
2007-02-04 00:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great person who is having a rough time. There is a chance that you are clinically depressed, the only one who can make that decision to get help is you. Get involved! Friends can be a great source for comfort. Get involved in church or some civic organization or maybe a club at school. The only thing that will help you get your mind off the people that are not there for you now is other people that will be there for you. Find an activity that you can exert that negative energy into that is constructive. Maybe it is running, sports, walking, helping others. I personally like the latter of these suggestions. I am sorry to say but it sure does feel good helping someone that is in worse shape than you. Go to that friend or acquaintance that is having a real hard time and help them out. It will take the negative vibe off your own struggles and make you feel better. Just whatever you do do not let someone else pull you down furthur. Find someone you can trust and talk about it. Best of luck!
2007-02-04 00:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by jmichaelr2377 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hun I know exactually(well near exactually) what you mean.. I have gone through problems close to what u are explaining.. my step dad and i dont get a long and my mom doesnt care and my dad left me when i was 2 and then decided to come back in to my life... i was always made fun of from my step-dad and i felt like how u feel now... and lately i have changed to become Bubbly... as u would say.. I just let what is bothering me pass.. i listen to music and chill... i tell friends what is goin on and listen to their advice... and i also say that all the **** that is takin place is just a test to see how much we can handle... and that God gave us mountains so we could learn how to crawl and ask for help. ever sence i have had that attuide i have done a lot better... I still have moments when im down but they rarely come... Just remember... it isnt worth hurting youself when other people hurt u more... ( in other words... Dont Cut or nething... everything will get better) and also try to set aside time for u and ur mom to sit and Chillax watch a chick flick and eat ice cream... thats what my mom and i do and sence then i feel as if i can tell her anything and everything... i hope that it worked ... just remember no matter how horrible ur life may seem it WILL get better.. it just happens to seems longer than it actually is.
Dani
2007-02-03 23:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local mental health center and explain what is happening. They may have mentor programs or even counseling available. Let your family know how you are feeling, or tell your family doctor at your next visit. It is imperative that you get help for this. Please take care of yourself. This is very good that you have recognized the problem and defined what is happening-you are a wise person. Now take the next step. Make the call.
2007-02-03 23:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you think all the people you hate are sad....man just go to sleep listen to music get involved in the community program...Go to the police department volunteer their the stuff you see and hear stuff that will make you appreciate your life....
2007-02-03 23:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by someguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to hang out with friends more and have fun with them....also let your family know you would like to see them more.
2007-02-03 23:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Heather F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋