Help is he emo?

Question

my bf cuts him self it use to be on his upper arm then he promised me he had stopped. now hes doing it to his knuckles is he emo and please don't tell me to break up with him i get enough of that from one of my friends already.

Answer 1

Ask him what's wrong. Give him advice after. If it doesn't work go see a therapist. It doesn't matter whether he's emo or not.

Answer 2

I have worked with a lot of people who self-harm. Emos and not. Self-harm is often about internal anguish and a history of abuse. It's ultimately about being in control of your own pain. When people 'cut' they feel a sense of relief and it often occurs more frequently when they're stressed or upset.

You need to get him to see a therapist because self-harm isn't about an image or being 'emo', it's a lot deeper than that, and he needs to resolve the underlying issues before he will stop cutting.

Good luck to you and your boyfriend. I think it's really admirable that you're sticking in there through the tough times with him. Your support will make a huge difference to him.

Take care.

Answer 3

What does emo have to do with it?

If he's a cutter, then he's a cutter. It's got nothing to do with the music he listens to or the clothes he wears...OKAY!!! He may need psychological help dealing with emotional pain. Some people use cutting as a way to handle emotional pain by turning it into a physical pain.

Trust me! I was the "gothic" chick back in school (way way back in the day) and all my friends blamed every quirky thing I did on my black hair and black clothes and my music. But, they were just as ignorant as you are now.

Answer 4

Focus not on his hurtful habit. Focus on helping him find his gifts, talents, praise him a lot when he does things, even the small things. You need to be a little stronger when he's down. Then, when the time is right, allow him to empower you when you are vulnerable.

Relationships are not one-sided. Both have strengths and upsides and downsides. You need to develop your own strengths to the point where you can prop him up when he's down. There will come a time when he will gain enough strength to lift you up when you are down.

We all have troubles. We just need to empower each other more than just breakup whenever trouble starts to brew (and I'm not talking about any kind of real abuse either).

Answer 5

A surprisingly high number of people self harm. It's because so many people have learned to repress their feelings and don't feel able to talk about things that are hurting them. Blood letting is an emotional release. Try to encourage him to talk to you. Don't ask too many questions, and don't worry about long silences - it's not up to you to fill them. Leaving long silences encourages people to fill them, and if you give him time, he will. You don't need to break up with him unless it's seriously affecting you - if anything, your support will help him. Ask a counsellor or a doctor for more advice.

Answer 6

Your boyfriend has some very deep emotional issues, however they probably have nothing to do with you, and hate to say it, but u may not be able to help him, but go to someone the both of you trust lyke yalls parents, or whatever. He needs help, before the situation ends up worse. But always let it be known you are there for him, keep supporting him the way you do, True Love!!!!!

Answer 7

Just because he cuts doesn't mean that he is emo. Emo is catagory just like goth, prep, jock, nerd to put people into a sterotype. He needs help if he is cutting.

Answer 8

Um... I'm sorry to say this but he's Poser-Emo. Basically the same, only a poser doesn't cut his wrist, posers want to be emo :(. But at least Emo's have the guts to go all the way with it.

Answer 9

There's more to being emo than just cutting, but that's part of it. Maybe he's just depressed — in which case, he needs serious help.

Answer 10

It sounds to be like he has a mental disease called Borderline Personality disorder, in which they cut themselves to feel better....