How to get ready for relationship?

Question

one guy suggested u must be fullfilled urself first, then u should go for her/him. this way u can get good relationship. but how to fullfill urself?

Answer 1

Until you truly love and accept yourself as you are, you will be insecure and wonder how someone else could love you? This often results in issues like manipulation, control, jealousy, mistrust, etc. Nearly all relationship problems can be broken down to one or both people being insecure and unconfident in themselves and their own self-worth.

So it helps to really be honest with yourself and who you are in this life, and how you got to where you are. Have you been doing things because of what others have said you should? Are there things you wish were different about yourself - and why do you wish they were different? Are your values and beliefs truly from within your soul, or are you going by what society/family/culture says? Are there any people or situations in your life that you resent -- and why? Is your career a job or a vocation? Do you feel forced to go through your day to day activities, or do you generally enjoy them? Are you living up to the potential you see in yourself?

Once you feel pretty self-assured and independent, and look to start a relationship, examine your motivations, intentions, and expectations. Why do you want to be in a relationship -- because others say you should, because you want sex, because you hate to be alone, because you don't think you're "complete" without a partner? If those are the reasons, then go back to step 1 and do more work on yourself. If it is because you feel that you want a partner to share life's experiences with, and that you are capable of giving and receiving unconditional love and devotion, then maybe you are ready. even though the traditional vows are considered religious, they really are very much on point about what a real committed relationship is about... staying true to the relationship through good times and bad.

When we are young and in love, all seems right with the world. But life is hard, and time will take it's toll... we all will change as we age - our bodies withstand everyday life's wear-and-tear and the effects of gravity. Illness and accidents also happen, which can change a person from being strong, attractive and independent, to varying extents of weakness, disfigurement and dependence. I work with many elderly people, and am really touched by those couples that have been together 40-50-60+ years! I don't have a lot of time to talk, but I do wonder what they were like when they first met, and how they toughed it out through all the trials and tribulations they must have faced. It truly takes dedication to build a relationship that strong.

Answer 2

Let go of anger and resentment. Let God do his job and let go. Find a way to have a good relationship with your family. Try to be successful in your passion, or just try doing your passion.

If you can manage this people will flock to you, especially the opposite sex.

Answer 3

if you really want a relationship, take it easy, get to know the person, find out if you really "click" or "don't click".

Take your time!!!

if you want fun, have fun! just don't try to create a relationship on fun and games. it'll be destin to fail.

Answer 4

Be open minded when you meet new ppl ....