Can anybody PLEASE fix my life?

Question

I have recently entered the same school as my sister. She is only one year older then me and she was pretty mad when she found out i enterd the same school as her. When i started school this year, she started getting really difficult and would make personal attacks on me all the time. As we really look alike, her friends would come up to me and ask whether I knew her. When she found out I told them we were sisters, she threatened to spread ugly rumours and defame to all the student leaders in charge of the co-curricular activities. Worse of all, her friends told her i really act like her and she claims I am copying her and have no personality. I really dont' know what to do about this. Even my parents cant' do anything about it. HELP!

Answer 1

No one can fix your life but you. But, maybe your sister is feeling crowded. Too bad the two of you are not close. But, set that aside. I would answer honestly when people ask if you are sisters and add that tho you are sisters, the two of you are taking this opportunity at college to become more individual and pursue your own individual interests. Make sure you are not gravitating to the same clubs and activities that she is (without short-changing yourself). Make your own choices and pick your own friends, not her's. You might consider sitting down with her and telling her some of this. Let her know that you chose the college you chose because you felt it was the best choice for you...let her know that there's no need to spread these rumors and such because you respect her right to explore and experience college for herself. Reassure her that you are not there to shadow her. You are there do grow, learn and experience your own journey. Also tell her that years and years from now, you'd like to be able to look back on this time with better memories than the ones you are forming now. The two of you will always be connected as sisters but you will soon (sooner than either of you know) take on your own lives and families and that you want that to be possible and waiting for you in the years to come. Don't crowd her, ask her not to crowd you. And remember, no matter how she responds or acts after your talk that people will get to know you and will know what kind of person you are. They'll form their own opinions if they are worth knowing at all. I'm sure the campus is big enough for both of you. If she contiues to be destructive and shallow, follow your own course...don't put her down to others, just say it's unfortunate and you don't understand why she is acting like she is...she must be having an identity crisis or something. Tell others that you love her as your sister and hope this will pass sooner rather than later.

Answer 2

Mary, you could speak to the school counselor and explain just what you have said here, beings your parents are of no help. Your counselor may be able to run inteference between you and your big sister, and show your big sister what a bully she is being. Make your own friends, that will show your sister that your not trying to ride on her coat tale. I would distance my sister, just to show her that I don't need her to make it through this school. If you do that, people should be able to figure out that she is just making up ugly rumors.Speak to her as little as possible and be your own person. Find people in your own age group to make friends with. Good Luck

Answer 3

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Answer 4

this is a classic example of sibling rivalry... don't get upset... she has a problem... unfortunately she thinks it's you.. she must be hiding something that she doesn't want you to find out... anyway if she defames you just quirk your nose in disgust... what she is doing is childish... act like you always do and try not to mind her... sooner or later, people will notice that she is the one who has a problem, not you.

Answer 5

Oh....wow am I glad I'm never going to be a kid again!!!

Ignore it, eventually she'll knock it off. If not, then be the kid sister and rat her out to your parents. She may change her tune if she can't do all the things she wants to because she's being a jerk.

Answer 6

Can't fix your life, but try to explain to your sister that is who you are, her sister, and don't worry about the things she says unless they're true. Nobody can make you feel inferior unless you allow them to.

Answer 7

well...have u told her how u felt...???if u did then shes not a good sister. just ignore her...but if she starts to do the most worst things to u go tell a friend, counselor, adult...ect^^
hope this works^^

Answer 8

is she wear white you wear black
is she has long hair you wear short hair
that all you can give in since she was there first
let your parents tell she is their convenient to have you going to the same school ever she like it or not

Answer 9

What is her problem! Just ignore her and her friends. Do your own thing. I would not talk to her until she apologizes for her poor behavior. She does not own the school and you have every right to go to any school that you please.

Answer 10

When people tell you how she's behaving, smile knowingly. Whisper, "She's seeing a professional about this. I'm really not supposed to talk about it. Try not to upset her."