How do you introduce a new platonic women friend to your wife?

Question

Met a women who I find awesome.Dont need an affair but would like to be friends.

Answer 1

If you are hesitating and asking this question on yahoo answers, then I guess you are maybe yourself thinking it could be an inappropriate friendship, where your wife might not appreciate this new friendship.

What I would suggest though is don't tell your wife that you find this woman 'awesome', that would definately be the way to upset your wife.

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Answer 2

I think it depends entirely on you and your feelings.

I am one of those women who has had genuine male friends...and I can say that it can be really tough...and it depends on the wife.

Here is how it works for me..(and I have years of practice as many of my good friends have been men)

First...make sure she is your friend and you respect your motivations and hers. (avoids problems).

2. Tell your wife on the up and up and listen for her reaction. If she tends to say ok...to old friends it might work.

3. The fact that you haven't dated or slept with her...is very much to your benefit...Wives do not understand how ex's and friends can be the same.

4. Have the friend bring a date and do something as a couple if it is possible. If you don't want it to be a couple/couple thing...this is out.

5. Meet in a setting that is not suggestive...like at a sports event. Emphasize that you have common interests. Show wife what these are and see if they have things in common.

6. Strongly encourage their friendship. This is a MUST!@@@@@

7.Be very open...and let her air concerns...do not under any circumstances do secretive things.

8. Treat her like your other friends...

9. Respect your wife's decision. If she hates her...it is over.

Ok...I have suffered from this situation for years. I don't even know if your friend wants to be friends with your wife. If that is the case, then the relationship is suspect...but if she does...and she is just single and gets along with men...consider the fact that some (probably 1/2) of women are too insecure to do this. I have lost about 1/2 of my friends when they get married. The majority of friends have never become good friends if they are married....in fact I could generally say that I don't befriend married men...except when I get along with both equally.

I don't think it is fair. It isn't my choice...but now over time I have gotten use to the idea that some things occur rarely. Usually it is old friends that get married that I can keep friendships with....

Alot of men think that they can flirt with me...I have a strict policy on that...and that is something that I don't think most wives know.

I really believe it is more dependent on the woman. I never knew how things were till I lived it...

good luck...I guess it will be great if someone else can make it all seem legit...

By the way...my husband accepted the majority of my male friends....all except my ex (who is my friend) from about 13 years ago....I respected his wishes...but that is me.

Answer 3

Well definitely don't try to keep it from your wife. I would start by telling your wife about her where ya met here, what she's like, etc. Tell your wife that she seems like a really awesome person that could end up being a great long term friend to both of you. Tell your wife that your new friend would really like to meet you, if your friend has a boyfriend encourage it to be a double date maybe dinner and pool (it would probably ease your wife's mind that you're not looking for a mistress). Make sure that she has your home phone # and calls the house to speak with you. Just be sure to include your wife in this friendship.

Answer 4

but the affair will come later on, at some point, don't think your wife is going to be pleased with this, we don't like other women in our lives, with our husbands. so u don't need an affair, but what exactly do u need from this woman your own wife can't give u?

Answer 5

No, No, No! You are taking the first step toward divorce. After you get married, you relinquish all rights to ever find another woman "awesome". Ditch this idea ASAP. Regardless of what she says, your wife will not understand and will be devastated by this. You will not only break her heart, you will loose her trust for years, if not forever. Please find a way to end this friendship and move on with your life.

Answer 6

Ha. Ha. Ha. You are nuts. If you are happily married you wouldn't be out trying to meet new women. This will only lead to an affair and your wife will never trust you.

Answer 7

I might be a female but I no how YOU MEN THINK tell this story to some one who will believe that this AWESOME PLATONIC WOMAN FRIEND is just a friend.If my husband told me he wanted me to meet this woman I would hate him for that and any woman that says different isn't being honest with herself or her husband.I no I would feel threatened by this woman and because I no my husband finds her more interesting then me she wouldn't be allowed in my house or around my husband. I would tell him if I find out you are with her when I told you she isn't your friend but someone that wants to come between us then I would tell him two can play this game and see how you like it when I bring this awesome guy around to meet you.

Answer 8

Now who is kidding who? You find her awesome because your attracted to her. Run from this woman or just go ahead and cheat now. Your married....period. No awesome women other than your wife. Just friends...lol yea right. Sell that to the women, us men know better.

Answer 9

i'd be very uncomfortable with the project and experience extremely betrayed because the reality develop into no longer advised to me interior the starting up. there's a reason i develop into no longer advised of their previous courting in the previous, so what took see you later to inform me now? If the courting develop into interior the previous, then why keep on a courting with the fellow now? i stumble on no reason to be acquaintances with an ex... truly none. in common words reason to proceed to be acquaintances is because you nevertheless look after another, and if thats the case then why did not you tell that for your better 1/2 interior the starting up... somethings fishy!

Answer 10

Simple, put the shoe on the other foot. How would you like to be introduced to a man that your wife believes is awesome? Mmmm....maybe not so simple.