My mom says it should be a honor to accept the spouse name but I love my last name and changing is a hassle.
2007-02-03 15:28:52 · 45 answers · asked by sarahi77009@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, you don not have to change your last name
2007-02-03 15:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what you think is best, yes it is a hassle to change names I had to do it. But it is also a hassle when you have a different name then your husband too. I loved my last name too but I also love having the same name of the one I love. Plus I would not want to have a different name then my son and unborn child. You can always take your old name back if you guys should part. Good Luck on the name part and have a good life with your man.
2007-02-03 15:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't legally have to change your last name, but how does your soon-to-be husband feel about this? Does it matter to him? I would think most men would like their wives to have their last names. It is a tradition and a very special one for the groom. You know, they get shorted when it comes to their wedding day and planning, etc. It's usually all for the bride. It's the brides big day. Where does the husband come in? Nowhere. I would think he would be hurt if you didn't take his name. He may not show it and he may tell you that it doesn't bother him, but I'm almost positive it does. You were born with your birth name and now your parents are handing you over to your new family, and that means taking your husbands name, and beginning a new life with him. Whatever you decide, I hope you have a beautiful wedding and a wonderful life together! May God Bless You Both!
2007-02-03 19:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't have to change your name. Do what you feel is right for you. I've kept my name throughout my life, I like it, and have no intention of ever changing it. My mom and my grandmother both kept their maiden names, and it has never caused a problem. It is completely up to you. There's no particular "honor" in taking your spouse's name, they didn't win this name in battle or anything, they got it the same way you got yours - from their parents. It's just as much of an "honor" for him to take your name. I think, the way to honor each other is to treat each other with love and respect - it doesn't make any difference what your names are.
2007-02-03 15:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't HAVE to do it! It's a bit of a hassle, but maybe you'll find the guy you marry worth it. Who knows, you could find someone with a last name you adore, or you could always hyphenate the two names together. (for you though, don't make your man take your name for goodness sakes!)
Having the same last name does make some things easier. If you two travel abroad, some countries are very conservative and don't understand that even though the two names don't match, you're married.
I have my married name on some things and my maiden name on others. I keep my own separate bank account and credit cards under my maiden name, everything else is with my married name.
2007-02-03 15:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can keep your name if you want to but i do agree with your mom on this one and it is not a hassle at all it is easy to do so as you just take your husbands name... You also can use both your maiden and married name with a hyphen in between as well.
2007-02-03 15:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't. My wife kept her last name, and lots of our married friends have different last names. Keeping your own name won't cause any hassles at all, but changing it sure will.
Don't change your name just for some dumb tradition that's dying anyway. Its YOUR name. Don't throw it away.
2007-02-03 15:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by David C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lots of women do not change their name when they get married. Many times it is for professional reasons but what ever the reason, no, you do not have to change your name.
I know one family where each spouse has their name and the kids are hyphenated. True dat.
2007-02-03 15:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by lilygateau 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do whatever you want. You can even make up a last name. When you fill out the marriage license you get to pick what you want. If you love your last name and don't like the hubby's at all, then keep yours. No big deal. Just let him know you still love him! ;-)
2007-02-03 15:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be able to use the name that you and your husband decide on. Some women keep both their maiden name and their husbands with a hyphen in between.
2007-02-03 15:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my last name as well. I would be willing to take their name but keep mine and put a hyphen between the two.
2007-02-03 15:33:42 · answer #11 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋