I am having an extremely difficult time dealing with my sexuality?

Question

I know I like women and I need someone to talk to but have no one to turn to. I hate this Im so scared...

for the people who arent straight, how did you deal with it

Answer 1

I am straight but an advocate of homosexual rights. I think that you have to sit and decide who you like best, if you have a preference. There are many people who are bisexual.
I know many people who base who they like on the PERSON not their gender. And there is nothing wrong with that. If you ever want advice or someone to listen to you, feel free to email me at [e-mail]

Answer 2

You do not give your age so it is hard to answer. One thing is for sure, you do have to talk about this with someone. I doubt that you wrote your question because it is a minor thing in your life. No, society has made being supposedly different in your sexuality, something to worry over and worse.

You can go through the Internet, but most of the advice isn't very easy to figure out. It is hard in emails and similar communications to really get at why you are scared and what you can do about it. That said, you can find resources to help you. Look for support groups for Gays, Lesbians, Bisexuals, Transgenders. (GLBT) that are in your area. You might find some in your school or town. I hope so, as they will be the most helpful to you.

A professional counselor will also be a great help. This is tricky as you want someone who is qualified to counsel in this area of human behaviour. Not all (probably not most) mental health professionals are good counselors for you.

That kind of brings you back to finding a support group as someone there will have come across a good person to work with.

Last, but not least, go to your local library and find some of the many books written on sexuality. You will see that in the last twenty years or more, there have been many written and they do often hold information that will help you understand yourself.

Understanding yourself and your own makeup is what will help you the most in calming your fears. You will find out that you are not alone and in fact are one of the millions of people with the same issues.

The world is not perfect yet, but it is a little better through the work and love of people who went ahead of you in searhing for acceptance of their human nature.

Good luck. You will survive and live a happy life. I guarentee it if you just take the time to do things one step at a time.

Answer 3

I want to be straight forward with you. Homosexuality is constructed. Often innoscently by many children. Children forget the experiances they had as small children. They still construct themselves from those experiances.
First understand homosexualality is constructed, just like hetrosexuality is constructed.
The Formula For Constructing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality Plus That First Homosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Homosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Homosexual Experiences Multiplied By More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Homosexual.

The Formula For constructing A Hetrosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward hetrosexuality Plus That First Hetrosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Hetrosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Hetrosexual Experiences Multiplied By
More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Hetrosexual
Once you see that this is how it happened and really understand it, it becomes your choice to work with it. I was 40 before i understood this. I was homosexual scince i could remember. Then I prayed and the memmory of when i first experianced homosexuality came to me, and I could understand how it was constructed.
It would be hard to understand this if you can not remember your first experiance, but you could still understand this.
A coulpe of good sights for you to read if you want help overcoming the homosexuality in you. First I want to say, it could take years or it could take less time, everyone is different. Check out the sights below, they may help.
http://www.ilovejesus.com/befree/pnartic...
http://www.ccel.org/contrib/exec_outline...
I would like to say the christian prospective does not talk about gender nonconformitive. It can be a predisposition to homosexuality. Not all children that had a gender nonconformity will construct homosexuality. so it is not the leading or only predisposition to homosexuality. Expermenting, being drawn into expermenting all usually are the predisposition, even name calling can be part of the predispositioning to constructing homosexuality.
As i say it is often innoscently constructed, then as an adult we learn it was not the plan of God. God we know planned us to construct hetrosexuality, but our choices may lead us in another direction for God to use in our plan That he has for us. Everything is the power of god.
Let me leave you with this in mind:
"AND SUCH WERE SOME OF YOU. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." (1 Co 6:11)
Learning to seek God, and walking by the Spirit of God is what I am doing now, and there is no shame, just learning.

Answer 4

What you withstand, persists, intensifies. What you look at, disappears. examine that back. you've enable your self to now at the very least, attempt this portion of you. you do not get to love broccoli with assistance from eating cucumber. merely with assistance from taking it one step at a time, are you able to hit upon out for constructive even if you're nevertheless sr8, gay or bi. As for the destiny, it is sure to no human being. Be a crying shame if something occurred to this guy you've a serious weigh down over, and also you probably did not do something once you had the prospect. Like if he moved away, or fell in love with some different person... or worse, died.

Answer 5

We all have our little journeys from self discovery to self acceptance! After my first "experience" at 16, I then beat myself up with Christianity... I did the 'ol Sin, Repent, Rebuke thing for 5 years until I finally realized that the gay thing kept resurfacing... God must have made me this way. This is something that can't be masked.

It will take you time to gather all the material that will help you build your self esteem around being gay... You will benefit from counseling... our gay center here in SD, offers free counseling for people in you situation. You should see about a local gay and lesbian center near you. In the mean time, just know that you are OK! You are Normal!! We love you, and hope you find your way to feeling good about your sexuality!! Email me if you need more support.

Answer 6

I know in my haert that my sexuality is A gift from God and i do not listen to prejudise people or what supposedly the bible says about it for all love is good If you are gay,do not be ashamed.Too many people kill themselves over this very thing because of peer pressure and that is so wrong.Love who you want to love and be happy.God bless you for ever with all my love and his am sure

Answer 7

You have to learn to accept and like yourself and realize that you are not defined as a person by you sexual preference. Yes, you do need to talk to someone..some well adjusted gay/lesbian people so you can stop being afraid of this and realize that life as a gay/lesbian person can be every bit as good and full filling as a straight person (if not more so).

Answer 8

OK well for me it took me 2 years to admit that i was bi and now u dont have to ask me more than once if im bi i will tell you staright up IM BI!!!! Im proud.Even my mom knows.

You want to say you are normal so you tell yourself im not bi it cant be and your mind has a fear of it.SO you tell yourself it cant be and you wont let it and you will say that you are straight.

One day I woke up and i told myself im bi its who i am and i walked into school and had a smile on my face and thats when i realized i was in love with my best friend.I told her i was bi and i liked her.she smiled and i swear to this day nothing has ever been able to come CLOSE to the feeling i got when she smiled at me and told me she liked me back.

We are now together and will be together for a year on Valentine's Day and to this day i still get butterflies when she calls me and i hear her voice or at the sight of her or even when i talk about her.

Best of luck send me an IM or message if u wanna talk,
Ash

Answer 9

I am not sure if you are in high school, college, or in the work world. Many universities have GLBT groups where you can get support. I know that many larger cities also have GLBT groups. I suggest you do a yahoo search on GLBT and find a group near you. Good luck.

Answer 10

what the hell? why on earth would you have a problem with your sexuality?
'deal with it' like this: tell yourself and truly believe sexual orientation is such a small detail of ones own life that it PRETTY MUCH DOESNT MATTER.
tell yourself and truly believe that YOU are HUMAN and humans engage in homosexual activity very often, as often as all the other animals out there, and that homosexual behavior is expected to occur with most, if not all people.
tell yourself and truly believe that NO ONE in your inner circle, your family will be affected negatively because of your sexual orientation, because they'll never hear about it.
tell yourself and truly believe that having more homosexual tendencies than hetero doesnt make you unique, and doesnt merit a reason to go off and tell your family and friends what turns you on sexually.
tell yourself and truly believe that one must live life to the fullest, fuc k who ever they want to fu ck - (in a safe manner), accept one's self, and one must NEVER question their desires.

thats how i 'deal with it.'