This is my problem Please help me. I was in love with this man from highschool, my first love, we broke up and I started seeing someone else and so did he. We both married the people that we started dating. I had to leave my husband beacuse of abuse. Over the past 2 weeks my highschool love has started working in the same place as me. He comes to see me before work and after. His is not happy with his wife. Lastnight he asked me for a hug and the next thing I know we are in a very romantic kiss. I pull away (but I didnt want to) and told him I needed to go back to work I turn around and then he turnes me back around and gave me another very romantic kiss. What should I do?? What do you think that this means PLEASE HELP ME
2007-02-03 15:17:52 · 18 answers · asked by need help now 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds to me like he still wants to be with you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-03 15:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, ah, I would think that the kiss you describe could very well fall into the character of sex--- and adultery. This man already has a wife; you need to choose someone who does not already have a wife. I would be mad too if my husband was tough swapping with someone else. There are words for people like you- but Yahoo will not allow it. How do you know that you are the only one he has ever kissed other than his wife? I don't think you were his first rodeo, if you get my meaning? You can be foolish and take this kiss and try to make something meaningful about it. You basically offered yourself to the guy on a silver platter and he took the bait. One thing you gotta ask yourself-"If he did this to his wife and we get together, how long will it be before he does it to me?
2016-03-15 05:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him alone. He is married. Until he isn't, your messing with another woman's man. It was wrong of him to kiss and hug on you - it is wrong of him to try to start up a romantic relationship with you while he is still married. If he's not happy with his wife - he needs to discuss it with her, not you. Discussing his marital problems with you will not help his marriage.
What does it mean? I think it means he is not nearly as faithful to his wife as he should be - not emotionally faithful, and clearly not physically faithful. And it's not very considerate or caring towards you, to try to get you involved in an adulterous affair.
You deserve better than a married, taken man. His wife deserves more than a husband who tries to rekindle an old romance. As a woman, you should not be willing to continue moving forward in whatever it is this man is trying to get going with you - because it is harmful to another woman.
Be smart, be self-loving and have respect for this man's wife by absolutely not allowing this type of behavior or interaction again. If he should complain about his marriage to you again, tell him he needs to discuss it with his wife and make it clear to him that you will not become involved with him on anything deeper than a platonic, friendly co-worker level while he is a married man. And by this I mean DIVORCED - not just moved out for a while, not just separated - DIVORCED.
I mean it, you deserve better than simply settling for the physical attention thrown at you from a married man. There are plenty of single fish in the sea - find one of those. Good luck to you. I hope you make the right decisions.
2007-02-03 15:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means he wants more to have some one either on the side or when he wants does not mean he wants to leave his wife for you. there are all kinds of reasons . if you like him and want to be with him then tell him lets go out when you are divorced. I've heard alot of story's like this. Even if he loves his wife you don't know. its a bad move to try to see him while he is still married.it always seems romantic. do the right thing and you'll see in time. go on with your life dont mess it up inless you need drama. how would you feel if you were the wife? how will you feel when he just takes what he wants from you?
2007-02-03 15:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by mouse ears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the married man is your husband, then by all mean respond.
Now if you're divorced from the husband that you left, then you are free to be involved with another. However, to save much heartache all around, PLEASE do NOT take this romantic kiss any further. Since you indicate that he'n not happy in his marriage, then I would expect he'd like something more than the romantic kiss. PLEASE use your head, and NOT your emotions.
DO NOTHING to encourage this illicit affair.
2007-02-03 15:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you just got out of an abusive relationship and your highschool sweetheart is having marital problems of his own i can see how you could become close and even in love with each other again. And it seems that you both should have married each other, but your highschool sweetheart is still married to someone else. I suggest that you do not get into an affair with him, wait to see if he reconciles things with his wife. If it is completely hopeless, then wait for him to decide to get a divorce or not. If he divorces his wife then you both can rekindle an old flame.
2007-02-03 15:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by laangel464 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means you should not get involved. You're away from your husband from abuse and by the way, good for you. I would completely understand that. But, this guy is married and STILL with his wife. Regardless, that he's not happy with his wife. Doesn't mean he starts.......well.......ya know.........anything. It's definately not fair to you. Usually, it doesn't end up where you would like it to be. First, he has to leave his wife and possibly divorce before he starts anything with you. If you choose! Anyways, I hope this is helpful.
2007-02-03 15:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by ********* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means he wanted to kiss you and you liked it. I would suggest you stay as far away from him as possible as long as he is still living at home with his wife but we both know you are going back for more.
2007-02-03 15:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by lilygateau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he wants sex on the side! Don't be a home-wrecker & make it very clear to him that he's way out of line!
Good luck & look for a man who can be trusted to put your feelings first! You deserve much better.
2007-02-03 15:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means that you are about to start an affair with a married man. do not do it. it will only lead to problems and pain for everyone but HIM. run away as fast as you can. leave the past in the past
2007-02-03 15:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, lets see, he is cheating on his current wife, so when he gets with you and is no longer happy, he will cheat on you. Pretty simple formula. If you want to be with a cheater, then at least know in advance that you will be disappointed. Not maybe, for sure!
2007-02-03 15:20:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋