Ten months ago I found out my now ex husband was having an affair. We were having problems - problems I thought we could work through with some help. I guess I was wrong. He is now living with the other woman. I have custody of our son. He visits his Dad every other weekend. Today, I put our house up for sale. I found a smaller house that fits my needs. But, for some reason, tonight I just sat on my kitchen floor and cried for an hour. I thought I was past this. I thought I had finished with the crying and was moving forward. Is this just a minor set back? Anybody else go through this type of thing? I am trying to move forward but I am really down tonight. Please tell me this is normal and when I wake up tomorrow I will be okay.
2007-02-03 15:16:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is normal. When you put your house up for sale it brought back memories of the house being a "family" house, a house that you, your ex and your son shared together as a family and once you sell it and move to another things will get even better.
Just remember that time heals all wounds.
2007-02-04 09:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by n0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel this way.Chances are you will still have these days a couple of years from now also.It's hard to put it all completely behind you and even if you did get past it all you will still have old memories that pop up.Don't dwell on it to long everyone that has had a bad ending has these days.Just remember that when they come around try to find something else to take your mind off the pain.If you didn't have these days the good ones wouldn't be as good.Keep a positive outlook and move ahead.
2007-02-03 23:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- it sure is normal for you to be upset. You were betrayed by someone you trusted and now your whole life has changed. You sound like a very practical woman doing the best you can for yourself and your child. In many ways -you have moved forward- but don't expect yourself to always be strong. What you are going through isn't easy. Get support from your famly, friends- and maybe a professional if needed.
2007-02-04 01:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This hurts to much because you are not past the pain of it yet.. You may very well need counseling and help for what you are feeling. you may also be depressed and down. Seek medical help and get a complete physical done as well... You may also need medical attention and medication if you are depressed. What you are feeling is normal you just need time and help to heal and start to get past it. You havfe also just put up your house for sale and this will upset you when you move and have to start all over again somewheres else.
2007-02-03 23:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart trully bleeds for you, you will have your ups and downs.
You will go through many lonely, frustrating, gut wrenching hurtful nights. The smart thing is this you are going THROUGH it get my ponit, not standing still. There is NO LIGHT at the end of the tunnel, even if there is a light at the end of the tunnel its probably a train heading in your direction. No, no you are the LIGHT in that tunnel, you make things happen, you are the intiator. Its about you now
2007-02-04 00:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by quinton p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, time heals all wounds. Your feelings are normal, and you will be okay. The more things you do (hobbies, fun things) the better you'll feel. Just keep busy, and try not to dwelll on the past or what your ex is doing. It's time to make you happy!
2007-02-03 23:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me some women get emotional after a divorce its normal its hard to get over someone you've been with for so long, he wasn't real with you he was a jerk, just give it time and you'll get stronger, i know it will work out for you and the other woman she should be slapped hard for behing so selfish she has no values but what i do know is what goes around comes around and it will hit her hard.
2007-02-03 23:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Baby_K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just normal !!!!!!!
things will get better in time !!!
good luck !!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-03 23:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by babyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋