So called friends or loneliness?

Question

I really dont know what to do anymore. Its because nowadays i dont honestly know who my true friends are. Yeah they get me thinking they're my true friends but then one day they end up not caring about me at all and they just leave. I dont know whether i should make more "so called" friends or just be all alone for the rest of my life. Because so many so called friends left me including my so called best friend. I've been moving on. What in the hecc do i do? I don't mind being lonely but it gets too lonely at times.

How can people say friends come and go and actually call them friends? Friends are supposed to be there forever if they're not they're fake.

I have been a friend. I was there for them and everything and they still left. Yeah looks like im going back in my shell.

Answer 1

to have friends, you have to be a friend. you can't simply hang out. most friends are superficial, they are used for convience of conversation and nothing more. a real friend is a dime a dozen. out of a 100 people, 1 will be a real friend. its a rare thing. it's about trust and respect.

having friends is nice, but i wouldn't hold much value in it. if your an outgoing person making friends is easy. but if your introverted like me, it will take a lot more to find someone you can actually call a friend. as for me, i don't bond well. i havn't had a friend in over 15 years. kind of sad, but what are ya going to do...

Answer 2

I have been where you were several years ago. I have friends come and go. I now have at least 3 buddys that are for life. For years we can hang, fight, or argue and they are not leaving me and I am not leaving them. I have many other casual friends and acquaintances. I think the most happily married Christian man with children and permanent friends occasionally feels lonely. Loneliness is a part of everyones life at some point. That is why we need people and we need God. Love yourself and the whoever is around you.

Answer 3

In my experience, I enjoy knowing/telling myself that I have no friends rather than hoping that I do. I've had several "best friends" in my life, only to grow apart few years later.

Last year, I had the feeling that my then-current best friends were going to ditch me one day (since I had been through similar situations twice before). Then came summer, and we talked only once, yet I still held hope that we'd still be friends. However, I was miserable when nothing ever occurred and they forgot about me. So when school restarted this year, I decided to be the aggressor and end the relationship, rather than be the one being burned. While I currently am in an acquaintance period with different people, I am much happier knowing that I have nothing to look forward to, rather than to be depressed hoping to do something when I thought I had friends to rely on.

Answer 4

there are many people in the world that are changing... and we have to accept that. i can maybe understand what difficult state you are in. i use to be in that same position, i thought they were all my friends, and then one say they just exclude me. but what you have to do is wait for the right moment. everyone finds at least one person who accepts who they are, and i'm sure you will too. don't give up, there is always a true friend out there... you just have to be patient, so they can find you.

Answer 5

You really only have a few true friends. It takes work for a friendship. You can have a lot of acquaintances. Keep trying.

Answer 6

you shouldn't stay lonely...because no one should ever be alone but you just need to keep looking because there is a true friend for everybody!! just be patient...

Answer 7

find 1 who will actually listen to you
and get 2 know the person.
you should not be alone forever.