List some things that are good reasons to want to go ahead and file for one. Thanks
2007-02-03 14:38:03 · 20 answers · asked by chyna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Deb M and Chyna This is a tough subject, and a controversial one. What follows is my take on the matter by way of my understanding of a reference to a standard.
By the question "acceptable reason" for divorce, there is an inference of an "acceptable standard." (PLEASE DO NOT CONFUSE ACCEPTABLE REASONS FOR DIVORCE FOR ACCEPTABLE REASONS FOR SEPARATION!)
- Read Jeremiah 3. And try not to think legalistically (just by the letter of what is written).
In this chapter, the Lord gives Israel a certificate for divorce. In this chapter, the reason is given.
"... but thou hast PLAYED THE HARLOT (idolatry) WITH MANY LOVERS ... . ... when for ALL THE CAUSES whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery (idolatry) I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce."
But what was the root problem? What is idolatry? Idolatry is a substitute in the marital relationship that acts as a replacement to the spouse. It is complete and utter emotional abandonment of the spouse for selfish reasons. The abandonment is abandonment of the person as an individual and of the marital relationship. Israel abandoned the Lord because they abandoned all that the Lord loves, all the qualities of His character.
People like to list adultery. Anyone can fall once, given horrible circumstances. It's a grievous sin, but can be forgiven. The Lord gave the certificate of divorce for the CONTINUAL commitment to abandon Him.
He said "Turn thou unto me. But she returned not."
The grounds for divorce is a commitment of the other spouse to go their own way and just use their spouse for their convenience. In the midst of these circumstances the "cheating" spouse often feigns love. There is no real love, just use. "(the spouse) ... hath not turned unto me with her whole heart, but feignedly ... ."
One needs to make a decision if there appears to be a CONTINUAL PATTERN with no conscience or remorse. Some examples:
1. Continual (or repeated) adultery
2. Continual (or repeated) physical abuse
3. Continual emotional abuse
4. Continual manipulation (generally a woman thing!)
5. Continual drug use
I think you get the idea. It's the utter abandonment and use of the spouse for an idolatrous objective - sex, anger/rage, control, escapism.
2007-02-03 16:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister filed for divorce because she knew he was cheating on her while she was in basic training, going into the army. Also, she found bruises everywhere on her 1 1/2 year old son and he began abusing her. I think this is a good reason but if it is not happening to you, do NOT use this. It could get you into a lot of trouble.
2007-02-03 14:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by nedoglover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are my answers:)
1. Adultery and cheating that does not stop and keeps happening repeatedly.
2. Abuse to either spouse and or kids. Especially physical abuse.
3. If the unbelieving spouse wants out you let them depart... A brother or sister is no longer bounded in this case.
4. Abandonment too! If your spouse abandons you with no intent of ever coming back to you.
2007-02-03 14:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need an excuse from a stranger for a divorce ??? hmmm
now just how many of us know you personally ??? and why do you need a stranger to butt into your personal life ???
Be an adult and think for yourself...if you can't then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place and shouldn't get married again....
Grow up....
2007-02-03 14:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's up to each couple, but there is no "good" reason unfortunately it's something bad that tears a family apart. the most common monsters are: abuse, adultery, emotional abandonment.
2007-02-03 14:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by mcneely96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he should be the one filing
2007-02-03 14:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most importantly realizing that this is NOT the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with would be the most important to me, thats why i left. tired of the lies, the cheating, the abuse, and realizing it was never going to change.
2007-02-03 14:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to the christian bible, adultery is the only valid reason for divorce.if you do not follow the teachings of the bible, then the skys the limit
2007-02-03 15:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical, mental or verbal abuse. Or both of you just can't stand each other anymore. Simply not happy anymore.
2007-02-03 14:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by SANDRA H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating, lying, drugs, abuse(physical,emotinal,or mentel),staying out all night with out considering your feelings.
2007-02-03 14:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by swty059p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋