Is it normal and do you do this?

Question

Is it normal when nobody is around except you and to like pretend there are people and talk and stuff. Today i kinda did that and kind of imagined hanging out with other guys and talking about stuff but i have a boyfriend so now i feel guilty!

Answer 1

I think you need serious psychological treatment.

Answer 2

My friend, my friend, listen and believe me: I do it all the time- ALOT. i'm not obsessed, and nothing is wrong with me. The thing is, when you're actually around someone you might feel a little more intimidated. But when you imagine, you can have anyone you want to be there, and say whatever you want, according to your imagination. I'm rather a shy person. I like to talk, but sometimes i feel a little overwhelmed/shy to talk alot. But all is well, and this is completely normal.

Answer 3

wholey smokes..I'm glad i'm not the only one who talks to people that aren't there. I always pretend to talk to people that aren't there. I can say anything I want to even if it might sound moronic or weird and I don't have to worry that I might offend them or say something that is considered dumb or weird. I pretend that I'm explaining my opinions to them or explaining to them why I did this or that as if they were really there. If I'm mad or upset I tell them what I think or how I feel. I can yell at the top of my lungs...whodaowaoigokinbgoigh. Yeah it's weird but I do that for a release. You aren't alone in this at all.

Answer 4

i do not consider your behavior as abnormal. it may be that you are interested in talking to some people other than your boyfriend and the only way you could satisfy that desire was to imagine interacting with them.
if i were you i wouldn't beat myself up with guilt but ask yourself why do i wanna talk to these guys? how are they different than my boyfriend? what is it that i appreciate about them?
you can learn more about yourself and your needs and preferences using such self examination! :)

Answer 5

That's how most people masturbate. Don't feel guilty everyone does it. Your boyfriend is probably doing it right now.

Answer 6

what constitutes "normal" is always an open question. normal is not an absolute, and is usually based upon cultural-religious guidelines, for example. my view would be that if your behaviors harm no one, including yourself, then they are acceptable, no matter what anyone says. if your activity as described brings you comfort and pleasure, continue it. becoming an individual, as opposed to becoming a person who permits herself to be repressed in order to gain favor with others, is taking the correct path, in my view. be yourself. if that is unacceptable to another, then let him/her go, if necessary so as to maintain your integrity. btw, integrity means wholeness. good luck!! ;-)

Answer 7

dont worry..although not many people do this, there is nothing wrong w/it
i myself have a dream man (no bf though) but even when i had a bf..i still imagined my former dream man was around alot
i even do it with my mom's bf...i tell him all these conversations i have with Drake. one time i was like Drake got mad at me because i let the baby bunny on the bed and the baby peed on him. (i have a Drake pillow and also one for my former dream man who i now consider my homie) i told him a few times: ech can you believe it why does Raviv always have to fight with Drake over me? Drake is being nice and Raviv always has to be rude about it.
ok so in my case some people say im obsessed with Drake..i really dont think i am but even if i was, everyones obsessed about something might as well be an actual person. sometimes i even deny when my mom or her bf say get your pillow when we're going to his house or another room or something...i say like dont worry ill get Drake. i completely ignore the word 'pillow'. yes it does provide me with comfort but deep down i know its not real that hes not really here but i prevent myself from thinking about it.
it just shows that you have imagination..which is a good thing to have. having people around is your comfort zone and everyone has one..whether it be just their room or fantasy land.
take it from me: just dont let it rule your life...sometimes i go overboard and i kinda isolate myself but i do talk to some people obviously: my online buddies, my bunnies, my mom, her bf..his kids. so if you isolate yourself a little its ok. you have a bf still and youre not ditching him for these people..so thats good. youre still getting social interaction but sometimes you need a moment to yourself so you can talk to people who can understand you and couldnt really hurt you. its kinda like talking to a pet..you know they could never say bad things to you because they cant really talk but you know they love you..and theyre always there to listen. sometimes you just need people to listen and a person that you can talk to about private things. for instance, you cant really talk about your bf to your bf..but you can to these guys. when i was dating my ex i had these doubts.. so when he left i talked to Raviv about the..anxiety with him. it kinda helped me think out whether i was doing the right things.
instead of talking to myself which is so lame i talk to my men and most of the time i feel a little better. lately ive been depressed about my dream man (not having him) but talking to him and Raviv has helped ease the pain a bit. i feel a little more loved
this whole experience expands your mind and is also a great way to prevent boredom.
dont ever feel guilty. you know youre not really cheating on him..and most people can understand when a person is thinking about someone else. if you still love him thats all that counts. if he loves you like you think he does then he will understand, but if he doesnt hes obviously not right for you. obviously hes your bf for a reason so he probly will understand.
so no dont think its a mental illness and CERTAINLY dont think its immature..its an adult version of an imaginary friend. you can obviously tell reality from your "fantasies" meaning youre not stuck in dreamland. you know what youre doing, that its all a fantasy and thats ok. youre just providing yourself a little comfort is all and getting a little fun as an added bonus.
you know what heres an idea..might be a little productive way to use these fantasies. how about you write a story about your "adventures" with these guys? ive been meaning to do that with my guys but have been slacking off...
eventually the need to fantasize will disappear and you can feel more secure with your bf. for now just have fun! write a story maybe and dont ever feel guilty.