Imagine that you have a loved one that is seriously ill or dying:
how do you feel? What will you tell him/her?
2007-02-03 14:09:54 · 15 answers · asked by Lisette Wendelyn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
write a letter to him/her teeling your inner thoughts and feelings.
2007-02-03 15:03:15 · update #1
I would feel desperate, scared, depressed, complete and utmost pain from being heartbroken. I would tell them every moment that I had with them that I loved him/her, and support them.
2007-02-03 14:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you want to deny all of it. I did this with my Papaw, he was very sick, I knew he was dying, but I didn't want to accept that. So I didn't go see him. That was 10 years ago, and I still have not forgiven myself for that one. Most recently was my Grandpa. He was in the Hospice center. I tried to stay away, but I couldn't do that to him or myself. The last words he was able to say was that his family was his favorite people. For the next 20 hours he just laid there. I kicked everyone out so I could "talk" to him. I told him stories about when I was a kid, how much I loved him, thanked him for everything that he has ever done for me, and apologized for everything I felt I had done wrong. 2 hours later he was gone. All of his favorite family was there. I can't explain the feeling I had. I was angry, mad, pissed. But I knew he wasn't in pain any more. My advice. Tell them everything, anything. But don't wait. Make everyone leave, just so it can be the two of you. But don't hold back and regret not doing anything. Sorry for what you are going through.
2007-02-03 14:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel really bad, but I would have to be brave for that loved one.
I assume that this a husband or boyfriend as opposed to another family member?
I would look him in the eyes if possible each day and tell him that I love him as I held his face in my hands. I would have a favorite love song playing and be sure to tell him as he sleeps that I love him. I would lie next to him or hold his had at all times while I am in his presence as much as possible.
I would read his favorite scripture!
Those are some of the things that come to mind.
2007-02-03 14:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Renie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would comfort them in any way that you could depending on who it was and your relationship to them and if they wanted to talk, be a good listener because there may come a day when they can no longer talk to you and that is so frustrating. My Mother seemed to have so much more she wanted to say but couldn't. You hold their hand and look them in the eye and tell them of the good things you remember of them and how you appreciate what they did. Pray over them and ask God to grant them peace thank God for bringing them into your life. They need to leave this world feeling they made a difference. Show your love,kindness and concern. You will be glad you did.~~~Jill
2007-02-03 14:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The closest loved one of mine that has died in recent years was my grandmother and that was 12 years ago. I was really close to her, and I got to see her the night before she passed away, and I was given a chance to tell her goodbye. I was very sad, because of how close I was to her, and I got a chance to tell her goodbye and that I would miss her. But I rejoice in the fact that she's in heaven and is not suffering pain, and that I will see her again someday.
2007-02-03 14:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step-dad is seriously ill..I spent days thinking about this very thing..I wouldn't even go to the hospital to visit him..I wasn't sure what to say to him..
I was hurting so badly, at the fact of losing this very important man in my life..The man who was more of a father to me than my real dad ever was..I prayed, as I do for everything..Felt as I should say what was in my heart..
So I did this just Thursday..I asked him if he knew how much I loved him..I told him I respected him as a father and a person..
That he had been more of a father to me than my own dad..That I wouldn't leave my moms side when his time came to go..Which he has been very worried about my mom..
I will leave it at that..Just tell them how important they have been to you in your life..
2007-02-03 14:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sick, empty, helpless. You really can't say anything. Just be there, hold their hand, let them know you are there and that you love them. I am so sorry, I have been through this a few times, and totally DREAD it happening again. Take care, bless you and your dying loved one.
2007-02-03 14:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by St♥rmy Skye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone you love is dying i think its best to try to spend as much time with that person and do some new stuff that maybe you never though you would. then when that person die. you know you made her/him happy. because in the end we all die what matter is how we live.
2007-02-03 14:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Manuel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay there is nothing you can say, But love them as you always
have. all you can to do is pray for them. I lost close family
to cancer, and I am very serisously ill. just telling funny jokes
to them can make there day better. yes you will be sad.
but you love them. that makes them happy.
2007-02-03 14:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel lost & sad but try your best to do whatever you can to make that person feel good. You tell them you love them & how much they mean to you & then you show them by doing whatever you can to make them feel comfortable & at peace with their situation.
2007-02-03 14:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋