Do others have this problem at age 62?

Question

I am a 62 year old widower and associate with women in the 60's. I am dating several women about my age. They seem as if they know everything and want to overtake whaever situtiation at hand with their "best solution" It is practically a command to do as they say. Am I just conscious of this because Ive been alone for nearly 5 years without anyone directing me, or is this something that really happens as women age and their childeren are gone, ie, they have this need to boss somebody around.

Answer 1

Its a problem that a lot of us men who retire and have more time at home experience too. The women seem to think they are the boss of the house, and that includes the occupants, included is ME who just happens to be home now instead of at work.

I had to put a stop to it. I had to leave the house in dispute for 2 weeks, finally when I returned the bossing around stopped per our agreement and it hasnt started up since, simply because I will not allow it to start up.

Answer 2

As a millwright and now a foreman working for a contract personell company, at 65 I'm still working at jobs 10 and 18 hours away from home, because in our little town there is no work. I have a 13 and 17 year old still at home and the gov. pension pays for about 1/3 of the cost of living here. And it is cheap.I got married to the nanny 8 years ago, by a flucky accident. She's quite a bit younger and she 's good at helping out with minumun paying jobs for the next 30 years , at least. I may be government pensioned; I may have a pace maker; I may have 2 little hormonal devils to lock up shortly; I may not do all I once did . But I do find the time to race around the bed twice a week (at most);Hunt, trap my line, prospect, do my job and all the other things I love to do. There a saying about accepting what you can't change , change what you don't like, if you can. and enjoy what ever time you have. I sure can't think that there will be an ending to my life. I refuse to accept that.... Having too much fun.

Answer 3

Find some different women to date. All women aren't bossy or know-it-all. Some women even enjoy listening to the opinions of a man. People do get set in their own ways as they age but if they want to be in a relationship with someone else, they should know they can't have everything their way. I would venture to say these women have always been bossy. So move on, dear.

Answer 4

Some women know how to go with the flow. But some women just like to boss men, children, and others around.

Answer 5

I'm 51 and I have no desire to boss anybody around. I have enough bosses in my own life to know I don't want to do it to somebody else. It may be true that you are more aware of it, or it may be you are seeing the wrong women. If they are trying to be bossy, seek companionship elsewhere. If you wanted a boss, you'd get another job.

Answer 6

I'm 43 and I have no intention of having that problem at 62.
I'm already pretty much set in my ways now and have no intention of being bossed around by anyone.....I have noticed
that senior women are either bossy or too nice. No in between. God forbid, if I'm widowed at 62, and lonely.....I'll be looking for Ms. "Too nice," and try spoiling her a bit.

Answer 7

Women dont think of it as bossing, or directing...I believe that they are just used to "taking care" of and directing ...and that is how they show their love and concern.
I am only 48 but have been divorced for 3.5 yrs now....and the biggest thing for me to overcome was not having anyone to "take care" of. It made me feel needed....I am having to learn how to be in relationships without "taking care" of everything and everyone. Its a process.
Your women might not know how to "not take care either".
We dont have a need to be boss someone around....We just feel good about "taking care of things"....thats how our generation did things.....But oh the times they are a changin"....Give them a chance...talk to them and discuss the issue....
My ex is 50...he says the same thing as you about all his new girlfreinds. He just wants sex and someone to go out and eat with....they wanta "take care of him".....
LIfe is so strange sometimes.
Good Luck with the bossies....

Answer 8

Yes, I do think it is age related. They always had somebody telling them what to do when they were young women. Now, they don't give a damn what anybody thinks and they do things their way. Since it is older single women you are talking about, they've figured out how to do just fine by theirselves and have become very confident.

Answer 9

At your age, if you look back, you will recall that while you worked and earned a living, your wife was taking care of all those "social" things (remembering birthdays, purchasing the Christmas gifts, writing notes and cards of thanks, making dinner reservations, etc.). How much of that did you do? These women you are dating are used to taking charge of social things. If you have a woman you like and she is taking too much charge, ask her if you could have some input, too. In fact, take some initiative and make the plans BEFORE you ask her out. Get some tickets to an event and call her and ask if she wants to accompany you to a museum, concert, sporting event, dinner party, etc. Plan it out ahead and then ask her out. That way, she has less input. My gut feeling is that you let your wife do all the planning and now you want to do it all. COMPROMISE.

Answer 10

most women I know become bossier as they get older, I personally am hoping to make a conscious effort to have the proper balance..........I think what happens at least from my age group and older we where stifled in so many areas of our lives for so many different reasons as we age we become more confident and less inclined to put others needs before our own, in turn alot of women take this coming into their own too far and end up driving people out of their lives