I'm in college. I used to be friends with this girl who seemed to be nice at first. We hung out a lot, had lunch, talked about problems; all the stuff that good friends usually do together. But then I noticed stuff. She held a lot of interest in very dark, morbid material: books, music, etc. She was watching really weird music videos, x-rated, no doubt about it, in the SCHOOL LIBRARY! Plus, her sense of humor became a lot more 'adult.' I'm not into those things at all. I'm studying really hard to get into medical school and she supposedly has the same goals in mind, but has no social ettiquete. I tolerated it for a while, because she's not all bad, but I finally snapped when she tried to stop me from getting help for my schoolwork from a tutor. She wanted me to hang out instead. She was bossy. She has a really bad life & I feel bad for ignoring her calls. But I don't want to restart my friendship w/ her. I found new friends who I get along with very well and share my goals. What to do?
2007-02-03 13:57:55 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The best thing to do is answer one of her calls and tell her the truth, you just can handle the negative behaviour and you have things that are more important than being rude. Please, leave you alone, you are not interested in this behaviour and want positivity in your life. Remember positive attracks positive negative attracks negative. Just be straight up and tell her. Take care Heather
2007-02-03 14:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know that this person has a bad vibe about them and you don't need to be around it. Try avoidance at first and see if that works. Ignore the phone, always be too busy to make a plan etc. She should get the hint.
If not, then you may need to tell her you are simply to busy. And ask her politely if she would please LOSE YOUR NUMBER.
You have a good head on your shoulders and if you hang around with a person like that, you will stop attracting the kind of people that you want to surround yourself with.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 14:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Granny♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your new friends. That's how you learn. Friends are great teachers in life. Even previous friends can make a good contribution without telling you. People are like seasons; they come and they go. That's life for you.
2007-02-03 14:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Skip formalities. Ask for Jack 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep ignoring her if she tries to talk to you or ask you questions just give her short snappy answers. She'll soon get the hint that you don't like her company
2007-02-04 00:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..all you can do is move away and get new friends. Unless you don't mind finding a boiling rabbit in your kitchinette!
2007-02-03 23:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you are doing now, stay with your new friends, if she approaches you, just tell her that she's too distracting and you need time out from her, your busy and need to study, if you do not feel comfortable around her, then you must tell her, just be honest with her
2007-02-03 14:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have took the first step in moving on, but yes u should tell her u were offended at her behavior & it made u uncomforatable & u can't be around that when u are focusing on your future
2007-02-03 17:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
print your question you have posted here and print the answers and print the one that you picked as best answers. post to her with a foot note. DO YOU GET IT NOW????.
2007-02-03 16:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋