Ok, so I was working yesterday, it was slow, & I was at our counter with one of my lowest-level, immediate bosses, when a few of my other co-workers came up. It was slow, so we were all talking 'bout the usual gossip, & all of a sudden my boss turned around and screamed at me:
"What the hell do you WANT??"
Keep in mind that her & I are FRIENDS, more than my other bosses.
We ALWAYS stand there & talk to each other when it's slow... I usually work up there when it's slow, anyway, to help her out, even though I don't have to.
I told her what I originally came up there for, and she still kept SCREAMING at me to get away from her, like I was some kinda loser. Then, the other boss, her equal said, "Yeah, what the hell did you want anyway? HUH??? GOD!!!"
I thought they were kidding, but apparently they weren't.
We didn't fight or anything, for her to treat me like this.
She made an a$$ out of me, in front of customers and other workers, for no reason.
2007-02-03 13:55:14 · 13 answers · asked by La-La-Lacie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There was NO REASON for her to yell at me, at all. Even if she didn't want me there, she didn't have to YELL. It shook me up so bad, I almost cried right there... but, thankfully, I was able to wait until I came home.
What do I do about this?
2007-02-03 13:55:53 · update #1
Wow, that was really mean of her. I would have cried right there on the spot. My guess is that she wanted to show someone in that group of co-workers that she was NOT your friend. Perhaps someone she likes a lot or whose respect she is trying to earn, someone who doesn't like you. Either way, she sounds like a mean selfish person, and, unless she apologizes to you, I would keep your distance. Don't feel bad, some people do mean things to nice people, it's not your fault so you just keep on being yourself! Good luck to you!!
2007-02-03 14:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to take a guess that you work at a fast-food place and that you're in your mid-to-late teens, maybe early 20s. Another guess: Your immediate bosses are about your age or not much older.
If the above is true: Front-line employees at fast food places are, in my opinion, more often than not treated very poorly. And the immediate bosses have neither the maturity nor the training to do right by their employees. And the higher-up managers don't step in when they should.
Not to excuse your bosses' behavior - because there is no excuse - you might use this experience as an opportunity to look at your own behavior. When you say you were talking the usual gossip, I wonder if this means you participate in trashing other co-workers or bosses or customers. I also wonder if you get to work on time, try to give great service to your customers, and are a good team member for your co-workers.
Again, what your bosses did to you is inexcusable. May be time to look for another job. If you can talk to the general manager, do that, regardless of whether or not you decide to stay. At the same time, though, look to yourself and how clean your side of the street is as an employee.
And do what you need to do at school or gaining work experience so you don't have to work at a place like this unless you want to.
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2016-05-24 01:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report her to her supervisor. That's considered the unpardonable sin of management. You never, and I repeat NEVER yell at an employee in front of customers. Do it in writing, and the letter should be well-written. (If you're not good at writing letters, have somebody who is check it over for you.)
If she is the highest level, I'd express your sentiment towards her in a letter. Keep the letter professional, but it should be clear in the letter that you didn't feel her actions were professional or warranted. You may also want to get out of the job - if she can't give you a straight answer what precisely you did wrong, then it's not a job you want to have.
2007-02-03 14:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lunarsight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wait until you can keep your emotions under control, and then you have a private talk with your boss. Keep the friendship out of it. Ask her why she yelled at you in front of customers and what she would like for you to do differently.
Then listen to her, and don't take anything personally. She may have been having a crappy day, or there may really have been something at issue. I agree that yelling in front of customers is unprofessional, and really not necessary at all.
Talk to her, and see what happens at that point.
2007-02-03 14:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by milomax 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will learn that every where you go there is always a butt head . You will alway have people hate on you just remember don't give up for nobody .Now you know she isn't your friend just don't be scared of her, tell her something back if not she will always treat you like crap put her in her place .Your bosses sound like dumb asses , don't quit give them hell girl . If your doing your job they can't tell nothing for talking they probably doing the same thing .
2007-02-03 14:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by unreal250 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New boundaries were set. You need to take stock of what you're hired to do and stay the course...then keep your eyes out for other employment if this is not an isolated episode. Your future employment reference could be hurt by the likes of this boss. So beware and watch your tracks. A real friend doesn't do this.
2007-02-03 14:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by skylight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is unusual - I'd ask her, in private, what was up with that.
If she cannot come up with a satisfactory answer or yells at you again, take it to the next level up boss.
2007-02-03 13:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be looking for another job. Unless this ones pays a lot. if it does than make a voodoo doll and take out my agressions on it.
Don't ever offer to help her again and stay away from her.
2007-02-03 14:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the laws of industrial relations in my home country, what you endured was harassment, a crime punishable by heavy fines and criminal prosecution. Where did this happen exactly?
2007-02-03 13:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋