my husband and i have been marry for only 3 years. Its like we have nothing in common. when we started dating i was his world and now its seems like i'm invisable. We are only in are early thirdies and we only have sex once if month. I just feel like there something missing.
2007-02-03 13:50:54 · 15 answers · asked by babyb33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should try marriage counseling. Marriage is the hardest job you'll ever have, you have to work at it to make it work. Don't give up, talk to him and find out what's going on in his head.
2007-02-03 13:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only three years ago you were "in tune" with each other, what has happened? If you had so much in common when you married, why don't you now? These are things to discuss together and work on. You need to find things you both like to do and make "dates" to do them on a regular basis. You need to put the "spark" back in your marriage. Start by cooking him a candlelight dinner in a sexy outfit. If this doesn't work, you have problems people on Yahoo! can't solve for you. Counseling is then the only answer. But you need to work on your marriage before your man finds a more interesting woman (or vice versa). Get going. You made vows to stay married. That means you cannot just give up.
2007-02-03 22:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling invisable, then something is missing alright! Seriously, things have changed. You need to find out what it is. Do you have a weekly 'date night' ? Do you go out of your way to make him feel special? You need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you know that things have changed and that you miss him, and how things were when you first got married. If he doesn't open up, suggest counseling, by his reactions you should be able to tell if he is hiding something. Hopefully, he will open up and be honest. There could be soooo many things that have changed. Job? Children? Weight? Interest? Take some time and try to solve it from your end, but I think you need to make a special night out or dinner with a good talk at the end. Good Luck. I hope he is honest and misses you too!
2007-02-03 22:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't try councelling then there's little else that can be done.
I'm sure you've tried all the 'sexy' stuff that everyone seems to suggest with questions like this, and it rarely works either..
When a partner becomes UN-interested about sex, there's usually 'lots' of other things happening too, like, less affection, less talkative, less attentive to your needs, and simply less 'interested' in you in general..
All these things point to an 'emotional seperation' which leads to a physical seperation,( no hugging, kissing etc,) and eventually leads to a devorce.
That is, unless you get help!!
No man or woman likes to feel UN-loved, and will only be able to endure it for so long, then
'BANG' the lid blows off and things come crashing down..
I'm sorry you are having to go through this crap!
2007-02-04 00:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've both stopped trying, thats when its over. Sometimes you arent the same person you were as when you started out, people change, interests and priorities are not the same. If you feel like your missing something, you need to find out what it is so you can go and get it. I would suggest a seperation from each other, not for good (like a break) so you can sort out where your heading and were you want to go in this relationship & in life.
2007-02-05 21:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek marriage counseling and help for you and for your husband.
Try your hardest to work on and save and restore this marriage. Try to date once in a while and get to know each other all over again... Talk with your husband and tell him how you are feeling and why and ask him to go to counseling with you.
2007-02-03 22:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, your marriage is in trouble. Talk to him. Tell him what you just told us.
See if he is willing to be open with you about whats going on and if he feels the same as you do.
Possibly seek the advise of a marriage counselor.
Sounds like ur stuck in a rut and you guys gotta pull yourselves out of it.
If you still have love for one another, all is not lost.
There is still hope.
I wish you all the luck hun.
2007-02-03 21:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, something is missing. what? If I knew I wouldn't be in the same situation as you. My marriage too is failling. In my case it's my wife who closes down and puts an invisible shield around preventing me or anyone else from getting close.
2007-02-03 22:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in your shoes.
and, you know it's over when he won't go to counseling and has time for everyone BUT you.
if you feel like there's something missing, there probably is. I hate to say that, but it's true. I felt like something was missing, but I just couldn't put my finger on it. I was also his world and then it seemed like he'd forgotten about me. And, I found out, he had.
I say, go to a marriage counselor. If he won't go with you, go alone!!!! :)
2007-02-03 21:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by BarbieGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it is over when you both have no respect for each other, or when the honesty is gone , or when there is lies. you know when the trust is betrayed. You know it is over if one is cheating on the other because love is all of these things its not just sex its responsibility, caring,sharing and being there for each other.Listening to each other. Supporting each otherand being there for one another.
2007-02-03 22:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by swty059p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋