Is it too young to be married at 20?

Question

Im finishing my education at 19+ and thinking of working after that. And my boyfriend is 5 yrs older than me and he's working. And Im 18 yrs old.

Answer 1

It might be a bit too young! I think 23-24 is a good age to get married. But my sister, who is also 18, is thinking about getting married--and a tattoo as her wedding ring. Hun don't screw up your life, go to college, get a job, find a home, and then get married. You need to make better committments before you make the biggest one of your life!

Answer 2

NO I dont believe that being 20 is too young. Ive been happily married for almost 3 yrs and im 22 yrs old will be 23 at the end of this yr. my husband is 5yrs older than i. I knew what i wanted and he did too. You have to be ready to commit and work with each other through anything. Marriage is a wonderful thing and i would trade my hubby for anything in the world. Good luck. Do it if you really are ready but only the two getting married know.

Answer 3

I know that people get married at an older age today, but both my wife and I were 20 when we got married. That was 43 years ago.
Guys usually mature a little slower than gals, but your guy is 5 years older than you.
I don't think age will be your problem. Get all the education that you can. That is something that will always be with you just like the lack of an education sticks as well.
Financial problems are the number one reason for couples breaking up and lack of education is the biggest cause of low incomes.
Good luck.

Answer 4

It depends on your level of maturity. There's a lot of responsibility & hard work that goes into having a good marriage, so if you think you'll be mature enough at 20 to handle all that comes your way, then go for it. Have you discussed this with another mature, close female that you trust? Be honest about the reasons you want to get married at 20 instead of at say,24 or 25. It also depends on the maturity level of your boyfriend. Just because he's older than you, doesn't mean he's more mature. Look at the big picture before you decide. And if you decide to go ahead & get married please go to a minister or priest or some older adult for some counselling before taking the big step. Once you say I DO do that's it. YOU HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOUR CHOICE.!

Answer 5

No. I was engaged at 19 and married a few months after I turned 20. My husband is 9 1/2 years older than I am and things are great! I am continuing my education and he has a good job. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

I would wait. I learned when I married at 18 that we were both going to grow and change. Before i knew it I realized that I didn't like the person I married because he was a loser in my more grown up eyes. I was 18 and he was 24. Now I am 29 and much older and wiser but he's still a loser. And I married a real man because I became old enough to know what one was.

Answer 7

I would wait a few more years into your twenties before you decide to get married. Your views on what you want in a relationship may change as you get older and finish your education. Your heart will know when you are ready to make that step. Just make sure you get married for the right reasons.

Answer 8

It depends on how well you know the other person. And what do you mean finishing your education? Does that mean college or trade school? You must look at what the future is going to bring for you if you where married and if you were divorced. No one can tell you if 20 is too young. You have to make that decision.

Answer 9

I was about to turn 18 when I met the man who is now my husband and he was 24 (6 yrs difference). We got married when I was 19. So no I don't think you are to young as long as ya'll love each other and ya'll both know what you want, then I say go for it.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

This reminds me of something my Godmother (Aunt)told me when I was around 12years old .She asked me to promise her I would not marry until I was at least 35 years old .She said , then for sure you will know what you are looking for.And for some odd reason I never did marry, until the age of 40.Why , I often wonder why on both counts. But one thing I truly know is, I do not regret in the least that promise I made. Please take your time ,I had my first child at the age of 42, my second two years later and man is it ever great.No regrets,and too many people have told me they wished they would have made the decision I did .Little did they know ,It was a promise I made when I was 12