How can you tell when the relationship is over?

Question

Serious opinions please. It seems as if when you decide to enter into a long term relationship, just because things get rocky, it's no reason to walk away. I thought you were suppose to keep trying. But how do you know when there's no more need for trying?

Answer 1

This is my 1st time in a REAL long term relationship ((i've had one other but it was childish)) but we've been together for a year & 2 months... We haven't never broken up but wen he have our issues we tend to stay on them 4 awhile ((wen we both wanna drop it)) theres times we'll be like if u dont like it then jus leave ((it never worked)) but i believe --an-- answer to your question is: wen you stop talkin 4 good ... cause if u get mad u kno that you still gon talk 2 each other regardless of how each is feeling ------ or wen he get a friend thats a girl and he seem 2 have SOOO much time 4 her and not u.... basically he'll be like its not about u anymore and that right there is a NO NO cause its all about us ((well u in this case))!!!! if he is actin more funny then wat he usually do wen somethin goes wrong then basically he must be fed up wit it and he's over it.......

But naw it isnt right 2 jus walk out and leave wit out workin it out!

Answer 2

There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.

Breakup signs are often very difficult to spot, primarily because the people involved often do not want to admit that the relationship has failed. And unless something comes along and hits them in the face, telling them it's over; the natural tendency is to try to work through the problems. This happens more so when the couple have been together for a while.

The question that remains, therefore, is at what point do you really know that it's over?

First lets start with the glaring signs that the relationship is over:

1. You catch your partner in the act of having an unforgivable affair.

2. Your partner uses physical violence against you.

3. You argue non-stop about everything. You can't agree on anything.

The above are obvious, any of the three things occurring above, ESPECIALLY NUMBER TWO, are sure signs that the relationship is coming to an, often abrupt, end.

There are however some other signs to look out for. Sometimes it is necessary to accept the painful fact that the relationship you are in is just not good for you. While I am usually the staunchest advocate for the "you can make it through anything as long as you have love" club, even I have to admit that there are situations where one or both of the partners are just better off apart.

The most common instance of this is when one partner is INTENTIALLY holding the other partner back. When two people have separate dreams and goals, friction can occur, especially if neither of them are willing to compromise. In some instances, however, jealousy leads one of the partner's to be excessively controlling of the other. In these situations, if they are UNRESOLVABLE, it is better to leave than stay.

Other reasons to leave include:

1. You realize that you don't love your partner.

2. You find yourself thinking more and more about how good single life was.

3. You realize that your partner doesn't love you, but is with you because they don't want to hurt you.

4. You have no common interests or goals.

5. You find that you cannot stand their annoying little habits, and they won't change.

6. You find it impossible to be yourself around your partner.

7. Your partner cuts you down, makes you feel bad about yourself, and constantly devalues your goals and ideas.

Under no circumstances should anyone stay in a relationship that is bad for them, just because they feel that being in a relationship, even a bad one, is better than being alone.

Answer 3

Basically, when it just gets to the stage where you suddenly realise that its all just too much f**king work all the time and there is never a ray of sunshine in the relationship... then you might think about quitting.

When you run out of energy to give and can't dredge up even one ounce of effort to help the other then that is the end.

Answer 4

Depends on the severity of the problem.
Obviously minor arguements wouldnt justify walking out, as would abuse of some sort.
It just depends on what the reason for walking is.
You keep trying if there is something left to fight for.
However, in lifes lessons you will eventually learn that "Sometimes love just isnt enough."
Good luck

Answer 5

1) When the other person stops trying
2) When abuse is involved
3) When substance abuse is involved and treatment is refused
4) When you want a commitment (i.e. marriage) and the other person doesn't, or vice versa
5) When one wants children, the other doesn't, and there is no headway being made in resolving the issue.
6) When things come up that were not previously known or aware of that change the equation
7) When infidelity is an issue

Answer 6

When the passion settles, and all that is left is nothingness. Love is a whole lot longterm, where a couple are conjoined and nearly become one. You see the reality, but something still connects you to that person. If you don't feeling anything, theres no love, if love ever existed in the first place.

Answer 7

When your partner is unwilling to meet you halfway; when you are the one wasting effort and time on things you both once thought were important and finally when you have convinced yourself that you can do better and that YOU deserve better.
You need to keep some energy to be able to recognize when the right one comes along.
Good luck and take care!

Answer 8

when You can look at the person and think I don't need them in my life.Can you see yourself w/out talking or toughing or being with that person ever again? If you can say YES w/ on hesitating then it's time to cut your looses But if you can't say that then you need to talk to them about it. An easy was to start the conversation is by asking them "Where do you see yourself in 3 yrs and who is in you life then? I know that you have heard it before but talking helps if you can get them to do it. I've been in you shoes and worked it out good luck to you I hope something I said helps.

Answer 9

MM you never know, relationships are always different all relationships have good moments and bad moments
I think the best thing you can do before taking a choice is talking to your husband/boyfriend, and then see whats going on.

Answer 10

when there is no meeting of the minds --something is just not clicking.
when one of you two or both for that matter just dont seem to be enjoying the company--not good.
when one of you two wishes they were somplace else...it is time to call it quits.
You cannot make someone like you just b/c you want them to... it has to be a mutural decision or the relationship is lopsided and would eventually end.
Don't worry there are plenty of guys/gals out there.. keep looking you will find one that will knock you out!
Good luck and enjoy your life. You only live once...enjoy.