I was just married in November. We have good incomes and do not borrow money. We paid cash for the wedding and honeymoon. But we nearly depleted our savings. I was going to buy her chocolate covered strawberries but she left me a jewlery ad the other day and mentioned that I might need this. I don't want to buy some cheap jewlery, but we have a deal to discuss purchases over $100. What should I do?
2007-02-03 13:28:13 · 8 answers · asked by toledogolf 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
It is not the cost; but the meaning behind the gift. A lovely bouquet of flowers and nice box of chocolates (or strawberries) is perfect. Don't count money; think the quality of delight the recipient will get!
Oh, and stick to your agreement.
2007-02-03 13:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a newlywed, I know you are always tempted to overspend, because you want to please the other person -- and as a husband who is financially responsible, you are feeling torn.
I think in this case, you should come right out and ask her if she was trying to hint around about the jewelry. If it costs more than $100, you HAVE TO discuss it. That is your agreement.
From someone who has been married now for a number of years, I would much rather have chocolate covered strawberries and a night of romance. It is less expensive, and more fun.
And to be perfectly honest.... I hate Valentine's Day. It is contrived and schmaltzy.
Don't fall victim to the hype of Valentine's Day that says you HAVE TO buy jewelry or you are a schmutz. Save the jewelry purchase for a birthday or an anniversary.
2007-02-03 13:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ifeelyourpain 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were just married in November, she has a GREAT new piece of jewelry! And, if you have a deal to discuss purchases over $100, discuss it with her - ask her what your budget for V-day is. Personally, I would love the strawberries.
2007-02-03 13:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by janejane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet? Ask her straight out if she is hinting about the jewelry. Open communication is more important here, especially if you already have set rules about spending.
As someone in a relationship for 9 years, we don't bother making a big deal celebrating "Hallmark Holidays" like Valentine's or Sweetest Day anymore.
2007-02-03 14:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Flea© 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the mall and pick up a semi nice gold chain for 25 bucks,with a nice card and go to a p&c and get a single rose or a dozen and fix her breakfast,in bed if nesserary. Have a good day
2007-02-03 13:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Larry m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should get her the jewelry that she "asked" for, and the strawberries. Something she wanted and a surprize. And if you get her something else besides the jewelry, I'm sure she'll love that too. It's definatly the thought that counts. Maybe something from victoria's secret ;) Good luck and have a happy v-day
2007-02-03 13:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by apples 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by something that would really touch her heart.A favorite place to eat, a favorite type of music or something she really enjoys.
An evening alone with romance, music and candlelight.It's what trully in the heart that matters express your feelings to her and do it in a romantic memorable setting.
Good luck to you!
2007-02-03 13:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by swtluvingcntrygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy the gift anyway. get something nice. IT is your FRIST valentines. So get something nice ans say that you will get her things u can't talk bout price on your love for her.
2007-02-03 13:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Wicked 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋