I have this ex-friend that did something bad 2 me a long time ago, I forgave her,and I try 2 be her friend again but she doesn't want 2. So I don't bother anymore, but I met this guy, he is very sweet, nice, honest, and caring. We became friends, but I started 2 like him. I thought everything was going 2 be okay, except I found out my ex-friend likes the guy I like 2. I don't want 2 hurt her by taking him away, because I'm not heartless like her, but I really like this guy. So I had a talk with him, and he told me he doesn't really like my ex-friend, because she is 2 attached 2 him and she talks about him alot like they were getting married. He told me he doesn't like that, and he doesn't even want nothing 2do with her. I know he doesn't like her and I probably have a shot with him, but even though I'm not her friend anymore I don't want 2 hurt her like she did 2 me. So what should I do??
2007-02-03 13:27:46 · 16 answers · asked by Ash C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think it is awesome that you are so considerate for your ex-friend. But honestly you have done your part, you forgave her but she shunned you. So now you should be looking out for yourself. If she were still your friend I would say you should talk to her. But seriously I think she wouldn't care that you really like him, she would only try harder to keep him away from you. So I say go for it, cause honestly she had her chance at being your friend, and since she didn't take it you don't need to worry about her anymore.
2007-02-03 13:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by jackichanrules13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon sit down with your friend and tell her you like him. I know you are not friends anymore but if it means that much to you ask her if she would mind if you went out with him. Now you are no longer friends so this is not necessary, but if you talk to her in a letter or email you may feel a bit better about it. Life is too short to live with regret. Make a decision and be happy with yourself that you did the right thing. And I thank you for being such a kind person and staying positive. even when you don't have too. Take care Heather
2007-02-03 13:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1- don't worry about what she thinks- u like him, he likes u, that's all that matters. #2- U can't take somebody away from somebody who doesn't have him in the 1st place. #3- people r NOT possessions- u can't own 'em. If u don't go out w/him, `what've u got lose? A very sweet,caring, honest guy, that's what! If u don't go, she still won't have him, he'll just find someone else, so why not u? U worry 2 much about what she'll think, DON'T! Go out & have fun. Good Luck.
2007-02-03 13:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he doesn't like your ex-friend but he still hangs out with her...
And then he hangs out with you... how do you know he isn't talking about you behind your back?
I'd find out if he isn't playing both of you.
And if he isn't, then don't worry about your ex-friend. Unless he's in some kind of girlfriend/boyfriend relationship with her you shouldn't feel guilty about destroying anything that was never there. Besides, if she was a real friend to you (which she isn't), she'd be happy for you regardless of whether she liked the guy or not.
2007-02-03 13:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have 2 options
1) Date the guy and forget about your ex-friend
or
2) Confront her about the fact that you like this guy and let her know ahead of time that you do like him and that you are going to give it a try with him, let her know that you don't want to her hurt feelings but you like this guy and she obviously does not care about your feelings. Also explain to her that the fact that she no longer wants to be friends means that she doesn't exactly wan to have anything to do with you so the fact that you like him shouldn't bother her.
2007-02-03 13:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by ♥gabbygrl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it anyway. i have found that not going out with someone because your friend "claimed" him is the worst mistake in the world! i once found out that the guy i liked went out with my friend, but only did it because he felt bad for her. when she found out she was humiliated. it's better to hear it from a friend (or ex-friend) than a guy you really like. Then the whole world knows he turned her down. with you, only you two know and it saves her the embarrassment.
2007-02-03 13:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Francheska B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo I didn't read the entire question. Here's why - She did something bad to you in the past. You forgave her and you try to be her friend - however she doesn't want that.
That's it - Stop wasting your time. Don't let certain individuals run you life for your life is up to you and no one else. Be stronger kiddo...:)>
2007-02-03 13:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you guys have been talking and they are not dating, he is fair game. If you guys were still good friends, I would have suggested that you still go for it, but talk to her first to make sure she was OK with it. BUT - since that's not the case, he's fair game.
You don't see her not talking with him because you like him, right?
2007-02-03 13:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short to be unhappy. If this fellow makes you happy and does not want the other person, but wants you, then why make yourself and him unhappy because of some one that has no regards at all for you.
In other words, it is silly to hurt yourself for someone that does not want to be your friend.
2007-02-03 13:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Henry M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think you will be doing something bad to here or taking him from her like you said because obsiously he's not hers!! i undrestand that they are not together so you're not doing anything wrong if they were together then yes you might say that it's wrong. But in the end it's his decision who he wants to be with
2007-02-03 13:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by sasavert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋