the last time that my hubby and I had sex. We got married 9 months ago and should be in the 'honeymoon" phase of our relationship....I'm to the point now where I have just stopped asking because I don't want to be a nag....I'm just so sad. I like sex and I can't believe this is happening....
2007-02-03 13:16:22 · 10 answers · asked by MK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is not gay, he is not having an affair, we don't have any kids (have to have sex to have kids, remember?) I have asked, and I am starting to think it's me....I guess at what point do I really need to think about counseling?
2007-02-03 13:49:36 · update #1
Girl, the same thing happened to me.
You know it's amazing how when you loose the feeling one day is when they want you. Don't give it importance anymore.... really get into yourself. Hit the gym, buy some new makeup, get all dressed... Seems like when they are too secure in the relationship, it's not impt. to them anymore.... BELIEVE ME. Tomorrow morning wake up and go for a run. Preferably he'll wake up when you are walking in drenched of sweat in work out clothes.... SOMETHING NEW FOR HIM TO GET THE WHEELS TURNING IN THAT LITTLE HEAD OF HIS... once you are out of the shower. ask him what he's going to do... he's gonna give you a boring list which in turn means staying home in front of the tv. Say very simply "oh, i am gonna run some errands." go to CVS, have fun looking at different make-up, go to the mall hit the body shop for some cool smelling lotion and a super cute outfit that you will be wearing tomorrow night to watch the super bowl... keep this new attitude for a week, he's gonna come on to you....
2007-02-03 13:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! You're going to have to ask your husband what happened or what changed, and why he doesn't want to have sex with you. Normally I don't like counselling, but in this case, I would try to get some. If your hubby won't go with you, then go by yourself. Just a thought, but does he want children? Maybe he's afraid of having children right away. If that's the case, then you could take precautions and hopefully you two can get back down to business! Good luck!
2007-02-03 13:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually this happens to guys after she has a kid. You need to talk to him and address it. Let him know it is bothering you. Let's face it, if he isn't gay he wants to have sex. If he married you it should be with you. So if he isn't gay he should want to have sex with you. So, either he is gay, is having sex somewhere else, or something is VERY wrong in his head to make his penis turn off like that.
Talk to him. You are married you have the right to be blunt and ask WHY.
2007-02-03 13:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by John S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my relationship changed with my husband the day after we got married it is like "well i got her now i can stop trying" sadly 7 years later it is still the same but at the same time other parts of our relationship are better maybe the old saying is true.....you can't always have everything....don't give up hang in there things will get better....
good luck...
2007-02-03 13:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by sway137 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a philological or emotional problem of some kind? I don’t know of any men that don’t want to have sex with their wives. I’d say you’d better seek out some professional help and fast!
2007-02-03 13:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by G. H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try and play certain rolls in the bedroom try dressing up when he comes home you will be ready do things to try and turn him on or maybe he feeling self contious about himself you need to talk about it and find out what is going on
2007-02-03 13:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by BlessedMommyof3.. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need another man
2007-02-03 13:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by groverpawhurt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens and there is absolutely nothing that can be done about it
2007-02-03 13:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have a clue, but I am sure it has nothing to do with you.
2007-02-03 13:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by noooway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks!!! Have you asked why he doesn't want to have sex?
2007-02-03 13:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by alter_egob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋