I have been married for 7 years and have to kids. When my husband comes home from work he gets right on the comp. as if we arent around.My kids are 4 and 1 are they want to play with him, as do I. We are both 25 years old how do I get him to group up and pay attention the us?
2007-02-03 13:04:04 · 13 answers · asked by myvote01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband and i recently went thru this, but it was the xbox360. we sat down and had a serious talk about how it makes me feel when he would come home and jump straight on his game. now he plays with our daughter when he gets home, and doesn't get on his game until after dinner and the kid is in bed, but then only for 2 hrs at the most!! good luck and i think you need to have this talk with your husband asap!!!
2007-02-03 13:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you can't make him change. He has to want to change. But he is being quite selfish and putting the computer and the game before you, and that's just not right. The computer should never be put before you.
If you can, password protect the computer so only you know the password and lock him out of the computer. Because he needs to realize that he's neglecting you and the kids.
I had a problem with an addiction to the internet, especially porn sites, and my wife password protected the computer to keep me from using the computer. Yes it made me upset at first. But I realized that it was for the best for us. And I'm thankful that she did.
2007-02-03 14:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to first remove the temptation from the addiction. Cancel your internet access but let him know you are doing so. Try it for 1 month and see how it goes. Hopefully that will be enough for him to realize how much he is missing in your marriage and time with your children that he will then have weaned himself from this addiction. But let him know that there are limitations as to how much time he can spend on a computer once you have done the 1 month trial - otherwise you will have to fight fire with fire and get your own addiction (be it shopping or whatever) anything that will possibly get him to see that he definitely has a problem.
Let him know that for every hour that he spends on the computer he must spend one hour with the family or you - no exceptions to this. If he spends 8 hours in a week on the computer then he must spend 8 hours that week with the family. Fair trade until he learns and realizes how precious family time can be. Hopefully he will grow out of this but in the meantime, put your foot down NOW.
Best of luck.
2007-02-03 14:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. So many people get addicted to pc and video games. Tell him how neglected you and the kids are feeling. It isnt fair to you or your two children. You should be his top priority. Unwinding for a bit after work is one thing but if he spends hours on it a night that is another. Tell him you would like some attention and you would like it for the whole family to do things together. He is missing out on so much of your children's lives!
2007-02-03 13:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him the night before and tell him we all need family time and you would like for it to be tomorrow and that means no computer. Maybe a movie and popcorn you all can stay home and have a night out. The kids need a dad as you need a husband and there should be a family night. My girls are 9 and 11 and we still have family time it is important.
2007-02-03 13:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was addicted to video games at one time as well. This is an outlet he needs because he is bored of his job and bored of life in general. You need to find something for you to do on a more regular basis. But like I said, he's is very bored with life and the computer game is his outlet. I only stopped playing when I went back to grad school and that provides the mental stimulation I needed in my life.
2007-02-03 13:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world.. men never really grow up (I'm 48 next month and i have no intent on growing up.. but computer games arent my thing) Just be glad he isnt addicted to the cheerleader down the street I'd say...
2007-02-03 13:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the computer. seriously, hide it one day when he is at work. and when he comes home and gets all mad at you, tell him that is how you feel EVERY SINGLE DAY because he ignores you. tell him that you are a family and you need to do things together or you and your kids are going to leave and he can do anything he wants on the computer.
2007-02-03 13:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever tried fidgeting with him? i'm only asserting... My spouse is definitely the only with the gaming habit. She has performed WoW sense it is been launched and that i chanced on that fidgeting along with her is a huge thank you to spend time jointly. i will say nevertheless that its not our precedence. we've a 9 365 days previous daughter and we don't log any interest time till she is in mattress.
2016-09-28 09:36:08 · answer #9 · answered by celia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it one of those games where like 700 other people are on it and you talk to them and wal around and stuff or is it like a game you buy
cuz if its the one where u talk to real people thats a little petafileish
you need to tell him to set his priorities straight
2007-02-03 13:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Sushilove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋