Have you ever tried to bless someone and it backfires?

Question

I have two guitars that my mother bought for me, a 6 string and a 12 string. My oldest daughter asked for both so she could play them (so she says), my youngest wants one because it is something of mine that my mom bought me.


To make a long story short… My youngest said if the oldest wants them just give them to her… the oldest says she wants both or none or just give them to the youngest.


Gee what is a mom to do? Here I am trying to be fair to each of them and end up just frustrated. In my endeavors not to offend one, I have found that I have offended both and left with the decision what to do; any suggestions?

Silly,huh...

Answer 1

Since the oldest daughter does seem to be planning to play one, give her the option of which guitar to take. Give one to both of them, and tell your oldest that she needs to learn how to share. Don't worry about offending your daughters- they need to be the ones afraid of offending YOU, not the other way around! ;-)

Answer 2

Tough one. But this is a great chance to discipline your children. When they go out to the real world they won't have their mom to always please them so take this opportunity to educate them and enforce this sense of discipline and hard work in order to get things in life. So I would reccommend you do the following. Talk to both and say to the oldest, great! you want to learn to play guitar. Which kind? Chances are she'll have to chose the 6 string since that is the one most suitable for beginners... Then tell her well the 6 string one is all yours! And encourage her to take lessons. Then talk to the youngest one and explain to him/her that the 12 string is not a toy. That he/she can have it and take care of it but not wreck it. Then ensure your oldest one that while the youngest one 'owns' the 12 string, that she/he won't wreck it, and that if she evers learns her way up then that she can definitely have it when she is ready...Also encourage your younger one to take lessons.

Chances are they will both forget about it soon. If they don't, then either or will become a great guitar player! Good luck! You don't always have to please your children...but always discipline them!

Answer 3

Aren't kids great, at times. :)

Teaching teenagers to compromise is about as easy as shoving a camel through the eye of a needle in my humble opinion :) So my first resort is PRAY children require divine interventions.

We learn to compromise by compromising; unfortunately it's not innate as the parent you get to teach them. You're a great mom, you are trying to be fair and life isn't fair. That may be the great lesson; we don't always get what we want & people are more important than things. They may be mad today, but I've been told that around 30 years of age "children" realize parents are really good people :)

Try to get them to think about the other's perspective and yours.

i.e. If two of your best friends wanted .... how would you feel? What would you do? What would be the right thing to do?

I hate having my teens mad at me but it seems to be the lot of a mom at times. I do know that permissive parents generally end up with dysfunctional children-knowing that helps me to be the heavy when I need to. They may not be happy now, but they will learn something that will help them have good relationships in the future.

Teach them to see life through someone elses eyes even it's only from yours now :)

Be Blessed!

Answer 4

You say you have two . I would give one to each daughter and if the other one refuses cause she wanted both then keep the one she refuses then she will come around just wate and see.

Answer 5

Don't give the guitars to anyone. Rock out YOURSELF with those fine axes!

Answer 6

the youngest seems to be the brighter one and non-selfish...let her have her pick first.
if the older wants to be childish....let her.
not silly at all...human.
peace...and good luck.