Is experince important?

Question

I been in many relationships.. (more than 40) good and bad and from every time I had a relationship even if got my heart broken or I broke someone else's heart I felt I had learn something new and had helped me in some way to become a better person..

but in my curent relationship he never even had a female friend and he is very unexperince on how you should be in a relationship.. he is doing many things wrong and yet I know he is very in love with me based on his actions rather his words.. and I do too...

but I been thinking if he get a bet more experince maybe it will help us build a better and much stronger relationship that may last forever...

I need to know if you would let him/her get experince if you were in my situation?


P.S. he is 26 and I am 22 and no I don't meant our sex life I meant relationship

I really like the answers I am getting ... feel free to speak ur mind

Answer 1

Er. 40? Let's just say you started dating at 15, and your now 22. You go through 5 guys a year?! You may have more experience in getting together and breaking up. But you have precious little experience in staying in a relationship long term, therefore your experience is not very helpful.

Why don't you admit you know little about staying in a relationship long term and learn what it is like to be in an adult relationship at the same time with your BF. Learn and grown together, instead of trying to tell him all the things he is doing wrong. Good luck and have patience with him and with yourself.

Answer 2

If you two really like each other, then let your relationship be a teaching and learning experience for the both of you.

If he is open to it, you can teach him, and he can teach you.
Life and love is about growing together.

Try to find gentle ways of letting him know what he is doing wrong without coming across like you are always criticizing him. Also, find little ways of letting him know what he is doing right without being patronizing. You don't want to come across like his parent.

Personally, I don't think having been in many relationships makes a person necessarily experienced because I've seen some people who have had many relationships and they still don't have a clue. Conversely, I've seen some who have only had one relationship, and they got it right the first time. It just all depends on the person and their level of maturity and wisdom.

Hope all works out well.

Answer 3

Don't worry too much about it... He will learn. I'm in the same boat - I have had a lot of relationship experience, and my husband has very little (we're both in our 30s). At first I was a bit worried about it, but after 2 years we've been together we have developed mutual understanding, and have worked out our initial differences. As long as you're compatible in the general sense, the details can be "ironed out". I think, experience is helpful - but it is also possible to make good judgements and have a good head on your shoulders without too much direct experience. Learning by "tiral and error" is not the only way.

Answer 4

Wow more than 40. U are experienced. If you like the person let them develop experience with u. 40 can be a little or a lot, depends on what you learned from each one. But if you keep making the same mistakes and not learning from them then you only keep repeating the first relationship.

Answer 5

This is just a personal opinion.. and remember i have outstanding parking tickets older than you... But its free advice so here goes..

I'm not in the mood to train someone.. I want off the rack.. I wouldnt even think of involving myself with anyone that lacks experience.. either relationship wise or sexually.. its just not worth it to me.. If its worth it to you fine.. thats yer biz not mine and i hope it works for ya...

I do have to chucke at 40 relationships at age 22 though (what do you kids call relationships these days?? man i dont change my socks that much) I mean REALL some people would asy i've been around the block at age 47.. Others SWEAR i've been around a few cities.. Ive only had 3 LTRS at my age.. the rest were all casual and just fun (i lost count at 200 LOL)

Answer 6

For such a young person you really have been in quite a few relationships. I would say far too many. The best thing you could do is leave this guy alone. Let him learn at his own pace.You sound like you are far too easy.He needs someone who will learn with him.

Answer 7

Well, if you let him go out into the world to learn how to build something real wiht someone, then he may realize that he isnt really in love with you. He also may find that he is even more in love with you than he thought he was. It all depends on one word....TRUST. if you can trust him enough to let him git some experience that you make that decision. Just remember dont make any important decisions while your feeling stressed or under pressure!!! hope i helped!!

Answer 8

I would recommend spell check and proper use of punctuation. As for experience, you mean dumping him and then setting him up with a bunch of different girls and then in the end saying: hooray! you pass the test. The idea of a 'proper way' to be in a relationship is absurd, because love is absurd in the way it manifests itself! Just go with it and have fun. And be patient if he forgets to leave the seat down.

Answer 9

He his never going to have the experience unless he goes through it with someone. He makes mistakes so what, he loves you and next time he we'll do better and make new mistakes. Beside you can mold him into the man you really need.

Answer 10

If you send him off on a field trip to get experience, he's going to find someone that loves him as he is and you'll lose him for good. But, I guess that makes him #41 or something.

What the hell? If you love him, love him. If you don't, end it. Don't screw around with people.