2007-02-03 12:24:26 · 36 answers · asked by sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Took mine back, glad i did too we sorted things out and have been very happy for the past 3 yrs and now have a 4 month old son. things could not be better.
2007-02-03 12:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by karl p 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would not since having sex with someone else isn't an accidental thing; a conscious decision is made. I take the institution of marriage very seriously (it's a legal commitment at the very least) and wouldn't get married on whim in the first place. The person I marry will be able to talk about any problems we have before things escalated to the point of extramarital attention. If the relationship is truly over then issues should be out in the open. It may be possible to fall out of love with someone, but that doesn't justify betraying their trust and/or making a fool of them.
2007-02-03 12:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I really think it depends on how strong a person you are when it comes to forgiving and forgetting. my mum took my step dad back when he cheated on her with his female best friend, bearing in mind she was married to my father when she met my step dad, and it has done nothing but destroy them as she cannot forgive and she always brings it up in arguments but they refuse to go to counselling so it just tears them apart and they won't leave each other cause they are both afraid of being alone. It a pointless marriage and I have always said that if my other half cheats on me and I forgive him then we will have to make a real effort because there is nothing worse than bitterness in a marriage. I think from watching my parents all I learned was that the marriage will never be the same as it was but you could always start again and who knows, if my mum and step dad had made the effort, it could have been better the second time around. I don't think you can answer that question until you are in that situation because mum always said that she would throw my step dad out if he did that to her and she went the opposite way when it finally did.
2007-02-04 02:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is one thing that would cause me to divorce my husband. There is NO reason under the sun for a man or woman to cheat on their spouse. It is a VERY conscious decision and there is not a single excuse in the world for that behavior. Before the action, they are aware of the consequences, and someone who truly loves you would not hurt you like that.
My husband and I both would never even think to cheat so I know we will never have this problem. I feel bad for people who have...how on Earth can you possibly trust a cheater again?
2007-02-03 12:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by His Angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i did once and he did it again. i say now that i wouldn't, but i really don't know what would happen if he came knocking on my door. thank god i know it isn't happening any time soon but i know it will eventually. honestly, i would probably take him back but i would never fully trust him again because this would be the second time he did it.
i believe we are meant to be together but i also believe in trust, that someone will love me for who i am and not as a replacement. i would rather be less happy with someone else than be with him and have the potential to be the happiest i could ever be and never get there because he will not respect me. and that is what i would tell him.
2007-02-03 12:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES of course, l did !! It was something l always thought l would never do, but having faced it head on l realised that we all make mistakes and everyone is entitled to be given one second chance. When you love someone enough it is worth the effort. The trust issues are tough but with enough love l'm hoping to overcome them also. To cleopatra, Rambo and jeff, have you ever been in that situation, believe me you may think differently if you were faced with it also. Love is the best feeling, without it we have nothing, trust me !! Sorry cleopatra, you have and the worst way YUK findind him in the act, how terrible for you.
2007-02-03 12:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely not. Once a cheater always a cheater. The harm would have been done and the trust gone forever. Oh and I (and you?) DO deserve much better than that!
2007-02-03 12:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by sbro 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO not a chance in hell i don't believe in going back as nothing is ever the same ask yourself why did you split in the first place there must have been problems
2007-02-05 10:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by top cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! been there done that, it doesn't work. Once the trust is broken , it never comes back no matter how much you try, you never feel you can trust them again. If there late just once, all hell brakes loose. THE SUSPICION is always there, your always uncomfortable ,so my best advice is move on you'll be glade you did .
2007-02-03 12:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by DC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one, Sam. I am in a spot with my marriage...and 2 months ago I would have said "NO, I would Lorena Bobbit him"
Now that he has cheated and we are estranged I miss him so very much that it hurts.....and, now, yes, I would take him back....but there would have to be something to extra special in the apology I desire that would reaffirm our vows and would teach me to trust again.....I'm not sure that the trust would ever be at the same level it once was....but I would try my hardest...if only he would.
2007-02-03 12:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Smiling Belle 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No because I could never forget the hurt caused by her infidelity.I wouldn't have ever hurt her that way and I feel she was very reckless with her actions.She hurt me and our kids, our families and friends all because she wanted to fool around.It would never work again.
2007-02-03 14:42:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋