Early this morning my Husband of 3 months (a couple for 2 years) and I got home from a b-day party and I got on myspace. I was browsing the usual friends profiles to see what was up and as I went to see my Husbands best friends page I noticed a comment from my mans x-wife (very dysfunctional relationship, they haven't spoken in at least a year) saying to the BF to, "hook me up, I miss him." Then she puts, "whats up with you missing me friend???????". My dilemma is (btw he divorced her shortly after we met) : what should I do? I don't want to tell my Husband what she put because in all honesty men don't need any extra encouragent or temptation (I do trust him!) and I want to respond to her comment on the BF's page as if I am him and say some mean things to discourage her from ever going there again but then the BF might talk to my Hubby about it. What I'm really afraid of is to find out that the BF might actually bring up the "hook-up" she's asking for to my Husband. Help!!!
2007-02-03 12:19:05 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs. Torres 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave a comment on the BF page saying, "Thanks for all your support in our relationship so-n-so, we are so happy we are thinking about having a baby soon" That will get her all depressed and feeling like she is a loser with no hubby lol. sorry, i am evil.
Honestly, the best revenge is happiness.
Just keep posting stuff on your myspace (make it public) about how happy you two are, and mushy gushy stuff, like him coming home bringing you flowers and crap to make her feel like ****.
She is a homewrecker anyways, trying to hook up with him while he is married.
If you comment to her, you are only letting her win, by showing her that you are defensive about her, and she will think that she makes you nervous, and it will only push her to try to get with him more.
2007-02-03 12:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you that insecure in your relationship that you need to do these things? Pretending you are him could backfire big time. What do you think your husband would say if his best friend told him his ex wanted to "hook-up"? The fact that you mention he divorced her shortly after meeting you makes me ask, were you the other woman? If you were you have reason to be concerned because if they will cheat with you they will cheat on you. The best advice is for you to be honest with him and tell him how you feel.
2007-02-03 12:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband might feel the ex bf is posing as his wife! DO NOT except her if you love your husband. You dont know the motives behind all this. She could write you too from MYSPACE. Do not make contact and keep deny her. But she hasn't so be careful. Reassure your husband about your decision and tell him this is your SPACE. And he can trust you. Then keep it your SPACE. He has no right to be checking, he can visit it through his own SPACE. But thats it.
2016-03-29 03:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing you can do about this situation but trust and love your husband. If I was in your shoes I would probably tell my husband I was going and looking at his friends myspace pages and noticed what she wrote. Your husband is married to you now and loves you. It did not work out with them. If you were to write something down and pretend it was your husband it will get back to him and he might be upset.
2007-02-03 13:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to tell your husband exactly what you just told all of us.
But I'll be honest, I'd be sneaky as well... That's just the type of person I am... But at the end of the day, do you really want to look like one of those snoopy wives that don't trust their husbands? I've already established myself as a snoopy (phone, myspace, etc.) girlfriend, damn it (but he brought it on himself!)!
And I thought such problems would end once people get married... Myspace should be called Cheatspace. Can't trust anyone anymore.
2007-02-03 12:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. If your husband loves you, he wouldn't even think about hooking up with his ex-wife. Let him tell her no.
You don't want to start any problems when there are none to begin with.
She knows you probably look at your husband's best friend's Myspace so she is probably doing it to piss you off! Ignore her and don't sink to her level!
2007-02-03 12:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said their relationship wasnt good so why are worried about it? You need to be secure he is married to you. Has he given you any reason to distrust him? I would not leave a comment from his best friend for her cause then she could comment back and on and on then if someone finds out it was you.....
2007-02-03 13:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ignore it. Paying any attention to it at all only empowers her. Your husband chose YOU, not her. You have to trust him. There's no way his BF or anyone else can "hook him up" against his will; don't worry about it. She's trying to stir up trouble - DON'T fall for it; don't let her.
2007-02-03 12:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um... I think you should do nothing. You should ignore it. I also can't help being critical of the fact that he divorced her after meeting you. Doesn't that ever bother you? Like, whether he'd do the same to you? Sounds kinda messed up, to be honest.
2007-02-03 12:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that worried about it, talk to your husband and let him know that you want to say something and tell him why you want to say something to her.
2007-02-03 12:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by themom95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋