What can be done to reduce the divorce rate in America?

Question

Original question by Sleepiselusive ended in a tie and I think this question is important enough to bring up again. That and it wouldn't let me post an answer because that question was closed. Here is my solution:

The way I look at it there are two main reasons people get divorced. Monetary problems and Adultery. I believe a marriage contract should include the following for both parties involved: The party that is shown to be involved in acts cheating(needs to be clearly defined) will not benefit in anyway monetarily and will be made responsible for paying damages to their betrayed partner.

This way over time the cheaters will pay dearly for their cheating and the honest people will benefit and prosper.

Well apparently Alyssa Milano can keep a useless question about the World's Children open for months on end while lowly yahoo users like myself only get a mere week to get their questions answered. That is f*cking bullsh*t Yahoo. Hey Milano how bout having the parents that made those brats take care of them? F*ckin stupid question. America first b*tch!

Answer 1

well people should stop being babies and giving up when the going gets tough. if you pledge to love someone forever, why the hell would you stop?? i don't understand, i guess I'm just a rare type of girl. i want an honest happy life. i want my two babies to have an honest happy life. I'm sick of all these losers making love cheap and disgusting,

Answer 2

If you live your life by statistics, then you may end up being one. It is not true that everyone gets divorced. I don't know where the 50% came from. Every relationship has it's problems - some end up severe while others are normal. If you were married to a man who beat you or abused you, you would probably divorce him, right? That happens more than you know (the drug/alcohol statistics up too so.....adds to the problems). If it make you feel any better, I am 48 years old and have been married for 25 years. We've had very serious issues too - we've lost everyting. Things have been horrible for the past 10 years but ya know what? We are still married. With serious problems come complications. You have to work at a marriage. I hear people say "I'm so excited - I'm getting married" and all they are really thinking about is the wedding itself and the fact that they love to be with this person BUT THEN comes the hard part.. I really think that everyone getting ready to get married should go to some sort of marriage counseling where the most major issues in a relationship are brought up: children, finances, in-law issues, pets, cleanliness (yes, sound stupid but one is going to be pickier than the other - small conflict). Small conflicts can turn into big conflicts --- it happens. When all the cards are on the table after all these issues and others are discussed ahead of time (without just the fairytale happy ending - and it is rarely a fairytale) THEN you can make a good decision based on your head and your heart at the same time. I hope your marriage does work. You are headed in the right direction. It is give and take 100% of the time. We (people) aren't always willing to do that. Me included. None of us are perfect - we all have flaws. Can you love unconditionally? That is important. Can you forgive if one makes a mistake? People make mistakes. Some aren't always willing to forgive - that can eat at the relationship for years until it is destroyed. You know what you should really do? Live each day one day at a time - enjoy each other and don't take each other for granted, stand by each other, talk to and not "at" -- everyone has an opinion or point to make and they deserve to speak it. We all deserve respect - respect each other. You don't know how long anyone is going to live - don't think 40 years down the road. If you think that way, you'll miss out on the NOW. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!!!!

Answer 3

I don't think we should focus as much on deterent as preventative. People don't just divorce over money and cheating. There are many reasons people get divorced. So, you can't lump it all into two categories to reduce the divorce rate. You have to reach the source. Who are these people choosing, why are they choosing them, are they compatible, do they communicate, do they have the same beliefs, do the share similar family goals. These and many others are indicative of a healthy marriage. How do we teach people that the above are important? You start when they are young. Teach them through example and communication and education. Unfortunately, too many people are getting divorced to lead by example. So, to reach the root of the problem is almost imposible to solve. Way too many variables.

Answer 4

I believe it would be helpful if divorce would be not so easy. With other words tighten the current laws.
I also believe that Americans have to do away with their double standards a lot. There is a lot of hippocrysy going on as far as sexual matters are concerned, and there seems to be no communication about it. To declare sex evil is unrealistic. Sex is part of a marriage and should be openly discussed in a marriage just as other matters are discussed.
In Europe, women are much more open and comfortable with their sexuality--and maybe that's why they don't have such a high divorce rate over there....

Answer 5

Take the "forever" and "till death do us part" ouf of the whole thing. Add until she becomes a B**ch. Or until dude becomes an A** hole.

In other words, if there are some conditions met, there should be an escape clause. You should not have to stick it out for the rest of your life if you made a mistake.

For example, you buy a car and expect it to run well for a while right? You can keep it running well with regular maintenance for a very long time. You neglet a few things, and the car breaks eventually. Now you can make a choice to fix it or to just give up on it and buy a new car. Never here are you obligated to remain with the same car no matter how crappy it runs for the rest of your life.

What other lifetime deals are out there but have no reasonable way to get out of them?

Answer 6

Compare them with other countries people like India,Pakistan,srilanka and all..,our life style,the way we bring our child,the way we behave with our family members,parents and legally we are not allowed to have sex before marriage..and generally people are against the idea of men and women staying together before marriage....mostly arrange marriage...cause of all these things the divorce rate is very very low... in these countries..any American can think/ digest at least some of the points which I mentioned above...If YES then of course there is a chance by 60%, you could reduce the divorce rate...what you think?

Answer 7

Sounds like a fair request and I agree.If someone in a marriage cheats on the other there should be some kind of penalty for this.When two people get married both should be responsible enough to talk to each other and tell their partner if something is missing or wrong in the relationship.If this doesn't happen then the one cheating should pay the price.Monetary problems should be of equal importance to each partner so if one is causing financial problems this person should be exempt from any form of help from the other partner.( no equity from property,no portion of banking accounts or retirements, no help from financial institutions based on both persons past records).There are allot of other things to consider but the wrong doers shouldn't get away and not be held responsible for their actions.

Answer 8

This may sound odd, but we need to reduce the marriage rate.

Let me explain.

Too many people are getting married BEFORE they are ready and before they know the other person well enough to marry them.

I think this is a reason for the high rate of Adultery.

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Answer 9

I think if there were laws on getting married ....like, a fine if you dont stay together for at least 5 yrs. People would stick it out longer. {eople get married too often for the wrong reasons. Most of the time thats why divorce happens so easily. Because they never had a STRONG bond to start with.

Answer 10

Marriage is for the mature. Before individuals get married they should go through pre-marital counseling to work through and bring up issues they wouldn't talk about until later. Pre-marital counseling let you know if you are compatible. Some couple's are not compatible to start with. Don't let your behind lead your mind. Be friends before lovers. Really get to know each other and each other families. Pre-marital counseling help you talk about real issues that could break a relationship eventually. Be willing to take their advice if they say you are not compatible. If a church wedding is involved it would be good if churches did not marry if they didn't go through pre-marital counseling first. It would also be good to have after care for newlyweds or be teamed up with accoutability partners that are couples.