I have a job and pay health insurance for my kids. He alos live with his parents he says verbally and physically abused him as a child.
2007-02-03 12:11:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he is a good father you will be a nice mother and give him joint custody with no child support payments and also if he is a good father he will not let his parents do to them what they did to him
2007-02-03 12:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by cmann70726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I’m very sorry you are going through this. My parents were divorced and I sort of know what it’s like so good luck with all that is to come. Secondly, to answer your question, it is possible for him to get the children. I don’t know all the circumstances so I could not know for sure. He may try to get custody of the children; however in almost all cases the mother gets custody. Many times abusive parents were abused them selves so the fact that he says his parents abused him helps you. If he doesn’t have a job he may move back in with his parents because he can’t afford anything else and then if the children are with him they will be around his parents and they may not have changed their ways. I would say you will most likely get custody of your children.
2007-02-03 13:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by smart guy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure where you are located so that might change, but here in Canada. Not only does he have to proove that he is good enough got custody, he has to proove that he is even good enough to take them every 2nd weekend.
If he is lucky he will be able to see the kids, the state of the judge is always for the mother not the father. We have an advantage that way.
It is easier to prove that he is unfit then for him to prove you unfit. His lawyers will be more concerned trying to fight to get him to even have a split order in place.
Dont worry about it hun, taking kids away from there mother is never an issue.
Even if you arnt perfect they work with you more than they will work with a father raising children full time. But he will probibly get to see them.
Breanne
2007-02-03 12:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by breanne h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Circuit Court or JDR judge in their right mind would give him custody. He would have to prove he could provide for them... HIM... not his parents. He's still going to have to pay child support or go to jail... so he'd better just get a job.
I have to wonder... how did you wind up with such a loser? I mean I've wound up with losers too... and put one husband in jail to get him to pay child support and guess what? Amazingly enough when the judge said "You're not getting out until you pay" he was able to manage going from some freak too mentally ill to work to a Work Release Program STAR and he's been paying pretty regularly ever since...
In most states unless the mother is a drug dealing prostitute living in her car with a terminal illness and her convicted child molester boyfriend/pimp and his gun collection (all loaded, of course) Mom gets primary physical custody.
Judges don't like men who don't have jobs... for whatever reason. They like moms who work hard... and you're providing health insurance along with a stable environment and he can't show that.
You're okay. My best to you. Be a tough cookie for the kids, but try not to trashmouth dad in front of them, no matter what a loser he turned out to be. My mantra became "Your dad loved you very much, but he just wasn't able to be a good father right now..."
2007-02-03 12:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he will get custody of your children is if he has a way to prove you are a bad parent and he would be a better parent. He will probably get some visitation rights but I would bring up in court that he lives with his parents who abused him as a young child and you fear for your children being over thier house.
2007-02-03 13:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Highly unlikely unless he knows the Judge or gets an extremely good lawer.
Get a good lawer and you will be fine.-This is the best advice you can get. Don't waste your money on a bad lawer.
If you live in a smaller town and not a large city get a well respected lawer from intown.
2007-02-03 12:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by sir_blunted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubtful even if he had a job. Most judges give custody to the mother. Unless he can prove you're an unfit parent I doubt you have anything to worry about. But make sure your lawyer isn't an idiot.
2007-02-03 12:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, and you should tell this to the judge if this goes to court. Mostly likely you will have joint custody. A parent gets full custody; when one parent would endanger his or her children.
2007-02-03 12:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by captstevenfusmc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most cases no he wouldnt get custody of them. so dont worry about it to much. my sister went threw the same thing and everything turned out all right.. so just take a deep breath and calm down. im sure it will work out the way you want it to. good luck.
2007-02-03 12:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by lonely heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no judge is going to give the unemployed custody of more than one child. That would not be in the chidrens' best interest. Well I doubt it. But unless he can prove you are terrible mother, he might.
2007-02-03 12:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by Donovan G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋