How Do I Stop Getting Bothered By My Friends?

Question

last nite:my best friend and my other friend hid on me for like 20 minutes(joking around) and i was a little pissed.then, my friend told me they were having a long talk last weekend. i was said "oh. what about?" and my best friend says "stuff and you" and i said "bad stuff?" and she said "no comment". it made me mad that she out right told me that they talked about bad things about me. i thought they she was going to say guys or something. its like she was putting it in my face for some reason. it sometimes feels like just cos im not emotional as her, i cant get bothered. what should i do?

Answer 1

Sorry to say, but you have just experienced the bitchy girl friend!

The harsh reality is-
An enormous majority of women gossip.
If one of these gossipy women gossip infront of you, chances are they will gossip about you as soon as your back is turned!

Women gossip (usually) because they are jealous!.
This friend could be jealous because (as you mentioned) you are not as emotional as she is!....
She could be jealous that you are prettier than her, have better clothes than her, better hair than her, could be various meaningless things!!!.
It is a fault in her pesonality, that she has to backstab and be nasty about someone else, to make herself look good!.


FIRSTLY!!!!! ...Whatever you do... DO NOT stoop to her level and get involved in the gossip!....


You might need to establish if it was nasty things said about you, or is she just teasing you (ask the other person involved). It could be that she is just being immature (and hiding on you for 20 minutes is pretty immature aswell)

Sit her down and tell her, that you didn't like what she said to you and about you, that it hurt your feelings that your 'friend' did what she did, friends shouldn't do that!..

If she is being immature, and you are more mature, find another friend..... REAL FRIENDS don't put you down, don't talk negatively behind your back, and don't tease you insinuating they were saying bad stuff if they weren't!!!!

Just keep telling yourself, there are things about you, that she is jealous of!.... She probably wants to be just like you, have your hair colour, your tanned skin/pale skin, straight teeth, better shaped legs, whatever it is you have, other females will always want it!