i think i might be lesbian help me ??

Question

i think i might be lesbian u know the femme type,i think i might be lesbian cuz i could see myself falling in love with a girl and i have

Answer 1

If you like only women, you are a lesbian. If you still like men, you are either bisexual or curious. Either way, you are who you are and you should do whatever makes you happy. If you are interested in being with a woman, go for it! Its great!

Answer 2

You certainly could be. Being a lesbian does not require sex, just attraction. If you also are attracted to men, then you are bisexual. That part is easy. The tougher part lies ahead.

For instance, the teen years are rather vicious for humans. We go along for years, being told love each other, concentrate on the good things each person shows, never regard simple differences in appearance or personality to rule our reactions to others. Then puberty hits and the hormones boil. There's toil and trouble on the horizon! In that cauldron, which, to make it worse on some, not everyone enters at the same time, we have these uncontrollable urges, likes, dislikes, even needs for some. We find ourselves not only savaging others who stand in our way for something of interest right this minute (a boy or a girl, a position on a team, an academic award, a student election...) but ALSO savaging others who might never stand in our way on anything whether out of habit or to appease those hormones.

Politicians in the last weeks of a campaign should hire teenagers to direct the negative campaigning that takes place then.

And you are 17? So if you announce yourself, to her or in general, you run a powerful risk of being swept into a private h e l l. But if you do not approach her, you might be losing a chance at something very important in your life. Maybe you end up never taking that chance, even in adulthood, if you don't now. And maybe it's just her. You adore her not love her perhaps (c'mon, I'm outside the situation and can make a fair observation that that's possible) in the way men idolize certain other men. As in, you might not be lesbian if so. Are those men homosexual because they fight to get Kobe's sweat-soaked jersey and signature after a game? (OK, bad example. They are. But you get the idea.)

In which case you run the risks without really wanting the reward.

But after all that, I'll say I take a positive approach to these decisions in life. I say, consider it carefully (your feelings that is) and talk to her, privately. Go slowly to the point, don't just blurt it out. Ask her, perhaps, if she's ever been approached by a girl who feels for her and likes her... look... too. Another question I saw in your profile (how could I answer this one without looking??) indicated that you find yourself the object of pretty girls. (Made it clear you are sure you're bisexual as well.) Take that tack with her and see where you can lead it.

As for lesbian vs. bisexual, only you know just how much men attract you, sexually and personality-wise. Not to complicate things, but one or the other attraction could turn out to be an extra dollop of hormones raging in you that should make even the blades of grass in the yard worried. In a few years, you might settle out as the hormones decline a little on one or the other rather than both. Could be doing it now. Or not...

Even still, I say consider things and then trust your results. And like anything you want which is not wrong for you to have, you should act upon those results and work toward your goal. Even if you settle into one or the other eventually, your memories and their effects on you will be good ones if you sought what you truly wanted then. You won't be 43 and disgusted you ever kissed a boy (or girl). Might not brag about it, but good memories never lead to disgust with oneself.

Answer 3

I might suggest you talk to your bishop before you throw the towel in on your faith. I see too many people leave the church over imagined and contrived answers and conflicts that never happened and were only in peoples' heads. In the church, "Being" gay isn't a sin, but "doing" gay is a sin. Look at it this way, even if you're straight, sexual activity is discouraged outside of marriage. Sexual activity at age 13 is also discouraged, straight or gay. I thinnk there are some people here who are all too willing to take advantage of your age and lead you away from your family and faith and they aren't your friends for doing so. Anyways, I think you should talk to your bishop first before you talk to your family. You'll have some privacy and confidentiality and be able to sort some things out and decide what you want to do. But keeping it locked up inside you isn't a good place to be in your head. I wish you well!

Answer 4

I want to be straight forward with you. Homosexuality is constructed. Often innoscently by many children. Children forget the experiances they had as small children. They still construct themselves from those experiances.
First understand homosexualality is constructed, just like hetrosexuality is constructed.
The Formula For Constructing A Homosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward Homosexuality Plus That First Homosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Homosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Homosexual Experiences Multiplied By More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Homosexual.

The Formula For constructing A Hetrosexual
This formula can be illustrated in this way: A Predisposition
Toward hetrosexuality Plus That First Hetrosexual Experience
Multiplied By Pleasurable and Positive Hetrosexual Thoughts
To Which Is Added More Hetrosexual Experiences Multiplied By
More Pleasurable Thoughts Constructs A Hetrosexual
Once you see that this is how it happened and really understand it, it becomes your choice to work with it. I was 40 before i understood this. I was homosexual scince i could remember. Then I prayed and the memmory of when i first experianced homosexuality came to me, and I could understand how it was constructed.
It would be hard to understand this if you can not remember your first experiance, but you could still understand this.
A coulpe of good sights for you to read if you want help overcoming the homosexuality in you. First I want to say, it could take years or it could take less time, everyone is different. Check out the sights below, they may help.
http://www.ilovejesus.com/befree/pnartic...
http://www.ccel.org/contrib/exec_outline...
I would like to say the christian prospective does not talk about gender nonconformity. It can be a predisposition to homosexuality. Not all children that had a gender nonconformity will construct homosexuality. so it is not the leading or only predisposition to homosexuality. Expermenting, being drawn into expermenting all usually are the predisposition, even name calling can be part of the predispositioning to constructing homosexuality. Not all children that construct homosexuality have gender nonconformity.
As i say it is often innoscently constructed, then as an adult we learn it was not the plan of God. God we know planned us to construct hetrosexuality, but our choices may lead us in another direction for God to use in our plan That he has for us. Everything is the power of god.
Let me leave you with this in mind:
"AND SUCH WERE SOME OF YOU. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." (1 Co 6:11)
Learning to seek God, and walking by the Spirit of God is what I am doing now, and there is no shame, just learning.

Answer 5

I know what you are going through, its a confusing and scary situation, think about it, really think. Can you really see yourself with a woman? Like seriously with her? Then there is a good chance you are a lesbian. Or at least bi. Its not something to be ashamed of, but I understand the fear that comes with a realization like this. If you feel that its really what you want, to be with a woman, then you should go with it. If not, then you should stop, and examine your feelings, make sure you are sure of yourself before getting yourself into something that you may regret. If you'd like someone to talk to when you're going through this feel free to e-mail me. I'm only seventeen but have recently gone through what you are going through and am a really good listener. =)

Answer 6

think to yourself...Do i like girls? Do I like guys? Who do i have feelings for? That is the way ur going to figure out. Only you know if your lesbian, bi, or straight. Im straight. Oh and remember that it is okay to be gay. There is nothing wrong with it at all. Goodluck!!

Answer 7

If you are attracted to women and want to be with them intimately and be in relationships with women and women only, then yes you are a lesbian.

Answer 8

If you are sexually attracted by girls and revolted by guys then you are lesbian.
If you are sexually attrracted to girls and guys then you a bisexual
If you are sexually attracted only to and by guys then you are heterosexual and missing an awful lot of fun

Answer 9

Well,then that makes you a lesbian or bi-sexual.There's nothing wrong with that.Why the panic? Just be who you are.

Answer 10

Just try dating one once and see how you feel. Maybe you are and maybe you aren't. You'll feel right about whatever/whoever you are