2007-02-03 11:32:28 · 12 answers · asked by zoe&steve2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you have to ask? If it is right for you and her and you are not hurting anyone then surely it is ok? It is entirely up to you and her. If you have doubts, then you need to discuss with her, not ask on here!
Hubbie and i are swingers, but we dont go to parties and clubs. They are lots of ways of swinging.
2007-02-03 20:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Less than 20 words and you want someone to tell you whether or not swinging is the right thing for your marriage? My nickname might be "intuition", but that's pushing it a bit.. lol
There are lots of unanswered questions, such as whose idea was it? Is one of you more enthusiastic about it than the other, and how does the other person feel about that? How long have you talked about it? How long have you been together, and how would you describe your marriage? Your communication? Your satisfaction with your sex life? Your level of committment to not letting anything or anyone come between you? Do either of you have any doubts - ANY doubts whatsoever - about the other person's trustworthiness? Do you feel unpressured? Do you feel that your partner is approachable when you need to discuss something with him/her? Do you feel your partner will respect your boundaries, and stop whatever he/she is doing IMMEDIATELY? And I don't care if you're right down to the silly strokes..."Stop." means "STOP RIGHT NOW", not "yeah, yeah, yeah just gimme a minute to finish what I started."
But for the meat and potatoes of your question - is it right - well, that's something only the two of you can answer. Personally I have no problem with it. I feel truer to myself, my husband, and my marriage and closer to God because of the freedom this affords me. To me, going back to monogamy just because other people think it's wrong seems cowardly and contradictory to me. Either you stand by it or you don't. So...I'll stand by it, because my beliefs are my beliefs and doing anything else feels hypocritical.
But if you're asking whether it's right or not, it probably means that you feel, at some level, that it's not right. If you're just unsure whether it's right or not, I'd suggest doing more research on the subject, learning about it as much as you can, speaking to other experienced swingers, and really striving to understand it. If you have done this, and you still don't feel right about it, then you've found your answer.
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2007-02-05 17:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really know what a swingers party is then go ahead but remember your wife is more likely to score than you are!! are you prepared to see your wife getting it from some other guy or gal (if that's what your into) if not then dont do it mate but good luk anyway
2007-02-04 08:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by harrierzero1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another question on this site was almost similar.. The wife coaxed her husband into sleeping with her best mate. After loads of drinks he did. Next day his wife wouldn't talk to him and gave him a real bad time, she told him she didn't think he would do it. In other words she was testing him. Your wife might be doing the same thing. Tell her you have no desire for another woman - she's all you need.
2007-02-04 19:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that old chestnut again! With the compliance of each other, 'swinging' is just another excuse to cheat...whether there are problems within the relationship/marriage or not. I don't think it is right, but then thats just my opinion, others may differ.
2007-02-05 04:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steve I envy you i wish my wife was adventures like yours .Go along have fun if not happy say so after you get home not at the party.Can you give my wife some advice or guidance please .Would like to try for myself before i get old .cheers Steve .
2007-02-04 18:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each to there own i suppose.there aint nowy wrong with a bit of swinging, u might like it. but be careful incase the pair of you like it too much it could ruin your marrige !!!!
2007-02-05 10:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by divsgeordiebird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waow, i am not sure, hope it does not break ur marriage, if u are d jealous type, then don't even bother going, cos u will see other guys nailig her,. can u stand that?
2007-02-04 17:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you,re worried - why ask?
Just check it out - a lot of guys will envy you!!
2007-02-04 15:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will anyone get jealous if the other one gets off with someone better looking/younger/wealthier than the other?
2007-02-06 20:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by rhin0692002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋