My husband family hates me a lot and treats me very bad for no reason. I left my country(Italy) for him. Here in Us i ve only problems with his mean parents...they are very stingy.Next week we ll go on honeymoon in Tx with the money that my parents sent to me as a gift. My parents will also pay for our wedding in Italy and honeymoon in Egypt. My family is not rich as yours but they always helps us. His family always trys to make us argue and his mother even does not talk to me. I swear i never treats her bad or offended..i ve been always very nice and give her gifts...but now i m really frustrated that i started to hate my husband cause of them and i think even that i made an error to marry him. what can i do? i m sick of this mean evil family :(
2007-02-03 11:21:04 · 13 answers · asked by manolaxox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would tell him straight up that you will not allow his family to treat you like this anymore.If he doesn't take you seriously than make plans to return to Italy.Go home for a while if he really cares about you he will be right behind you to fix things.If he doesn't come to try in get you back than at least you know he really doesn't care about you.And you can stop wasting your time trying to be with someone who doesn't care about you or respect you has his wife.
2007-02-03 15:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called having "IN LAWS". Don't you worry about them. Don't let them stress you too much, they are probably still in the process of accepting you in their family. No matter what they think or say, the best thing you can do is to just IGNORE THEM. Don't hate your husband because his family is mean to you. It's generally NOT his fault, but sometimes some family is really hard to deal with & get along with, especially if they are difficult people. You & your husband are married now, do you live with his parents? because if you do, maybe it's best that you & husband move out & find an apartment to rent. You should talk to your husband & let him know how unhappy you been. If he really loves you, he will stand up to his family & tell them to respect you. since you are his wife, you come first before his family. A husband's job is to make sure his wife is happy all the time.
2007-02-03 19:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be frank with your husband how you feel with your in-laws and see what he says. He might not know this is how you feel or this is the situation between you and his parents. Sometimes husbands are oblivious about this kind of stuff so you need to tell him this. And also, it could be communication problem though I know in-law issues are common problems. Try it that way, your husband might be able to explain why his parents are behaving that way. He could build a bridge between you and his parents. Don't try too hard i.e. giving gifts etc. your feelings don't match what you really feel towards them, you might as well not waste your money and time. Just be real with them whatever that means.
2007-02-03 19:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by yahabibi_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when u get married to someone u get married to his/her family too, but i dont believe that. I think that u have to put up with his family but not to the point where you cant even be happy or feel good with your husband. You should talk to him and let him know that you love him and you dont wanna have any problems with him family but that they sometimes make you feel unconfortable. Dont keep it to yourself! And if you married the right person he'll try to understand and make things better for you.
2007-02-03 19:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Doña! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that what other people do is about them, and not you. Your in-laws have problems that have nothing to do with you and lack a sense of grace and manners. Does you husband see how they treat you? Has he talked to them about this? When he married you, his committment is to make you happy, not them, so he should be your defender and protector. Do you live close to them? Perhaps it is time to live in another state so you don't have to be around them so much. Don't take it out on your husband or feel bad yourself. Feel pity for them as they are very poor examples of how people should act.
2007-02-03 19:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you end it all: try counseling with your husband----give it a chance, it often works. He might nor realize how bad it is, or he might still be intimidated by them---I was scared of my mom until I turned 50, would you believe it? I hope that you will give it a try. If you do not have the funds to pay for it: Most states' health departments do offer counseling and other services...Good Luck
2007-02-03 19:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times you must suck it up. I am very blessed I love my n-laws. They are really great to me. Right after I got married I did have a problem with my mother n law and I admit I hated her for it. But I still respected her because she is the mother of my husband. But with a little bit of time we got over the issue and chose to put that in the past. And now I can call her any time I need and I know that she will be there for me.
My advise is to realize you married him and not his family. Give it time they will change I am sure of that. It is hard for a mother to give up their son to another woman, remember he relied on his mom (the main woman in his life) for many years and now he has you. I am sure that is all it is.
2007-02-03 19:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by EMT_B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You fell in love with your husband for a reason. Dispite his parents you need to be the bigger person and be nice to his parents. Everybody goes through the terrible in-laws. You just have to not let them get to you. In will benifit you in the long run. Don't hate your husband he loves you very much. He can't help it if his parents act like they do.
2007-02-03 19:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about this. If his family is treating you bad, it may be better for you to have minimal contact with them. Family and finances are two reasons many couples have problems. You may also want to consider couple's counseling.
2007-02-03 19:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then stay away from his family all together and do not visit or deal with him... Let your husband visit with them and deal with them... Just stay away from them and dont put yourself through this. Just visit your family and do things with them. Go on with your life and marriage with your husband without them in it.
2007-02-03 19:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋