My university newspaper says the only real friends you'll ever have is in high school and it'll never be the same after that; the best it gets in university is just clinging to your old high school friends. I didn't have friends in high school. Did I miss the boat? What did I miss out on? Could that be why I still don't have friends?
What about parties?
2007-02-03 11:08:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All the people I meet in University still hang out with their high school group which is almost imposible to get into.
2007-02-03 11:31:00 · update #1
Try not to take some of the first comments personally, I'm still amazed how rude people can be.
High school introduces you to new people who you can grow extremely close to and may continue being friends with them for years afterwards, but just because you didn't find this close friendship with anyone in that given time doesn't mean that you've completely missed out.
College may be an even better time for you to make new friends. You are now surrounded with people who have no opinion about you so you are no longer restricted to behave the way you may have felt you had to in high school. If you are in a large university, then cliques that existed are less prevalent.
It is true that there are people who still hang out with their high school friends, but you will rarely meet a person who is completely alone. We all strive to be among a group, and just because they have a friend does not necessarily mean that you cannot be their friend.
Be confident in yourself and stretch your wings a little bit. College is an opportune place to meet people who could very well become the best friends you will ever have.
2007-02-03 11:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by D H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not your fault. Have you considered that perhaps some of the people you were acquainted with were jealous of you? Are you smart? Are you pretty? Friendly? These are threats to other girls. It may not have been that you were a bad person or unfriendly. Even if you are shy, sometimes people do not want you in their group because they think others will like you better. So sometimes groups that have already formed will not allow you to get too close or to be friends among them because of that.
Ask youself why you did not have friends?
As far as missing the boat.. you can still make friends in university if you live in rez but I think that is easier if you go to school in the same city you live in so you can keep in touch afterwards. What about when you start working. What about when you get a boyfriend or girlfriend ..they will have friends that you can have access to by association.
I have a similar situation. I think that once people form groups that's it. They stop taking members and they purposefully make it difficult for others to join in. In my situation, I tried to go back and make friends with highschool people but all that I found out was WHY I hadn't been able to make friends with them. Straight up, a lot of them were jealous as I have come to realize. It may help you to go back and make friends with them, to put closure on the situation. But with all the people I have contacted, I have realized that I am nothing more than an acquaintance. And a lot of people don't know what a friend is even supposed to be.
2007-02-03 11:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it
you'll make amazing friends in and outside of university
A lot of people I know have lost contact with basically everyone from high school - but still have plenty of friends from either their work or university or anywhere else.
2007-02-03 11:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Maddy G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you missed out by not having friends in high school, but its never too late. Another boat is arriving..university, dont miss out on that. make up for lost time
2007-02-03 11:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Fabregas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't miss anything. All through your life you will meet new people and make new friends. With each change in your life people come and go. If you move, change jobs, you are always meeting new people. I didn't really make friends in HS and now I have more friends than ever. You will make friends.
2007-02-03 11:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by snowbody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs a friend. Hang out in places where you can meet interesting people with like interests.
2007-02-03 11:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by nancy e 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes, you missed something great by not having friends in high school. How did you possibly get through it?!
<3 Try being more social.
2007-02-03 11:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by BOO! 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes you did! But hey, it dosen't mean you find friends in uni coz I'm sure there are plenty of friends you'll meet and be pals with!
2007-02-03 11:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by melgii j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, asking complete strangers about what it's like to have friends is sooooooo much more fulfilling than actually having friends.
2007-02-03 11:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by dick_coxnbutz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think so! You can make friend whenever you like and it depends on yourself! You can start it when you need it! I mean if you really need it, you would do it before so do not worry about it at all!
2007-02-03 11:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Nobody 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋