Lately I've had a great deal of trouble with friends of mine. Most of my friends have never truly gotten along since they got to know each other last year, but they tolerate each other pretty well.
After we came back from Winter Break, I found out Sue told a couple of my friends lies about me and they believed her. I eventually worked it out with them, but Sue was talking to another friend of mine, Dusty. Dusty took a lot of things out of context and I asked her politely to stay out of the middle of it so I could work things out. Well, Dusty decided that I'm the reason for her depression (something she struggled with years before I met her) and that since she decided to end our friendship, she's been feeling better, so much so that our professors have noticed. She has even gone so far as to post this on myspace and tell her friends her biased story.
Despite all this, I want to talk things out with her so she won't feel so slighted. But she's making a lot of people hate me. Advice?
2007-02-03 11:06:37 · 15 answers · asked by D H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes you have to let things go, you don't need friends like that. Remember, the truth will be reviled in time, she's putting on a show to try and convince people that you were wrong and she was right. Ignore her, she obviously wants your attention...don't give it to her. You need to be health and find better things to do with better people. Your real friends will love you no matter what. As for those other people ... let them go to. If your instructors get into this mention it to the Dean of Students. You do not need to be harassed by some nut case! Good luck!
2007-02-03 11:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can post things on myspace you no. I would talk to her and if she won't stop, post something on your myspace about how having friends should make you feel better not depressed. She seems like a crummy friend anyway. I've been having probs w/ my friends too lately.
2007-02-03 19:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by puffalump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a position where people are blaming things on me that they created, the reason she is going this far is because she is forcing herself to think you are the reason. When your around friends you have this need to gossip and she gossiped about you. Now the more she does to hurt your feelings she thinks she will get more popular.
2007-02-03 19:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lexus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
allways try to talk things out. that is the best way to work out problems. if that doesn't help, ignore the problem and hope Dusty gets over it. I would not trust sue anymore though
2007-02-03 19:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by miamidolphinsfan5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but i think you're wasting your time with her. she's not only blaming her own depression on you but she's trying to make everyone hate you. what friend is that to try & patch things up with? i know it's GREAT to forgive & forget but sometimes you can't cuz that person isn't willing to patch things up. for some reason she has a problem with you & it's keeping the 2 of you from being friends. i wouldn't worry about it. you've done the right thing by trying to forgive her but she just doesn't like you for some reason & you haven't done anything to her.
2007-02-03 20:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like Dusty has a lot of problems and they are not in your best interest. Be true to yourself. Rumors come and go, just try to let them roll off your back. You sound like a sencible person.
2007-02-03 19:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must. Kill. Dusty.
Just kidding. I would consider making a new group of friends since the ones you have now are gullible and biased fools.
2007-02-03 19:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by BOO! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let it go and make new friends. If you were causing her/his depression, she/he doesn't need you and if she is backstabbing you, you don't need her/him.
If you ask me this situation doesn't sound very rewarding. Nor do the frienships sound strong and pure. True friends don't belive lies because they know you better than that.
2007-02-03 19:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SEEM LIKE THIS GURL IS OVERLY EMOTIONAL ! SO THIS JUST WON'T DIE OUT WIT HER TILL SEE MAKES A SEEN!(AN AUDIENCE)! JUST GO BOUT YUR WAY WIT THIS ONE AND RUN WITH THE FRIENDS U HAVE IN TELL SHE REALIZE THAT THIS SITUATION IS NOT ONLY EFFECTING HER BUT OTHER PPL AS WELL! EVENTUALLY SHE'LL REALIZE THAT SHE TOKK THIS OUT OF CONCEPT AND THE WORLD DOESN'T EVOLVE AROUND HER! SHE'LL BE CRAWLIN WIT HER TAIL BETWEEN HER@$$!
2007-02-03 19:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by (queen) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to the truth honey, true friends will not be so quick to believe the worst in you. and to be honest do you really think these people care enough about you to give a sh!t, you seem like a good kid and a good friend, people will wake up to what she like just dont sink to her level, stay true to you.
2007-02-03 19:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by ychcyab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋