Can an adult answer this question?!?! please help me, i dont understand?

Question

I live with my grandparents, and they are so confusing...they hit me and yell at me and call me stupid if i dont make A's and B's,...but then they turn around and tell me im so smart i could make it out on my own and tell me they dont want me living with them or they dont want to look at me..so ive been kicked out of my house over 4 times this past month...but then the call the police and have them come get me...but then they arent even happy to see me they just yell at me and hit me because i left?....but then if i want to go somewhere, say a friends house, they have to talk to the parents and stuff like they actually care when they TELL ME they dont? They constantly tell my im retarded and that im trying to play mind games with them that im NOT doing......can someone explain to me where they are coming from?

Im 14, I live in arkansas.

i do not want to call social services, ect, to get out because im trying to get enough money to get sent to live with my mom, and i wont be able to if i get a new guardian......

Answer 1

I am sorry that you have to put up with that kind of treatment.Ispeak to a counsellor about your home situation and see if there is some else you can live.Your grandparents were brought up in the era where spanking was normal if a child was naughty.Your grandparents may be dealing with health issues such as dementia.Tell the counsellor that you want to live with your mother as you can no longer live with your grandparents.

Answer 2

Sounds like you got yourself a pretty horrible set of grandparents. If you are close to the age of being able to move out and live on your own I would just stick it out and try to stay under the radar until you can leave. If you got a while left you can tell just about anyone and be removed from the home if the abuse is more than you can take. A teacher, a doctor, school counselor, police officer or a friends parent can all help you.

Answer 3

Even though you don't want to you need to call social services. You can request that you live with your Mom if you want or with other family members, but you do not need this kind of treatment and obviously they do not know how to raise children. You could go to a friend and talk with them, this might help ease the pain a bit, but in the end there really is only one thing you can do. I am sorry I can be any better help.

Answer 4

I'll do even better. I'll explain to you how to get the help that you and they need.

You are being abused, physically, emotionally and verbally. Start by talking with any one of your teachers. Chose any one of them, it doesn't matter. Your teacher will be obligated to call the police and child services, and I mean obligated both morally and legally. In most places, your teacher would be breaking the law by not reporting this.

I'm not certain that they know where they're coming from, but by doing what I've said above, you will giving yourself the best possible chance to be safe, and that's the most important part of this.

Your age is important, but the rest of your additional details are not. YOU ARE IMPORTANT, and that means involving social services. Do not argue with this. If they are hitting you, how do you know that they won't go too far and beat you to death? It happens far too often. And make it clear to social services that you want to live with your mother. If they find her to be a fit mother, that is precisely where you will go.

Answer 5

It's very wrong but you have to understand that these people lived in the olden days. This is probably how their parents raised them and how they raised their children. They are not going to change. They have been this way all their life. If I was you I would go to a children's service or police station and see what they can do about moving you to a different place. You need to be honest and tell them exactly what's happening. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Good luck with your future and remain positive.

Answer 6

I knew a kid like that once and his grandparents finally sent him to live w/ other relatives.(his mom was extremely messed up,didn't know his real dad) Some grandparents dont' understand the pressures of the world today. They had issues back then ,but different ones,so its difficult for them to relate.Since I don't know you or the rest of the fam.,maybe you could talk w/ a school counselor,or even a favorite teacher.
Good luck!

Answer 7

First of all thats abuse either way you look at it, you need to get the h*** out of that environment, isn't there anywhere else you can live? I hope so, because the fact that they put on an act for others outside the home pretending to care, and actually treating you like that, it makes me question were they come from. They need help, i think that they are sick in the head!

Answer 8

You know my heart goes out to you. I can't believe that you are making those kind of grades and they are doing the flip flop on you. Have you thought about talking to a counselor? If not I would recommend some king of counseling for the whole family because that can lead to mental depression or anything. Please find a professional to talk to even if its someone at school. Good Luck to you. And if nothing else always send up prayers he's listening.

Answer 9

This is a legal matter if your grandparents have custody of you. You are still a minor and the court would have to decide what is best for you. At your age though, they might let you decide to live with your Mom but only if they think she is a fit parent.

Answer 10

I was raised by my grandparents and went through the same thing. I think it's because they love you so much and that's why they are so hard on you. They probably know that you are really smart and just want you to succeed. I know it's confusing, but they need you around and want you around that's why they call the police on you when you leave. I think they want you to want to be there. Sometimes it's easier to just agree with them even when you know they're wrong just to keep the peace. Just don't forget that they do love you and hang in there.