How can young people fall in love these days when they know their partners will probably cheat on them?

Question

A recent study showed that 64% of married women have had an affair.

How can people give the commitment required for real love when there is such a high probability of being betrayed?

Answer 1

It is possible to love someone and KNOW that they will never cheat on you. It's called commitment. You know the person inside and out. It takes work but it sure is worth it!

Answer 2

It depends, are you going to let the fear of uncertainty stop you from loving?

And, how do you " know" your partner is going to cheat on you? Have you looked into the future and seen what is going happen?

Besides, if 64% of married women have affairs, doesn't that mean 36% DON'T have affairs?

You ask, "How can you give the commitment required for real love when you might be betrayed?"

Is your love conditional, by that I mean, you will only promise to love someone if you have an ironclad guarantee they will never hurt you?

Life offers only ONE guarantee, that you WILL die someday . . .

Does that mean why bother living if there is a 100% chance you will die?

You have a much better chance if happiness and fulfillment if you love unconditionally, and run the risk getting hurt, and learn to live though it if it does happen . . . which it might not. . .

Why are you letting your fears stop you from loving?

Answer 3

Because marriage is not always about being 100% faithful, and no matter what the circumstances, there are no guarantees in life and being loved for a short period of time is better than no love at all.

Marriage is not 100% about sex- there are many more variables. In my opinion, the problem lies in the fact that people have overly high expectations of marriage these days (a majority of men don't continue to court after marriage and a majority of women stop being sexual because "the games' over and they won") There is also an overly low ability to be honest because society expects people to act in certain ways (married women are "respectable" right and shouldn't be sexual? Men are "whipped" if they continue to be romantic). If people could be 100% honest about themselves, their needs and desires, and communicate with each other that way from the get go, affairs would be a thing of the past. Honesty allows one to be able to form the intimate bonds that make your partner into your fantasy. People get stuck not communicating their desires to their partners because they "don't want to hurt them" or they "think they won't do it" or some other cop out because of fear of judgement. Also, society has this ultra-wrong attitude going around that "a lifetime is a long time to spend with one person" and those who believe it don't stop to think that they feel that way because they can't be intimate and honest and truly give themselves to their mate.

The examples given by parents for communication and honesty are also atrocious and definitely contribute to the problem. Just fyi, every study I have ever read about affairs, show mens infidelity rate significantly higher than womens, so you should probably quote both if you are going to quote one because both are guilty.

Answer 4

This reminds me of my favorite quote, "THE GREATEST RISK OF ALL IS THE ONE YOU NEVER TAKE." When it comes to love you must take that chance because you never know the outcome. It is said " I WOULD RATHER HAVE LOVED AND LOST THAN TO NEVER HAVE LOVED AT ALL." yes there is a high probablity that you will get cheated on now days, but is that really a reason not to love someone. You can't live in fear of being hurt, because everyone has a time in life that they are hurt. But the only thing to get through the pain is by remembering the good memories shared. Not every person is the same, and if you give up on love because you fear being cheated on, your only cheating yourself out of possiable happiness.

Answer 5

Now you men no what we have been going through for years .It doesn't feel good does it .Growing up, all I would hear is how men cheat on their wives In fact my own father cheated on my mother the whole time they were married.As a little girl seeing my mother cry all the time because my father was out doing what men do best and that is braking their loved ones heart.Seeing what i seen and knowing what i no i still got married it did take three times and even the third one cheated on me.I just come to the conclusion that the odds of finding someone who won't cheat is very slam at best.

Answer 6

the part of the brain and body chemistry that deals with love and attraction is completely different than the logical and reasoning part of the brain. remember the joke that a guy was thinking with his other 'head' though it is a silly saying, it does hold a certain truth to it. sometimes it seems that ,not only does another part of the brain control love, and its related emotions, they are completely independent from each other. its almost the same as saying, why should i try and build a life for myself,since im just going to die anyway. but we dont think thay way. we have all these other emotions that take over, like hope, desire, dreams etc. and they usually defy logic, thank God!!

Answer 7

Because we are all still human and have hearts and emotions and we tend to fall in love. We have to determine in our hearts not to add to this statistic and not be unfaithful and cheat on our guys or husbands.Men need to determine this too. It is not only women who cheat and are unfaithful!

Answer 8

By being true to yourself and your partner. Good morals.Love is not just for young people and we can get hurt at any age. It is a chance we willing take.There are no guaranties in life except death.

Answer 9

if you know they are going to cheat, then don't marry them.and the study only asked a certain group of women that could be anywhere.

Answer 10

How can they not?? It's part of the plan! I just wish they would ask an older 40+ person for advice...And that they would actually follow it! We have alot to offer in that dept. We don't want what happened to us happen to them.......but, it's in one ear & out the other!