Help me!!!?

Question

I am a 13 (almost 14) year old Muslim girl. I moved to America just two years ago from a city in the Middle East. I am kind of having trouble making friends. Well, two Pakistani girls soon became my friends, but they aren't great friends. They too are Muslim.
One of the girls has very strict beliefs. She does not eat Starbursts and Skittles because it has gelatin in it (gelatin come from pig fat and Muslims are not allowed to eat pork). I eat Starbursts and stuff but i don't eat them in front of her because i am afraid she will not be my friend. She also does not wear capris, but i am allowed to. What should i do?

My parent allow me to wear capris and eat starbursts; i am not disobeying any of their rules.
The Muslims girls are the only people i know in my school who i can relate to. I say hi/hello to everuone i know but they aren't "friends".

Answer 1

You are wise to not expose your "forbidden pleasures" (Skittles and capris, etc.) in front of these stricter faith girls because they could cause you big problems (I don't know how religiously observant your own family is). Aren't there other Muslim based clubs and groups you can test out to see if they the girls in them are a bit more liberal yet still good Muslims, girls who share your more modern interests? I know some young Muslim kids do enjoy hanging out and doing teenage sort of things because I've seen them around my neighborhood. The girls still cover their heads with the scarf (I apologize for not knowing the proper names of these garments) and wear the subdued colors but I sometimes see them in pants and they have their heads together giggling and laughing and just being young. I don't know if they eat Skittles but with all the other junk foods they munch on, I'm pretty sure Skittles wouldn't faze them at all. Just look around, drop in on different social groups in your area to see what the general feeling is for you, check the phone book and the internet to find out if there are other social clubs and groups for young modern Muslims close by. And if your family is okay with it, you don't necessarily have to hang with just other Muslim kids. At 14 you should already have a pretty good idea of what is ok to do (eating pork is forbidden but Skittles are such a minor offense) and what you would absolutely never do that would bring on a lot of problems for you and your family that hanging with non-Muslim girls might be okay as long as you became friends with ones who are truly your friends, don't want to see you in trouble or getting hurt, find your cultural differences wonderful and educational, and don't have a problem with your following the dictates of your religion all at the same time.

Answer 2

Continue as friends with them if you can, but try to make new friends too. Find a girl that you like and invite her to your house, maybe for dinner or to study. That way you won't have to worry about dietary problems. Take any opportunity to be friendly, one girl at a time. Boys are okay too, but it may be easier with girls.
At your age, kids often do not reach out to the new-comer because they feel insecure and self-conscious. You will have to overcome this. It is nothing personal.

Answer 3

I think you should just be yourself and hang out with all different types of people. Why dont you try going to after school clubs or get a hobby so you will meet people who like the same things as you.

Answer 4

if she is a true friend she will stay your friend even tho u wear Capri's and stuff like that,but if your still in doubt ask her about it! even tho you think she might have a prob with it she might not .I'm 13 almost 14 too and i know its hard trust me :-)!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You have to be yourself. If you show people in your area who you are inside, people will like you. Prejudices can be overcome. One of my brother's best friend's familiy came from Lebenon. I think he's a great guy.

Answer 7

honey..these girls obviously arent your true friends if you cant even be yourself around them..dont go looking for "true" friends cause you will know the sec. when it finds you!!

Answer 8

do what you feel. If they are good friends they wont care if you do these things, so this will put them to the test.