2007-02-03 10:13:52 · 22 answers · asked by Chris F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cheaters are repeaters ??? nice statement but not true !
in history we have had many who have cheated their country and in the end became its savior or many who have switched sides to only come back and help....
but in marriage or any other contract between two people, i think cheating is like doing drugs ... you know when people get addicted and go clean ... there is always a chance they will do it again but hey if we shouldnt take away their pride and hope for a better future by pushing them to the side lines.....
oh and always go after the reason why the person cheated... cause it just might be YOU! ... and if it is ... well than you just might have cheated your self !
2007-02-03 10:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by prince3persia 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont think all cheaters are repeaters! I do think if you dwell on something long enough you'll do it. Some do it and are forever sorry they did. Also...never say NEVER. It happens to the best of people...falling into a trap set by self, mate and others. Trust can be earned back and a marriage can continue and be even stronger. The harmed spouse needs to look at themselves honestly to see if they contributed to the affair happening in the first place. You hear it time and time again.....one spouse or the other loses interest in intimacy which creates fertile ground for cheating to happen.
2007-02-03 18:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by reclusive_n_fine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is lost but not forever. The person who caused the distrust has to earn it back and that takes time. They could only prove so much that they are trustworthy but that last bit of trust you have to give them, they can't earn that. What you will find out is that maybe you were naive to think you can trust someone 100%, or that you're relationship wasn't as strong as you thought. You'll also realize how they lie and how they got away with it and you'll be in situations where you absolutely will not trust them as you did before. Its tough but it is possible for the marriage to continue and for trust to be restored. May not reach 100%, but it will be at 99% and that 1% is when you have those feelings that no matter what you can never give back to them because of what they are capable of doing.
Take care and good luck
2007-02-03 18:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question is a very familiar one-asked by many users of yahoo answers and the answer seems to be the same every time- only you will know.
those that speak from experience will tell you that once a cheater, always a cheater yet others will say, they've gone back and given second chances either for the kids or to see if things really could work again. If you can forgive and FORGET, then all is not lost but if forgiveness is all you do, you can bet his/her cheating ways will always be in the back of your mind.
2007-02-03 18:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depend on how much you love that person, what you know about the person, how much you have built with that person and if you're willing to go Thur the feeling of not believing what the person says. It get hard when you try to put the past behind you all if you have decided to move on with the person. When the cheater say to you '' I love you '' Your first thought is... You didn't think about that when you was cheating on me. So all the things you shared in the past, is now a question.You can trust them again, but it's a long, hard road.
2007-02-03 18:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different and if a person is truly sorry and the other person truly wants to work things out then the only way it will work is trust has to be built back up. Now in my case there was so much deception over a long period of time and the betrayal of some of his actions has made it beyond repair.
2007-02-03 19:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by kattz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how bad you want your relationship or marriage to work. Who are you to judge a person? Everyone has a flaw in their life. IF the Cheater is willing to work for the forgiveness and get help and we seek counseling together to get an understanding why this happened then I believe it can work and you can still be happy. Now I know it will never be forgotten but it will be forgiven. Now on the other hand if the Cheater acts like it just does not care then it is lost. IF they walk around feeling like they did no wrong pack your things and go, you deserve so much more. It all depends on what you are willing to work for and willing to sacrifice.
2007-02-03 18:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The innocent care-free trust is gone. The relationship shifted into a new gear and would need a lot of communication on why such an evil thing could ever have happened. A rocky road for sure.
2007-02-03 19:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe there's no going back. I would find it very hard to trust my husband again if he would ever cheat on me. It would be over for me. Because I would always be wondering what he was up to . I would have no faith in him if that situation would ever happen.
2007-02-03 18:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my BF ever cheated on me it would be over in less then a heart beat. Part of being in a relation ship is being able to trust oneanother and love only your partner.
2007-02-03 22:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋