what does a woman do when suffacated by her husbands insecurities?

Question

ben married 20 yrs and husband is so insecure and jealous that i can't take it any more just want out

Answer 1

Marriage counseling can be a tremendous help. If you can find a good therapist and convince your husband to go, than there may still be hope for your marriage. Good Luck.

Answer 2

There is nothing anymore repulsive than an insecure man.
I mean, arent all women attracted to confident men? Yes!!

Ok, if you have been married for 20 years, has he always been this way?
If not, maybe its him feeling unattractive that is making him feel this way. Mid-life crisis?
I would suggest a heart to heart and get to the root. Ask him why he feels the way he does. What you have done if anything, to make him feel this way and try to find the root.
If that doesnt work, then maybe professional help would be in order. A 20 year marriage is definately worth marriage counceling.
If he refuses, or if that doesnt work, then you know what you have to do. No one can live that life. It isnt healthy and you would be better off without him in your life, and he then wouldnt have any reason to worry what your doing anymore.
It sounds harsh, but sometimes love just isnt enough anymore.
Good luck to you in whatever you choose.

Answer 3

What does a woman do when suffacated by her husbands insecurities?

Answer 4

You need to seek counseling and help to learn how to deal with this and your husband needs counseling and help for him insecurities. This really is not a reason for divorce though... Has he been to a doctor or phsychiatrist to see what is wrong with him and why he feels this way. Why is he so insecure and jealous.... Didnt you know he was like this when you married him or did he become like this after you were married?

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Answer 5

Emotional neediness and insecurity have cause the end of many marriages. I feel like you...if you had wanted to be a Psychiatrist, you would have gone to school for it. Life is far too short to spend thast years of your life having to behave like a shrink.

I'm with you...time to move on.

Answer 6

oh man!! i dated a jealous man for about a year. he was suspicious of everything. if i went out of town on a business trip, he would pitch a huge fit,and go through my luggage with a fine -toothed comb.he would accuse me of having secret sexual encounters during lunch break at work.( i always ate lunch at work, and left occassionally to run errands) and on and on... does this sound like your husband ? if so i feel horrible for you. i ran from the one i was dating.i just couldnt take it.most likely, you did nothing to provoke his behavior. i have heard that many jealous,suspicious people are that way, in part, because they themselves are untrustworthy.and this actually turned out to be the case with the one i dated.i learned later on that he was chronically unloyal while in relationships. i guess he thought that all people are just like him. i would suggest to you that you dont put too much hope in him changing.you can try with counseling. if he wont go, then consider the possibility that the only way to live out the rest of your life in peace and happiness, is to leave him. best wishes

Answer 7

Let him know how serious the problem has become, and what you plan on doing if it isn't corrected right away. If it's gotten so bad that you would not regret leaving the relationship, then there isn't anything you can do besides try and make him see your side of things.

Answer 8

well first of all jus think he loves u soo much n wants the same from u,y dont u think that may be ur not giving him enough of love n a sense of security to make him not jealous and insecure ,jus think he's with u for all these years for wat if he thinks hes not secure ,my advise to u is share with him everything n let him feel that he's the most important thing in ur life ,well i do think he thinks that u are his most important part of his life, well i hope u will atleast try this for a few months make him happy n u will c the difference,thank you

Answer 9

i thought its till death do us part???
well maybe you should have contested within the first years of his probblems... in therapy you will be told that you have been the fuel to his problem and that by letting him by all this time its only gotten worst go you and him !

now try to distance your self from him gradualy untill he understands then within his safe haven talk to him. a place where he feels secure.. talk with him and tell him the problem. make notes of all the times he has repeated his mistake and show him .. and try giving him a bit of his own medicin and write all the times that you do so down and write down his reaction and show him all this .... he might come to his senses if he doesnt than ... i am sorry ... live with it or leave it !

Answer 10

Child support on husband credit Plz help?