My family abandoned me when I was 5 years old.. And since them, I've become a bit of a problem child.. Bad grades.. Drugs.. Etc.
My boyfriend is 18 years old and thinks I'm 16.. The thing is.. I'm only 11, I;m the tallest in my class and I look really old for my age. He's really sweet and all... And he would really like a baby.. But I can't bring myself to tell him that I can't manage a child.. I don't even know if I can become pregnant.. Please help.. What should I tell him.. I really love him and I don't want to lose him. Thanks.
2007-02-03 10:04:18 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Quit lying about your age you could get him in a lot of trouble. My daughter is only 11 and if she pulled what you are pulling her butt would not leave this house. Be a kid and quit trying to act like an adult because that will come soon enough trust me
2007-02-06 02:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm hon I got some even badder news for you and him, it is against the law for him to be dating you and if caught he is going to go to jail for a very very long time. If he is having sex with you then that is child molesting which holds a 5-15 year jail sentence with it.
When it comes to having a baby at 11 years old your body is nowhere near mature enough and developed enough for that and it comes with a lot of risk such as the child being born with a defect or some kind of mental problem and you being so young it can take a big tole on your body and even kill you, there is a very large chance of you having the baby prematurely or having a miscarriage.
I think what you really need to do is sit this guy down and tell him the truth and stop seeing him, I am sure you do not want him to get locked up which is what is going to happen if it gets back to the police that you two are together.
2007-02-03 12:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, please tell him your age. If you don't want to tell him your age at least end your "relationship" with him.
I have an almost 11 year old and I would be horrified if an 18-year old thought that she was 16 and able to have a child with him!! I have also seen my father go to prison for being accused of having a sexual relationship with an under age girl.
You cannot ruin your life and you cannot ruin his life. You can change your life. You obviously know that you need to turn your life around and you can do it if you stick in at school and improve your grades.
I tell my children that it doesn't matter what they do for a living as long as they are happy and I truly don't believe that you are happy now and you certainly will not be happy if you go ahead and have a baby with this "man".
You have your whole life ahead of you to find someone who will love and respect you for who you are and what you are about. This will be when you should think about having babies, not while you are a baby yourself.
Tell him your age and get out of this relationship now. You are too young to love someone enough to last a lifetime, but if you do, the feelings will still be there in 5 years time when it will be LEGAL for him to have a relationship with you.
2007-02-07 08:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dirty Blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right first of all your 11 you shouldn't be having sex. And as for him wanting a baby at 18, its not unheard of but it is too young. Id tell him the truth or if i couldn't bring myself to do that then find another reason to break up with him or if your wanting to stay with him but just not have a child then just say u don't want to have children yet. If he doesn't understand then finish him. There's plenty more fish in the sea!! You might of had a shitty life up to now but trust me if you go ahead and have a child at your age or even in a few years it will only get worse.
2007-02-06 05:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, and you are only eleven, then what you're doing is illegal, if you are indeed having sexual intercourse with an eighteen year old.
You need to tell him that you're eleven, and then get some help - without him. After what you've been through, you need to be in some sort of counseling. You need to resolve your own issues and become an adult before you even think about having a romantic relationship or a family.
Do you have a legal guardian? Are there any adults that you trust, meaning friends' parents, teachers, etc?
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-03 10:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Smurfy Keeps Going and Going 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, this is illegal. Secondly, I'm glad to hear that you know you're too young to manage having a child. He might be sweet, but what you feel for him at 11 is a whole different world when you become older. You've come to realize that your life was problematic.... straighten it up. Realizing it is the first step. Tell this guy that you want to break up, you're not ready to handle a child (and at 18, he's probably not ready either even though he might think so). Date boys your own age, they'll grow up eventually. Don't have a boyfriend for a while... let yourself enjoy the age you're at. You'll be an adult for a LOOOONG time, enjoy your childhood.
2007-02-03 10:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only 11 and are trying for a baby are you for real ? Your still a baby your self if your having sex with your boy friend and the law find out he'll go to jail for child abuse,What made him think you were 16, You need to tell him your real age then go and talk to someone like a teacher and tell them what your going through you should be mixing with kids your own age and having real fun not worrying about babies at your age.
2007-02-06 03:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this one is off the scale even by my easy going standards... And think its a wind up...
However if serious what you are feeling is the need for love as lonley and a baby sont help it would just mess you up far more then you can ever imagine at this age, and get him arrested ... judges may allow down to 14... but 11 he would be jailed and the other inmates would try and kill him and you will ruin his life.
2007-02-03 14:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be with a 18 year old anyway. You should be in foster care. Your boyfriend deserves to know he's dating an 11 year old. He can go to jail if he has sex with you and I'll bet he'll be mortified to find out he got an 11 year old pregnant. That's not fair to him at all. Tell him your 11 and leave him alone.
2007-02-03 11:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him i think u should really tell him the truth starting with your age. because he is looking at jail time and if you love him you don't want that. then tell him that u can't support a baby right know maybe later . right now u need to be working on skool and your grades the dude will always b there for you if he loves u. but let him know the truth because that is only for the best for the both of yall if it is suppose to be it will so don't worry age is not a problem me and my bf have a age gap and now we are looking at happily ever after he asked me to marry him and things we be alright 4 u trust me
2007-02-03 10:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by m. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋