My fiance has a child ,what they want for child support leaves us with no way to sustain ourselves.?

Question

is there anything we can do? We are only 21 and we want to have a life together, all the money to child support almost leaves us on the street. Does anyone have any advice

Answer 1

See if you can get the child support lowered.

Answer 2

well the honor system works, that's been proven. that is why all of the states and federal government passed such strong laws; they are all not tired of people not paying for their kids.It keeps child support enforcement people in a job

now you have to pay threw them, because there ordered to.

its hard on no one involved but him; and maybe the child(ren); so we he has to do the best he can with what he has. if there is not enough money, he may need to get another job to pay just the child support. so the greedy hoe can take him back and have it raised

the child support amount goes by what the fathers income is. below is a child support calculator. just click on your state and fill it in. this will let you know if you how your getting screwed.

also, any time there are changes in income you have the right to call the caseworker and ask for a hearing for a review of the case and new child support amount.
But only to have it increased

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Answer 3

What does the court say? You can petition for a lower amount. But, he shouldn't have gotten his ex pregnant. He will have to live with this for years to come. If you marry him, so will you. It's his responsibility. Don't be mad only at the ex. Your guy was a 50% partner in this disaster for an innocent child. That baby didn't ask for this and shouldn't be punished.

When you say you don't have enough to "support" yourself. Is that the basics or are you out spending money on frills? When you get married, they might look toward your income too. I've seen that done in MN and I assume it is the case in other states too.

However, current advice - don't get pregnant! Make sure your fiance stays in that child's life.

Answer 4

Unfortunately not really... theres only one thing, and that means putting alot of time and effort in, and well most dont want to.. if ur fiance has "shared" custody, he can actually see his daughter for a good portion of the year.. if he has her over night for like 40% of the year, (over night) they can cut his child support down saying that the child spends a good portion of the time with u and that u need money to maintain her up keep at ur house.. the only other thing is for "joint custody" which is 50/50 and child support becomes a wash at that point..

Answer 5

well the honor system doesnt work, thats been proven. that is why all of the states and federal government passed such strong laws; they are all tired of people not paying for thier kids.

now they pay, but only when ordered to.

its hard on everyone involved; him, you, the ex, the child(ren); so we all have to do the best we can with what we have. if there is not enough money, he may need to get another job to pay just the child support.

the child support amount goes by what the parents incomes are. below is a child support calculator. just click on your state and fill it in. this will let you know if you are getting a fair shake or not.

also, any time there are changes in income you have the right to call the caseworker and ask for a hearing for a review of the case and new child support amount.

some links to help with questions;

http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html

http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/

http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html

FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/

Answer 6

The courts set the amount based on income received. I can't believe they would leave you not enough to live on. You may not be able to live in the lifestyle you are accustomed to or want, but if BASIC needs cannot be met I can't understand why the courts would set it so high. Petition the court to lower it. Provide ACTUAL housing cost receipts and utilities and pay stubs, etc. to document your case. Also provide car insurance and payments, etc. if you need your vehicle to maintain working. ANYTHING that you need to live or get to work should be applied here.
Needing a phone would be a necessity. Needing 2 additional cell phones would not. Do you see where I am going with ths?

Answer 7

I would first see if their is any way the court will be willing to lower the payment regardless of whatever the mother may be asking. Second I would thoroughly examine your relationship with your fiancee and what you are willing to contribute to the value of it. Consider what type of job your fiancee will be able to obtain to cover the child expenses and his share in your living expenses and how much you are willing to and will be able to to support him in is efforts to maintain a life with you two. Are you willing to work 1 or 2 jobs? Consider will you want kids together, will you be able to afford to care for more children? Consider how loving and respectful you will need to be in a Step Mother role. Consider your goals and ambitions as a young woman. Consider your desires and needs as a wife. Consider how much this man loves you and what your willing to show in return.

Answer 8

The courts base child support on the father's income. If his income has changed then you can petition the courts to have it changed. However, you need to remember it costs a lot to raise a child. This child did not ask to be brought into this world and his father has an obligation to him. If it was your child wouldn't you want his father to help support him?

Answer 9

I believed this is a national problem that nobody wants to tackle. The laws need to change. The amount of support is so great that they do not want the man to have a life after child support. There is also the threat of taking more money if he manages to get on his feet. Maybe, you could write letters to your legislators. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Take it to court. Your fiance's income will be verified and it will go from there as to how much his ex will be getting in childs support. Kids are not cheap. However it is wrong that your not given enough to live off of. You guys need a roof over your heads too.

Answer 11

I have advice for you, personally: think how YOU would feel if your guy left you with a child...and didn't want to give him/her whatever he needed. And think about it really hard before you commit to a guy who is trying to get out of supporting his current child. As my momma used to say, if he does it to the first one, he'll do it to the second. And for him: use protection. Don't make babies you can't afford.