I have recently discovered that an 'friend' of mine has lied to me about almost everything, from her age, to the various reasons she's given me that she's become 'suicidal'. SOmetime last year she started faking depression to get more attention, which I fell for at first but now I know the truth. She found out that I did and at first, just ignored me, then completely ditched myself and the little group of friends I hang out with, and, even though I know it's a bit harsh, I started celebrating, as all her moping was really bringing all of us down. However, after a week, she's trying to come back and be friends again, and, although I really don't trust her, I'm starting to feel bad for being so cruel about her leaving. One of my closest friends is urging me to trying and accepting her again, but I'm not so sure... What should I do?
2007-02-03 09:52:11 · 5 answers · asked by althea_js 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
talk to her....
2007-02-03 11:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sophiaaaaaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i disagree with your friend. you need to move on. if she has been faking all of these things all this time especially the suicide then she has probelms. more problems in fact than i think even the strongest friendship can handle. it is hard to be friends with someone like this. you are right to feel like you cannot trust her. i would feel the same way. you nor any other of your friends will be able to help her with this problem. this is something that she is going to have to work out herself and until she does and becomes trustworthy, then you and your friends are better off without her. don't feel bad, everything happens for a reason. just go on with your life and let her work out hers. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-03 10:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This female needs attention and while she shouldnt have lied to her friends she had a reason. No one can fake being depressed she wanted attention because she isnt getting any and that alone can be depressing. She was down and needed her friends to lift her spirits. Dont be so quick to judge her. See why she is seeking this attention it might be something she feels like sharing with everyone. I see no reason for you to be angry.Your friend needs to seek professional help.
2007-02-03 10:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depressed or not, she has serious emotional problems and behaves badly.
You are a decent person; decent people try to be kind, and they feel guilty when their own behavior hasn't measured up to their own standards. Did she feel guilty for lying and manipulating you?
You are not a therapist and are not qualified to help her. Don't be mean to her, but don't try to solve her problems. This will only prolong the pain. Suggest that she go to the school counselor or another counselor.
If you can tolerate her, it's okay to maintain a casual friendship with her, but don't let her ruin your days.
2007-02-03 10:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends dont lie to you
2007-02-03 09:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by booge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋