what do you think about divorce?

Question

here in malta everyone seems to want or not want divorce in my opinion its something to be left to the indivual what they want or not don't you think

Answer 1

I think it should always be a personal choice. Nobody else walks in our shoes, and can't possibly understand every reason and every choice, and everything that we've been through. If they don't have to see the "real" person that appeared after the marriage documents were signed, then they have no right to judge. We all know that there are lots of things that are done and said behind closed doors that nobody else knows about, or would believe. Whatever the reason (hopefullly not a frivolous one...) is, if someone is miserable in their marriage, then they should be able to ask, and get a divorce without other people saying it's right or wrong.
People change, it's true, but if someone changes into a completely incompatible stranger that abuses, scares you, etc. then divorce should be an option. When you are 20 years old, and agree to marry someone for life, that should not mean that you are agreeing to be abused 1, 2, 5 or 10 years down the road and you have to sit there and take it. No way!

Answer 2

Let me start with the fact that I'm divorced, against my will even.

Can you survive divorce. Certainly, even thrive.

Personally, I think divorce should only be allowed if a faithful spouse wants it.

Allegations of abuse must first be proven. There are too many "barbie dolls" who cry abuse because their husband took away their credit card because they spent more than their husband could make (and he had a $90K+ income, so he wasn't poor)

Yes, many are so abused because they were told no.

The problem is that such behavior makes it difficult for men or women who are really abused.

So when this "abused" woman has an affair (which IS abusive behavior, to cheat on your spouse) she cries that she was so abused and wants a divorce.

No body checks to see if what she is saying is true, because she simply files for irreconcilable differences.

After a couple of years the divorce is final.

Everyone assumes since he's a man, he was wrong, guilty, whatever, she should get the kids, etc.

If someone doesn't love you, you certainly cannot keep them.

However, if either party cheats, and then wants out, they should be free to leave with nothing but what the entered the marriage with. Everything else created or acquired after the wedding day remains with the faithful spouse. This includes property and kids.

If someone wants out, that's fine. They simply cannot take family assets if they no longer want to be part of the family. Nor can they simply say they want to exclude someone else from the family.

If that person is not abusive (based on a profession evaluation and not a bunch of boyfriends or girlfriends or Yahoo Answerers giving their opinions) nor unfaithful, then there is no reason for that person to be excluded from the family.

Currently, there are few if any costs for an unfaithful partner, and especially unfaithful women if they choose to end a marriage.

In fact, it seems the laws reward unfaithful women, especially SAHM's to divorce because they can have 1/2 the stuff, keep the kids and possibly get alimony for breaking her vows.

Answer 3

I agree, divorce should be an individual right, but...some don't have that right. If a man/woman cheats on their spouse and the spouse finds out and wants a divorce, but the cheater doesn't, what to do? If a spouse cheats and finds another love and wants a divorce but the non-cheating spouse doesn't, what to do? What about all the people that don't believe in divorce because of religion, do they continue a miserable life? I think if it cost people (the ones that cheated or abused) everything they owned in a divorce or the ones that just want out, I'm talking cars, kids, money, homes, everything there would be less likely they would ruin their lives just for an affair. This should be stated on the marriage license. If both parties are guilty and children are involved then it should be set in a fund for them and children should be placed in a foster home away from the parents. People today have abused the sanctity of marriage and when they walk away from the marriage complain because of child or spousal support, either lack of or too much. If it was understood before marriage that you stand to lose EVERYTHING if you screw up then more couples would work harder at making the marriage work in the beginning

Answer 4

My opinion is that unless there is abuse or an affair that people should not divorce. We promise to love and honor each other in sickness and health for ever..... and then why does it make it ok to say later down the track .... no i change my mind. We can always work through any problems and come out better for it. Love is not just that romantic carried away feeling that we first have for a person. It is also that friendship, that decision to look out for your partner. Unfortunately people think they have fallen out of love when those "swept away" feelings go.

Thats my feelings on it. Marriages have to be worked on. Every marriage needs work.

Answer 5

i think that divorce isn't a right thing or a wrong thing, its what fits the individual situation. my parents divorced and i'm glad that they did. they weren't happy together anymore. they fought all the time and he was an alcoholic. it wan't good for either of them mentally or for me and my brother. the best thing was to get divorced. they'd been marreid 15 years and had been fighting for the last like 5. i don't condone getting divorced just because two people can't get along or because they jumped into getting married with out living together or feeling the relationship out, but in some cases i really do think that it is best for the sanity of the two involved and any children involved then.

Answer 6

I think for a lot of people divorce is a great thing, if not for divorce I think our homicide rate would increase, if your not happy in a marriage then why should you stay? Even when you have kids and you stay together for them, it's never the same everyone end up unhappy including the kids!! if you are unhappy and know if your hart that things can never be worked then i think divorce is a good thing!!

Answer 7

The person's in the marriage are the only ones that should make that decision since it affects them and their children.No one gets married expecting to be divorced but things can cause a divorce to be necessary over time and for good reason.

Answer 8

That's about it. If it isn't working out and all efforts to salvage it are exhausted why stay together. People need to take MORE time before getting married these days though. Divorce rate is SOOOOO high all over. They think they know someone, but they don't. Too much in a rush.

Answer 9

I think it is WAY too easy to get a divorce. There should be some type of intervention if kids are involved to make it harder. People get mad at each other and divorce. They get older and decide they missed something in their twenties. Tough. You missed it. You can't get it back. It's not always about being miserable - it's sometimes just lazy.

Answer 10

I think some people that get divorced just give up to easy. Its always easier to walk away than actually stay and work things out.