what should we do first?

Question

hey all,

me and Laura are planning on in the next 18 months getting married and having kids and I am just wondering what everyone thinks we should do first as I have no real idea....we are ready for both even though I'm only 18 and Laura will be in November so don't say anything stupid like don't do either yet as you're to young ok I am just wondering what people think we should be doing first...

getting married or having kids??
and reasons for that.

thanks
MItch

as I say we both know we are ready for the commitment of being married and the stress that kids can bring I am just wondering what everyone thinks we should do first and why.

got the money for everything sorted, its just a case of what we want to do first and I am just seeing what everyone is thinking on this issue

Answer 1

ok, i think that you should get married first. i have to kids out of wedlock and now i am raising them with the help of my parents. i am 24 (i was nineteen when i had my son and 22 when i had my daughter). their father is completely out of the picture(until he feels like he wants to play the daddy role for a couple of hours) i know that marriage now a days is a forever thing but if the two of you get married and then have your finances straight and have a home and understand all that comes with a child then talk about children. i know what it is like to do the whole teen mom/dad role and it isn't easy. if you wait a little longer to have children i can promise you that it will be well worth the wait. you can be just kids for a while longer. if you don't you will get so jealous watching your friends go to parties and to the movies and out to dinner and you can't do that. it is hard to be a parent at any age, but the younger you are the harder it is.

Answer 2

Get married first!! because thats sensible
then wait a few years saving money to buy a home etc &
then have kids

Answer 3

Follow God's law. Get married first and foremost! People change after that paper is signed. After you are married, you may decide that it wasn't quite what you expected. Then if it doesn't work out, no children will be hurt.

Best of luck! :)

Answer 4

well, i think you guys should have a job first ^^, and then, everythings is ok like, have enough moneys and stuff...
and married and the rest u decide ^^
coz, if u guys have kids, u dont want they to hungry or bla bla bla ... even ur wife, right ? ^^
so, get a job first ( if you did got one so ... moneys .... thats the important things for the BIG family :D

Answer 5

get married then have children.
children are a huge responsibility, and should be born into a loving, committed relationship with two parents.
good luck!!!